How many co-sleepers do we have?

Tina - posted on 01/05/2010 ( 135 moms have responded )

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I know, it is a topic we probably do not even talk with our doctors about becaue we would get yelled at, but really how many moms here co-sleep with their little one?

My son is almost 6 months and I have a 8 and 10 year old. I co-slept with all of them until they no longer nursed during the night. I get so much more sleep then having to get up, and my little one goes back to sleep easier. After how well it worked with my first daughter, I didn't think twice about it with the others. It works well right now because my husband works 3rd shift. I made my daughters' dad sleep on the couch. lol

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Veronica - posted on 01/07/2010

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Quoting Andrea:

I co-sleep. I've been trying to get him to sleep in his pack n play, but it usually only lasts a few hours. How did you transition your babies into their own bed. My son is only 3 months right now, but I'd like to know for the future.



I co-slept with my little one for a while - birth to 4 days ago. She is 7 months but the size of a one year old and started kicking me to make sure I was there and my bladder, hips, stomach - whatever she could dig her precious little toes into - couldn't handle it anymore! We had tried to transition her before to her crib but she always cried. This time, I resigned myslf to getting very little sleep the first few nights of trying to put her in the crib and she was a little worried but only for an hour of waking and making sure I was there. (I sat by the crib and held her hand) I never wanted her to cry-it-out, too cruel. She has never had to cry for anything so why start now? So as soon as she whines for me I go to her (hold her, nurse her, rock her with her head on my shoulder) and over the past few days she wakes for shorter periods and sleeps for longer. IT has brought a whole new dynamic to our relationship. I do really miss the sleepy nights of nursing and my angel blinking up at me in the dark. And when we have another one, baby # 2 will be a co-sleeper too.



I also only let her be in there when it is time to sleep. When she wakes up in the morning its right out because you dont want to confuse them sending mixed messages. How confusing would it be if he played in his bed but then you expected him to also sleep there too? A sleep tracker (I found one at trixietracker.com) helps. Trixietracker gives you 14 days free. Long enough to see baby's routine, or lack of one, and help you figure out what's going on. No payment info needed upfront.



i sleep in my bed in the baby's room and DH sleeps in our bed in another room. He works so I don't want the baby to wake him (and he snores so it's a good excuse for me to get more sleep too :) )



Hope I could help Andrea. Message me if you still have problems because I might be able to help more as these days go on. It is trial and error trying to get your co-sleeper to be an independent sleeper. Mine is a very headstrong child and I thought she'd never sleep in her crib but now she wakes only 3-4 times for food or comfort! Good luck mommy,



Sorry so long. :)

Padmini - posted on 01/07/2010

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In india most of us would never even think of putting a small baby in another room. I would never be able to sleep peacefully without knowing that my lil one was safe and sound. my son is 12 months and he co sleeps with us. it is an accpeted practice here and all of us have co-slept with our parents and grown up without any sleep issues.. :D

Rebecca - posted on 01/06/2010

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I co-sleep with my 5 month old. I did with her older brother as well till he was sleeping through the night. I had one of those co-sleeper beds for my son because my mom and gramma had me terrified that my husband or I would roll on him and because he was so tiny (5lbs when he came home and 2lbs 5oz when he was born) But with my daughter I have co-slept with her since she was born. There is nothing bettter than laying in bed with your little one laying next to you nursing while you both sleep! I think that is the way god intended it to be!

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Liwah - posted on 01/09/2010

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I co-sleep with my son since he was born, coz he didn't like sleeping in his cot at all, and my husband squeezes in with us most of the time. Although he has been waking up a lot these past few days which is making me crazy, I hope it's his teething or just a phase and will get back to just waking up once or twice a night soon...

Leslie - posted on 01/09/2010

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I am breastfeeding my 3 month old and he co-sleeps with me. I love it! I don't plan on moving him into his crib. As long as it is good with him then its good with me.

Tara Jill - posted on 01/09/2010

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Hi. I have a son who will turn 8 on 1/15 that I nursed for 18mo, a 5 yr daughter that I nursed for 15mo, and a son born 11/4/08 that I'm still nursing. I've co-slept w/all of them. I have to say that my oldest has been a poor sleeper from birth and I should have put him in his crib sooner. We still have bedtime/sleeping problems with him. I was tougher w/my daughter and put her in her crib after a few months and she's an excellent sleeper. My youngest is doing great. After nursing him, I put him in his crib at about 6:30p.m. He normally sleeps about 6-8 hours b4 waking up to eat. I will bring him to the bed for the middle of the night feeding and keep him there until he wakes up around 7. I kept all of them with me all night for at least the first few months at bedtime bec it's so much easier when nursing. I wouldn't trade it for anything!!

Julie - posted on 01/09/2010

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I didnt start co-sleeping through choice till ds1 was 9 months old but before that he always ended up in bed with us it was where he slept best. He stayed in our bed till he was almost 3 at which point we moved and he slept in his own room. He would still come ino our bed at some point during the night though and still does now (hes just turned 5). My youngest is 17 months and has co-slept from birth and like his brother will until hes happy to sleep alone.

I slept with my parents as a toddler and from the age of 4 - 12 I always slept with one of my siblings. Even now I hate sleeping alone so why would it be different for my children. In contrast dp always slept alone and would be more than happy to have his own room - hes never really gotten used to sharing his sleeping space with me let alone the children.

Jennifer - posted on 01/09/2010

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I kept both my kids in my bed as babies and always let them crawl into my bed when they want. I think a kid who can walk should have their own bed with access to Mom's. My 3 year old son crawls in with me every night in the wee hours. My 19 year old daughter slept between us on Christmas Eve!

Amanda - posted on 01/08/2010

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We do too! My children dont sleep much and its the only way I can cope, I dont think I would get to bed very often at all other wise. Oh yeah and I cant get to sleep with my baby in the other room because I worry too.

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Being an Army wife is almost like being a single parent at times, so I co-sleep with my daughter (who is now 8 months old) when Papa is gone. Right now, he's getting things set up at his new duty station in El Paso, TX where we will join him in a few weeks (YAY!)

I put her to bed in her crib, but she will wake up between 1:30 & 2 AM, so I bring her to bed with me for the rest of the night. Since she is still nursing, we BOTH sleep so much better that way! She usually sleeps pretty well on her own (for the most part) when Papa is home with us :)

Crystal - posted on 01/08/2010

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I have co-slept since birth and still am (baby is 8 half mths) and had originally bought a cot and everything but next baby we are buying a king size bed instead. I love sleeping with my son, and i fretted once when i tried to make him sleep in his cot. Layed awake until he woke and brought him straight back to bed with me!

I would also love my kids to co sleep together once they move out of our bed. It makes so much more sense than being alone in a big bed.

Also co-sleeping is great for when i breastfeed. Why walk the halls to get him every time he wakes i reckon!

Sarah - posted on 01/08/2010

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My four month old sleeps 8-10 hours in his cradle/crib then we co-sleep for all his naps from when he wakes up for his morning feed until he's ready to really ready to start the day around noon. If I wanted more than an hour of sleep the first two months I had to cosleep with him, the second two weeks after he was born in a twin bed at my moms! I'd do it again in a heartbeat but set a goal of three months old for him to sleep most the night on his own. I get a better quality sleep when he's not in bed with me, plus he's a little heatbox when he sleeps so he sweats with the lightest cuddling.

Francesca - posted on 01/08/2010

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I think that this is absolutely wonderful to know that I am not alone. And that a lot of other mothers have choose to speak out! Thank you.

Anne - posted on 01/08/2010

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We've coslept with our daughter since she was two months old. It's one of the best parts of being a mother... waking up and seeing my baby's snoozing face just inches away from mine. ♥ it.

Laura - posted on 01/08/2010

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We have almost since day one. After I had to go back to work it was just to hard to get up 4 plus times a night to nurse. My little girl is almost 11 months old and when she goes to bed for the night I put her in her crib, but if she wakes up she gets in bed with me. I love cuddling her.

Susan - posted on 01/08/2010

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Cosleeping with my fourth now. He's 2 mos. I was thinking the other night about how the attitude has changed. When we coslept with the first two (now 9 and 5) all of the folks against cosleeping seemed to focus on how the kids would never learn to sleep on their own (they do) or my husband and I could never have alone time (two more kids disproves that as well). Starting with my third (she's 2), suddenly people respond immediately with how dangerous it is... SIDS and such. With my fourth, the hospital made us sign a form that we had been informed of the dangers of cosleeping! Any long term cosleepers see a similar trend?



Anywho, love snuggling with nursing baby and will miss it when the youngest eventually goes off to his own bed.

Amanda - posted on 01/08/2010

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my son is 2 and he still crawls into bed with us every night. I love it and wouldn't change it!

Elisha - posted on 01/08/2010

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we co-sleep. My oldest will be four March 1st and my youngest is 14 months. Both of them have their own bed, that is beside ours, but both still sleep with us. I just want them to have the option to sleep alone if they want to.

Moneque - posted on 01/08/2010

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we co-sleep and we have done it since she was only a few weeks. She is six months now and i am thinking of putting her in her own bed but i get so much more sleep when she sleeps with us!

ME - posted on 01/08/2010

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My son is 23 months, and just starting to sleep in his own bed some times...we are ready for him to move on...but have loved every second of it. I am six weeks away from baby #2, and won't mind a bit if he or she sleeps with us.

Vanessa - posted on 01/08/2010

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We also have a co sleeper my son is 2 and will not sleep in his big boy bed so we have to put him in our bed to fall asleep and then my husband puts him in his own bed after he falls asleep as i am pregnant with our 3rd child and he tends to kick me alot lol but he always wakes up in the middle of the night and comes back to our room. His brother is in the crib he is 11 months old so he does not co sleep with us my 2 year old never did either until he got his big boy bed. I really need to get him used to staying in his own bed with the new baby coming but i have tryed everything and it just does not work.

Aideen - posted on 01/08/2010

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we've had 2! The first moved out to her own room when she was just over 2 years. The second moved in in Feb 2009 and has no intention of moving out for ages. So hand for breastfeeding...can't imagine having to get out of bed!

Jocelyn - posted on 01/08/2010

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We co-sleep! My son is three and he finally got into his own room (but we still nap together lol) and I have 3 month old daughter who sleeps with us. I love it. I don't sleep very well alone and dh works nights :P

Sarah - posted on 01/08/2010

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Did with my first. My second fell off the bed at 8 months. Scared me to death! Never put her or my new baby in bed with me again. Still, I treasure the times I did with my oldest, just to afraid of another accident.

Terri - posted on 01/08/2010

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I recently transitioned my 14 month old into her own bed. I am a singlr mom and it was nice for us. However I would have thought hard about it if I were married. I think it puts a strain on your relationship.

Theresa - posted on 01/08/2010

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I'm a big fan of co-sleeping. As the OP said, it's ALOT easier in the middle of the night to feed if baby's right next to you. It doesn't work for some people, but for alot it's a big help. I personally love being close to my baby at night =]

Jacklynn - posted on 01/08/2010

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I do! My son is 16 months and has been in bed with us from the beginning. I wouldn't change it.

Jess - posted on 01/08/2010

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I do with my 15 mth old, and couldn't imagine it any other way for my baby! He is so much happier waking up and seeing our faces, and can just roll over and nurse when he needs too.

Paige - posted on 01/08/2010

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me and my husband are going to co-sleep with our baby, but differently then most people do. we bought a baby item that allows the baby to sleep inbetween us in a little bed type thing. i won't have him sleep with us long though. Then he goes to the crib! :D lol

Jessica - posted on 01/08/2010

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My daughter and my son were both co-sleepers. I nursed both of them and your right it is so much easier to have them in your bed with you. You sleep so much better. And so did they.

Deb - posted on 01/08/2010

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We have coslept with both of ourchildren. My 7yr old didnt sleep in a crib at night untill he was 1 yr old. My 3 1/2 month old doesnt even have a crib! I am also a breastfeeding Mom and it is SOOOO much easier to just roll over! Although both of my children started sleeping though the night very early on.I think it has to do with being able to hear/feel Mom and Dad breathe. Every now and again my 3 1/2mo old will wake up during the night to feed, But usually she makes it from 10pm to 7am without waking up.

I wouldnt change sleeping with my babies for the world. There is nothing else like snuggling with an infant! Or a 7yr old for that matter;-)

Mindy - posted on 01/08/2010

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I have seven children. I breastfed them all. I also co-slept with everyone of them. The only problems I ever encountered was my toddlers coming in to sleep with me. I just learned to be a light sleeper and to be aware of where the baby was at all times. I agree when you get very little sleep to begin with co-sleeping did help. But be aware that it can be dangerous. I did buy a bassinet that has a side fold down that you can put right next to the bed for nursing purposes. This worked for me when the toddlers started all making their way to mom's bed. lol. good luck!!

Sarah - posted on 01/08/2010

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Me to with both of my children. With my second I co-slept in Hospital too, which caused a little panic, thankfully it was a very good baby friendly hospital and after the initial flap i got support, just as well as we ended up in SCBU care for 2 weeks...

Jennifer - posted on 01/08/2010

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All 4 of my children have or are co-sleeping with me. Like you said itis easer when nursing.

Nicola - posted on 01/08/2010

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We sort of do a combination of co-sleeping and getting my breastfed son to sleep in his cot. I basically allow him as much independence as he wants in his own bed, but if he gets cranky or is wide awake in the middle of the night, then I bring him into the bed with us. I have been surprised at how well we all sleep together actually...and so long as the necessary safety precautions are taken, I personally feel that it's perfectly OK. Whatever works - especially in the morning when you want to have a bit of a lie-in!

Lucy - posted on 01/08/2010

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I sleep with my 11 months old baby girl.Slept with her since the first day. She only sleeps in her crib during the day to avoid falling from the bed. We are both happy coz its working for us.

Brenda - posted on 01/08/2010

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Not only a cosleeper but completely crib free. (Just started a group for people like me, called Cage Free Babies, hint hint). My now eight month old is still sleeping with me, and we will continue to cosleep. My four year old is still in the family bed as well until he is no longer "scared" to sleep in his room. I didn't cosleep with my first and let me tell you it has been the best thing I've done this time around. I used to wake up and get out of bed during the night just to check on him. Now, with my little guy I just reach over and check. Big fan of Dr. Sears and Dr. McKenna these days as well as Dwyer. I'm also a proponent of cosleeping education, specifically that it is much safer than doctors want us to know, and because due to research out now by the aforementioned doctors, looks like might prevent SIDS. :)

Darylann - posted on 01/08/2010

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I agree with you, it is so much easier during the night to have your baby right next to you instead of getting up to get them out of the crib when they cry to eat. By that time they would be wide awake, so it would take much longer to get them back to sleep, where when they are sleeping right beside you, you can just feed them right away, and back to sleep they go (especially for the breastfeeding moms). Not only is is convenient, it is good for the baby too. I HIGHLY RECOMMEND EVERYONE TO READ THE INFO ON THIS WEBSITE: http://askdrsears.com/html/7/t071000.asp
Nobody I know is really an advocate for co-sleeping, in fact most people don't really agree with it, so when I found this website I was glad. It made me feel good about the decisions I was making and more confident in myself as a mother. ***The only time I would not recommend co-sleeping is when you have been under the influence of alcohol or any other drug, for the fact that you may sleep heavier than normal which could put your baby in danger.***

Beck - posted on 01/07/2010

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We co slept until my little man was 6mths old. It was no longer working for us as he was waking over 45mins-hr and feeding many, many times though out the night. We started a day / night routine and he went to sleeping in his bed with no feeds at night. I miss him like CRAZY in our bed. However now he is 10mths (and a lot bigger) and used to sleeping in his cot he doesn't sleep really well in our bed anymore! Occasionally he will come in for cuddles and I LOVE IT! Its the most lovely feeling having them close to cuddle to. I am looking into a co-sleeper cot, the ones you attach to the side of your bed for the next bub.

Jaime - posted on 01/07/2010

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Definately!!! And I will recomend it to every woman I meet, and my doctor knows, (although he says that my son would eat more during the day if he slept in his own crib). But who cares!!! I love that my babies are happy, and I don't have to get up except for the diaper changing. My kids dont cry to sleep, and are and have always been very happy babies. Also all the moms i have talked to that breastfeed and cosleep are more successful at breastfeeding than the moms that are totally against cosleeping.

I love it!! And I am not ashamed to say that I don't own a crib! And BTW, my husband sleeps with us, and we have a very healthy sex life (7+ a week). I joke and say that if I get pregnant again, the only thing we will have to buy is a king size bed. LOL

Francesca - posted on 01/07/2010

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I co-sleep. I have been co-sleeping with my 8 month old daughter since she was 5 weeks old. The health nurse who visited me after being discharged from the hospital encouraged it. My doctor praised the decision.



More and more doctors are being enlightened by the research that is popping up through Europe.



http://www.beststart.org/events/detail/b...



It works great for our family. And we wouldnt have it any other way. :)

Kimberly - posted on 01/07/2010

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Guilty as charged. My 2 year old still sleeps with us. I too enjoy having him so close. We are trying to get him into his own bed now, starting with naps and hope to eventually get him in there during the night. We also have a 5 month old but I've kept her for the most part in her cradle next to the bed until the 5 am nursing and then she joins us for the rest of the morning.

Victoria - posted on 01/07/2010

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thats exactly how i am! i co-slept with them both right out of the hospital. I got yelled at a bunch of times at the hospital, but I didn't care. It's a bond and, you're right, it's so much easier in the middle of the night. I say, as long as you feel safe, it is safe. They say it can cause SIDS but then they say they have no clue what it is or what causes it. If there are no other factors that cause SIDS, you're fine. You're mom, do what is right for you and your family.

Samantha - posted on 01/07/2010

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In other rooms....or when my DD was still in her cradle...she was put in there, and we prayed she'd stay asleep....LMAO. But yeah, you become creative...Shower....kitchen....livingroom.....LOL

Skittles - posted on 01/07/2010

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I am both by choice and not. Being that my kids are abit older and Ih ave been trying to get them to sleep in thier beds before the baby come but they have a different idea lol. By the mid of night they are all in my bed and its not a big one and they are kicking the heck out of me OUCH! Thank god they are cute haha but I do hope they sleep in their beds soon since I am getting big and am not very comfortable these days.

Eartha - posted on 01/07/2010

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We co-slept with my son untill he was about a month then my significant other (strongly) suggested he start sleeping in his own bed (in his bassinet in our room), and he has taken to it well. He has a 9 pm bedtime and he sleeps untill 9 am (an he is only 5.5 months old). I slept with my mother untill I was fairly up in age, and he did not want my son to do the same thing! We are very young, and we like to be intimate (alot)...so my question is...how are you guys intimate with a baby in the bed?

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