I hate breast feeding! I just want to stop!

Angela - posted on 02/04/2009 ( 27 moms have responded )

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I hate I hate it I hate it! I hate the way it feels! I hate that it takes so long! I hate that I can't go anywhere! I hate pumping! I hate leaking all over! I hate always wondering if she is getting enough and if my supply is still enough or if it is getting smaller. I hate analysing everything I do to see if it will affect my supply.

I really thought I would like this but I obviously don't. I don't know what to do. I know it is what is best for her and my family will all be disappointed if I stop. Plus I will feel like a huge failure but I HATE IT. I have endured for 8 weeks and now I want to stop. I want to cry half the time because it is taring me up inside. I don't know what to do!

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Heidi - posted on 02/06/2009

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If you truly hate it, don't keep going. The baby can feel the emotions you are having and will eat less at each feeding and in turn need to nurse more frequently. I have been nursing my baby for 11 weeks and everytime she goes through a growth spurt I want to give up to because I feel like a human pacifier.



My hormones just started settling down and I still get days that I want to cry while I am nursing her. To sway the emotions, I drink 1-2 bottles of water each time I feed her keeping my attention on finishing those bottles and getting the water I need to produce enough milk. Now that I am a little more comfortable wtih it, I can watch TV and feed her. I know it sounds ridiculous that drinking water helped, but that is really the only way I got through it.



In the beginning my husband took 3 weeks off with me so we agreed I would pump two bottles everyday so he could feed her before bed and then in the middle of the night. She was getting up every 2 hours to feed in the night and I was getting so frusterated because I didn't get any sleep literally. I would just fall alseep and she would start screaming again to get up and eat. Once we started giving her a bottle before bed(around 9:30 or 10) she would make it until 3 or 4 in the morning. It was a huge relief.



I also went against all lactation consultants advice and gave her the pacifier right away, even in the hospital. Yes we got grief about it, but I don't think I would have made it if we didn't do that. Some babies just need to suck and not necessarily eat everytime they have that urge. You know your baby and if you think a pacifier will help, use it! If I would have not used the pacifier, I would have felt "trapped" because nobody could help out and I could have never left her. I still haven't left her, but it is nice to be able to walk around the mall and not worry where I am going to go the minute she fusses.



The more you stress about if she is getting enough, the less she will get. The doctor ordered me to pump only to make sure she was getting enough and that stressed me out. It made me feel like I was starving my kid and that I was a horrible mom. Once I started stressing I noticed a huge decrease in supply immediately. The first day I pumped I would get 7oz and in just 3 days, I was down to only getting 4 oz. I made a decision to switch back to nursing her instead of pumping and she is completely happy now.



I do supplement one bottle of formula a day still to make sure she isn't going hungry. At night she likes to feed WAY more often and I will feed her around 7 and then she'll be hungry again at 8 or 8:30 so I will supplement then with a bottle of formula, then she'll feed again at 9:30 or 10 and I nurse her that time and just this week she started sleeping from 10-6. The thought of supplementing made me feel like a failure at first, but now if I am out and about and no discrete place to feed her myself, I will mix a bottle of formula and pump when I get home. It makes me a lot happier being able to go out and not think twice about what time I need to leave to make sure I can get home before she starts screaming to feed her.



If you decide to stop breastfeeding congratulations on how long you made it. If your family gives you a hard time, make something up like the doctor said it was best if I stopped because my supply was running low. I don't condone lying, but I do know that when it comes to my baby, my mother thinks she knows best, when I know I understand my baby better than anybody.



If you decide to keep trying and are worried about the supply there is a product called More Milk Plus made by MotherLove and it is used to increase supply and tissue that produces milk. I took it for 3 days and I only took one pill a day and it made a huge difference. You are supposed to take it 4 times a day, but the way I felt after just my first pill there is no way I could take it 4 times a day.



Good Luck!!!

Jamie - posted on 02/05/2009

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If you really hate it and want to stop then stop, you dont want to regret doing it or your baby.  If you are just frustrated because its not going smoothly and you do really want to breast feed, then you need to get some help and some support.  I only made it 6 months with my first and was so sad, felt like a failure.  With my second i was determined to make it.  Let me tell you it wasnt easy the first few months.  I wanted to quit almost everyday until, FINALLY.... it was easy. (around 3 1/2 mo.) She spit up all the time got thrush it was terrible, but i am so so glad that i stuck with it.  It was one of the best experiences as a mother that i have had.  I recently just weened her at 20 months.  It you want to talk go ahead and contact me with any q's you may have, would love to help. What ever you decide good luck.

Jillian - posted on 02/06/2009

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Awww Sweetie!!! Listen you have done so good for sticking with it for 8 weeks. Don't feel like a failure. If you feel like you need to stop, then stop. I remember my with my first baby i felt uncomfortable nursing because we are a busy family and always out and about, and i didn't like to nurse in public, so that meant finding a hiding place, or doing the whole pumping thing. i don't know what happened but this time around my baby is a great nurser and things are so easy. But don't feel bad about stopping, how you feel your baby doesn't make you a good mom, how you LOVE and CARE for your baby makes you a good mom. you are a good mom!!!!!

Barbara-Anne - posted on 02/06/2009

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I didn't like it in the beginning either, but after the first couple months everything got better...and in the end the baby needs to get fed. I know breastfeeding can be a pain in the beginning, but it gets better whereas formula is always a pain...bottles to lug and sterilze and heat...If you can make it until things regulate you'll see an improvement in the sort of problems your having.

Rosa - posted on 02/05/2009

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I guess my question is did you think something different about nursing versus reality? Reality is different then thought. I have and still nurse my youngest and I nursed his two older sisters as well. I used to cry when Belle would latch on she cracked me so bad, she was a barracuda sucker and trust me you don't want that even though she got done fast I was in pain for many months and I learned so many thing through trial and error, dissposable pads are AWESOME!! and I slept 24/7 with a bra and pads for many months because of let down, didn't like the wet feel and I still don't but it is much better now. I choose to nurse because we couldn't afford formula even though we where on WIC, that only pays for some of the formula and some of the stuff I heard about formula made me think twice. You are not a failure you have a grazzer and my second one was like that and it drove me nuts!! and she took FOREEVER with nursing, but she got better as she got older especially when she discovered the world. You need to stop worring about supply, and your breasts getting smaller they do get smaller as your baby goes on with nursing they adjust to your babies needs, just eat a well rounded diet and drink plenty of water so you don't dehydrate, your supply adjusts. I find it frustrating and great at the same time when we go places because of lack of places to nurse, the car works great you can listen to tunes while nursing, you don't have to worry about fixing a bottle in the middle of the night, you just grab and doze, no keeping bottles and formula when you go out and if you go somewhere you don't have to worry about running out of formula,(like running into old friends and you want to visit longer, something holds you up somewhere and you just feed your last bottle, etc...) What it boils down to the choice is up to you and you alone. If you decide not to nurse anymore expect alot of discomfort while your body reasorbs the milk, and feel great in knowing that your got your little one off to a great start in this world. I just read your post to my hubby and he said that was you Rose, she has Post partum depression talk to your doctor or midwife. He is right, that was me to a good degree. Call your doc first before you quit, I was and still am on antidepressents and it never affected my flow. Good Luck Dear !

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Pamela - posted on 02/06/2009

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I hated the first couple of weeks aswell but ended up loving it now. I found it took a shift in mind set between your breast being a sexual object and now its used for feeding. Also, I asked my docter to give me something for post-natal depression which helped LOADS with the emotions I was going through!

Erica - posted on 02/06/2009

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{HUGS} The first two months are rough, but if you stick to it, it will be easier in the long run! Your child will be very healthy! My 13 month old has NEVER EVER got sick! Also, buy nursing tops! You will find it SO easy to nurse in public if you buy a couple nursing tops. Wear a nursing shirt or cami underneath a zip up hoodie, and you have all the coverage you need! Keep your chin up girl, it will get better! Right now the best thing about nursing my daughter, is when she is running and falls or something-I nurse her and the sadness is over INSTANTLY.

Jessamy - posted on 02/05/2009

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You know, i felt the same way.. I felt bad that i wasn't feeling the way i was meant too, i felt i had to do it coz everyone said breast is best ( i now know its not, its only best if its the best for you...) my mum was telling me from day one that i had to do it, i had all this presure on me, AND BEEN A NEW MUM YOU DON'T NEED THAT BULLSHIT.... i stoped breast feeding when my son was 8 weeks old, my mum came over this day with bottles and formula, that first feed was heaven, he slepted for 8 hours and i had me time for the first time in 8 weeks.. my husband got to feed out son.. everyone will tell you what is right and what you should do... But you know yourself, you know your son, don't listen to everyone.. Do what is right for you and your beautiful baby...

Michelle - posted on 02/05/2009

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I'm with Christine... 'your baby needs a happy mama'! 



Do what feels right, not what the books say.  Every mom is unique and every baby is unique.  Your baby needs your love... whatever your way of giving your child the most love is is the right answer for you.  If you are begining to resent your child stop breastfeeding. There is nothing wrong with formula and, you have already given your babe eight weeks of milk... that is a huge gift.  You should not feel guilty if you stop nursing. 



I have been nursing my first baby now for 3 1/2 months and, it is not easy.  I am taking it one day at a time and still shooting for a year knowing that once we introduce solid foods he will nurse less frequently but still... it is not easy.  



It is your body - make the choice that is right for you!  You have given your baby life and 8 weeks of milk.  Now, she needs you; all of your love and as much happy as you can give her.

Cristalle - posted on 02/05/2009

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I've only been breastfeeding for like 2 1/2 weeks but I feel exactly like you! Its encouraging though to read all the replies to your post and see that I'm not crazy to feel this way & I'm not the only one. I hope things get better for you & sorry I didn't have anything really to add here.

Kasey - posted on 02/05/2009

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Wow 8 weeks, u r doing really well, with my first baby i only feed her for 6 weeks so u r doing well. i'm now feeding my 6 month old son and the first few weeks is always hard but if u do keep at it it will get easier. Don't feel like a failure because you need to do what is best for you and baby!!! either way breast or formula as long as baby is happy and gaining weight then you should worry. I would say try and stick it out for another 2 months and it should get better. Bub will have a growth spurt at about 12 weeks and then after that feeding should get easier as you know what your doing and so will bub. What ever you decide good luck and remember as long as baby happy then you are definitely not a failure ok.

Christina - posted on 02/05/2009

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I hated it in the beginning as well. All of my friends babies are formula feed and i am the only one who is breastfeeding. They would tell me about their babies sleeping throughout the night and being feed every 4 hours during the day. Meanwhile I had to wake up 2 or 3 times a night and feed my daughter every 2 or 3 hours a day.I also hated it that every night I was the one who had to get up and feed her and my fiance could still sleep. With formula feed babies the parents can take turns. I was very frustrated and it seemed like no one could help. My nurses just said,"deal with it". They didnt give me any encouragement to stick with it. Then one night i was at someones house and i had pumped some milk and noticed that she slept longer. I found that if I pumped milk for her last feeding before bed, then she would sleep through the night.



I was also worried that she wasnt getting enough because there is no way to measure it. So i would go to a breastfeeding clinic and get her weighed every week. Babies are suppose to gained 4-8 ounces a week. My daugheter was under 5 perential for her 2 month vacinations and i had to go see my doctor but the doctor wasn't worried. She said that breastfeed babies tend to be leaner.



Breastmilk is the best milk for your baby. Trust me...it does get easier! I found that i struggled a bit for the first 3 months but after that it was a breeze. My daugheter is now 5 months old and it only takes about 15-20 mins to feed her. It used to take a hour or more.



I wish you all the luck with whatever you decide!

Tiffany - posted on 02/05/2009

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It seems that you have gotten a lot of supportive advice. I would suggest that you talk with a lactation consultant or your local Le Leche League. They can offer you knowledgable assistance that may make it easier for you, showing you different positions to nurse in, for example. They can also give you the "your not crazy" support that every new mother needs. It is very difficult, especially the first three months, and a support group would really be beneficial to your sanity.



As far as nutrition goes, nothing is better for your baby than breastmilk and as long as your baby is gaining weight then she should be getting enough to eat.



Best of luck!

Lorilynne - posted on 02/05/2009

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I know that feeling so well.  I was determined to breastfeed my daughter but looking back, I really was not prepared to do it.  A lot of the information I had was just wrong (I was encouraged to make sure and feed for at least 10 minutes on each side at each feeding and do so every 2 hours...etc.  After about 3 months of torture, I learned that feeding on demand is best and to always make sure and empty one breast before switching to the other.  This way baby is getting to the hind milk and feeling satisfied for longer.   It doesn't really matter how long they eat for and stressing about feeding every 2 or 3 or 4 hours was just too much pressure.  As long as the baby eats when she is hungry and seems satisfied at the end of each feeding and has plenty of wet diapers daily, then your baby is getting enough to eat).  I always felt like I had to time my outings around my daughter's feeding because I was too shy to nurse in public.  One time, I had to do it, we weren't going to be home for awhile and she was hungry right then.  I just tucked a blanket over my shoulder for our privacy and got over my shyness.  It wasn't about anything but her hunger and once I got over that first public feed, I never felt tied to the house again.  I still use a cover because my kids get too distracted to eat in public and it makes me more comfortable.  Breastfeeding also takes lots of support.  Have you looked into La Leche League?  They have meetings and I guarantee you, you can find someone that is going or has gone through what you are going through. 



It does get better.  Once your baby gets more proficient at feeding, she won't take as long to eat and she won't feed as frequently.   I breastfed my daughter for 11 months (she weaned herself when I was pregnant with my son) and I am so happy that I stuck with it.  I'm now breastfeeding my son and it was soooo much easier this time around. 



If you ultimately decide to stop breastfeeding, don't feel guilty!!  I am a huge breastfeeding advocate but I also know that a happy Mommy makes a happy family and if its just too much for you, it may be time to stop.  Its not going to benefit anyone if you are stressed out and unhappy all the time.  You have to make the decision that is best for YOU, not your family. 



I want to encourage you to stick it out, just because I think later, you may wish that you had but I don't want to encourage you to be unhappy.  Argh!  I wish you were my neighbor so I could help you and encourage you!!  La Leche League, La Leche League, La Leche League!!

Cecile - posted on 02/05/2009

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i know breastfeeding can be challenging but hang in there. i breastfed my child for 3 years, she's now 9 and the health benefits plus the closer bond we share are priceless. it's hard in the beginning but you'll soon get the hang of it, i found it easier to train my child to sleep all through the night because of breastfeeding.

Hannah - posted on 02/05/2009

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My son is now 9 weeks and has been breast fed exclusively, similiarly I thought I'd enjoy it but I don't really. I find making sure I have something to do while I'm feeding helps, having tv remotes nearby, eating my meal whilst feeding, reading a book, having laptop on, doing finances anything I can that takes away from feeling like I can't get on with anything.



As for your supply are you having your baby weighed regularly because if she is making good progress with her weight gain then you needn't worry about your milk supply it's obviously ok.



And try and build up your confidence to feed when your out, start by doing at friends and families homes then build up to elsewhere. It is nerve racking to start with but you can do it discreetly by draping a cloth over your shoulder while you get yourself out and just nudging it to one side once you have baby in position so there's only a brief moment when baby's latching on that anyone might catch a glimpse. I worried when I started doing it in coffee shops that people might say something but they never have. If you can get out and about you'll probably feel better.



Just remember you've done really well and your baby has had the best for 8 weeks there would be no shame in giving up now! It's not for everyone and your not on your own, don't beat yourself up over it. The happier you are the happier your baby will be. Good luck!

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Yes, if you are really that unhappy you should stop.  If you continue you may start resenting your baby.  It's far better to stop breastfeeding.  Those first weeks/months are really difficult.  Most of the time if you stick with it you'll be happy you did, BUT if you truly hate everything about it you should stop.  You have to do what is best for you and your baby.  If you truly hate it do stop.  You don't want to look back at the first few months of your child's life and say that you hated it.  The first few months especially are filled with a lot of breastfeeding.  Your baby is probably going to nurse nonstop a lot.   I have many wonderful memories of breastfeeding my daughter.  Memories that I will always cherish and I want that for you.  If you can't make those memories breastfeeding you should stop. 

Jodi - posted on 02/04/2009

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Hi Angela......I am so sorry to hear that you are frustrated by your breast-feeding experience! I know that it can be difficult at first but the reward is worth it in the end if you are able to stick with it! All the issues you are concerned or upset about are normal but I wonder if you have thought about talking to someone about post-partum depression as well?? I loved the times I just got to sit and do nothing while I nursed!! Matter of fact I looked forward to it! It was just our time with no interuptions and no guilt because I wasn't cleaning!! I nursed my daughter for 2 years!!! And I cried when she came up to me on her second birthday and said "No more kee-kee mommy".....With all that said though I have to say that if you are truly unhappy nursing than you should stop because that is no good for either of you! Those moments should be treasured, loved and enjoyed NOT hated!! Talk to your doctor, your daughter's doctor and/or a le leche member!! You need support!! And NEVER feel guilty!! You tried and that is more than most people do!! Your daughter is so much better off for it!!

Wendy - posted on 02/04/2009

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Hey Angela;

I say, if you decide to stop the main thing is, DON'T FEEL GUILTY! Yes, there are a ton of benefits, but I know a lot of formula fed babies that are JUST as healthy-if you can't do it, you can't do it, and that's ok...but you need to feel ok about it-guilt is an empty emotion as far as I'm concerned-it doesn't do anyone any good-you have to do what is best for you, which ultimately, is best for your baby right? Our babies are the same age and I can understand how you feel. I am lucky that I enjoy it. There's no SHOULD or SHOULDN'T here though. Just either you DO or DO NOT feel however you do. I'd say though, seeing a lactation consultant before scrapping it. If you hate how it feels and are anxious etc. La Leche League or something else might have some tips to make it better. That's the only suggestion that I'd have...other than that, it's your decision alone-who cares what anyone else thinks, it's not their call.

Billie-Jo - posted on 02/04/2009

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Hi Angela



I went through the same things that you are going through I chose to stick it out for 3 months then see how i go reason being it takes about that long to get the hang of it.



In the begining i had cracked niples, my milk didnt come in for 5 days, i felt as tho i had not enough then with support of others who have breastfed i got through it.



then came stage 2 at 6 weeks when i thought it was all rosie my girl started feeding frequently and once again i was beside my self. it lastet 48hours. People that dont breast feed just dont understnd how draining and emotional it is, thats why support is a really big factor.



ok then we got to stage 3 at 12 weeks and once agian feeding ever 30 to 60 min which also lated for aobut 48 hours.



these were the biggest hurdles and thru the whole time yes i leaked and felt as tho i didnt have enough milk.



The advice i was given is too eat enough food take vitamins and drink plenty of water also to persivere (and to here that word was like a knofe going thru me sometimes)



I cried I screamed but eventually it reall does settle down and get a hell of alot easier. I have been feedin now for 7months and i dont leak anymore and i dont worry if shes getting enough or not coz she is healthy and with in her weight range.



if u have a crying sleepless baby it usually nothing to do with your milk supply the only time you should worry is if ur baby stops gaining weight.



Also things you dont get tuaght in your bf classes is that they can have slow weight gains, they might not poo for up to a week wich is all perfectly normal.



My support group is my mum she has 8 kids (she bottle fed so she wasnt able to help with bf) my partners mum and aunty they are nurses and midwifes so i was quite lucky but...



in saying that their opinions can be overwhelming and some werent rite for me. I was given a book called BABY LOVE by Robin Barker it really is my bible.



This book gives you info from both sides and then the authors opinion and ending with "you are the only one who can make the decision for your child u do whats right for your situation" And to read those words I then hve no bad feelings if i disapoint someones opinion/advice.



I hope my rambling has helped you in some way its your decision u do what u want to do coz at the end of it if ur not happy and stress free your baby wont be they take everything in. Also all the stress you are going through will lower your supply so my advice is make the decision fast on what you want to do so your bub is getting the stress free happy mum.



If your going to stick with it u need to get urself into a mind set and get lots of info and maby jion a bf mothers group so u can get thru all the lil hurdles.



If your going to bottle feed dont let any1 tell you off its your child and there is nothing wrong with it. (just alot more work hahaha its easier to flop a boob out at night lol)



Also you can do both give bub a bottle at night so he/she sleeps thru (but sometimes that doesnt work coz the prob isnt food)



it could be reflux,colic ect.



well hope ive helped good luck

Alison - posted on 02/04/2009

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Hello . I just wanted to offer some support. Ive three children. No one warns you how hard the beginning is do they?? With each of mine ive found it so hard, None of my friends breast feed and they think im mad to do it, which isnt helpful. The first 3 months it felt like all i did was nurse. i wanted to stop. The only thing that kept me going was knowing it was best for my child. I failed miserably at pumping!!! With each one though, at around 3-4 months, the intensity of their feeds lessened, they began to smile at me during feeds, and go longer between feeds. At that point i felt so glad id persevered and from there on it was pretty easy. I was able to get out and about so much easier than others, no bottles to lug around, no sterilizing etc.



One thing i did do (for my sanity) is at the weekends when they had there afternoon nap, i would make a bottle of formula and leave my husband with the baby. i would then go to the nearest cafe with a book and have a coffee and read.for a couple of hours, or meet a friend for lunch.It gave me baby free time and a much needed break. Id then go home and if the formula was drunk, so be it!!!! Id pick up on the next feed. Most times they were still asleep!!! Id feel refreshed and that next feed was always a joy!!



Whatever you decide to do, dont let anyone make you feel guilty. Your doing your best!!!!Eight weeks is more bf than a lot of babies get. All id say is try to get to 3 mths because thats when it gets easier and enjoyable.



Good luck!!

Jenna - posted on 02/04/2009

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If you seriously are concerned if your daughter isn't getting enough weigh her right before and right after a feed if possible, and subtract! If you have a place in which you can do this....here in BC, Canada we have public health units that are public facilities that you can weigh your own baby. and talk to specialized RN's.



To be honest I hated it for the first ten weeks, most of the time. Mostly because I struggled with latch issues for that long. Once we had diagnosed his latch problems (overbite), he soon stopped eating for extended periods. The longest he will eat is 12 min between both sides every 2-3.5 hours. He is huge too! Four months now 15lbs 3oz, from 8lbs even at birth.



It will get better. Best wishes and good luck! All my other suggestions have already been said!

Anna - posted on 02/04/2009

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I can really hear your frustration, I'm so sorry you are having such a hard time!  This is suppossed to be one of the best and most memorable times of your life.  People will say stick with it, it gets better, and for me it did.  It was hard at the beginning, and is 1000 times better now, but that is my situation...everyone is different.



I have a friend who looked forward to breastfeeding the way many woman look forward to their wedding.  She knew it was going to be the best and most perfect time of her life, and unfortunately she was wrong.  She struggled a lot, mostly with guilt for wanting to supplement.  She finally gave herself permission to try formula, not all the time, but now and then.  Her little boy is almost a year and he is still breastfeeding and eating solids.  She uses formula occasionally, and I think her supplementing may have lowered her stress enough to actually increase her supply.



I've been pumping at home and at work for about 2 months now, and I went through highs and lows.  Sometimes I didn't mind, and sometimes I was ready to throw my hands up, for me it really has become a routine and is much easier.  This needs to be your decision, and you know what is best for you and your baby.  I am a die-hard breastfeeder, but I know that happy babies need happy mommies, so you do what you think is best.  Good luck!

Renee - posted on 02/04/2009

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Angela, I'm so sorry that you feel like this. I understand your frustration - I have felt all of those things in the past 9 months, so rest assured that you are not the only one. The best advice I can offer is to get some support. Is there a La Leche group nearby? What about your family? You said they'd be disappointed, but can you count on them for support and encouragement to keep going? You need some folks to surround you and listen to you and help you. I wanted to quit so many times, but my husband was so awesome to help me work through whatever problems popped up. 



The first couple of months were the worst by far because of pain and just the whole thing being brand new. But I have stuck with it through going back to work and pumping and herbal supplements and solid foods and the whole thing. It has definitely been a bumpy road, but I had made up my mind from the very beginning (actually before I ever got pregnant) that I was going to nurse for as long as I possibly could. It is this determination that has helped me to keep going.



You need to really ask yourself if this is something you want to continue to do, because I believe it is not something that can be done half-hearted. Of course I think breastfeeding is best for your baby, but a loving interaction with Mommy is also best, and if there is so much hate surrounding breastfeeding for you, then maybe you need to do something different. I wish you the best of luck and I really hope that your family and friends can help you out during this difficult time. 

Christine - posted on 02/04/2009

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Good job for sticking with it for these 8 weeks!!!  You should be proud.  You are not a failure, even if you do choose to switch.  The first couple of months are so hard.  It does get easier.  My son is now 9.5 months, and we have struggled through nursing when he was in the NICU and through his latch problems.  I am so thankful that I stuck with it.  The choice was right for both of us.  With that being said.  Your baby needs a happy Mama.  I support breastfeeding for all of the fantastic benefits for both Mama and Baby, however, you need to have a happy, mutual nursing relationship.  Is there anywhere you can go for support?  

Kirsten - posted on 02/04/2009

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My first 4 weeks of breastfeeding were torture, I cried almost everytime my son nursed because of the pain (and my hormones:) ). It seemed like I was nursing him all of the time and I had to plan my schedule around his nursings. He usually nursed for 30-45 minutes every time. I'll just say, I got a lot of reading done while he nursed :) After 6-8 weeks though, he started nursing faster, and it didn't hurt anymore. That's when I really started loving the whole experience. Now my son is 5 months old and I am so glad he is still nursing. It is so convenient not to have to cart bottles and formula around. I KNOW my body can make enough milk for him, so I just don't worry about that. I used to leak a lot too, but now I only leak a little when he starts nursing and I "let down".



So I would say, stick to it. I'm glad I did! Best of luck whatever you decide.

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