I'm my 26-month old's pacifier

Karla - posted on 05/11/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hello all,
I have an (almost) 26 month old that still nurses to sleep. This is the only time she nurses. I'm at a point where I'd really like to end but she is putting up major resistance to any other methods of getting to sleep. To top it off she is also getting her 2 year molars and waking at night. The only way I can get her back to sleep is to nurse her. I'm okay with continuing this if I knew she was going to self wean within the next 6 months or less but she isn't showing any signs of losing interest. Has anyone else had this issue? For those longer term breastfeeding mommies - did you child ever self wean?
Thanks for your help.

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Holly - posted on 05/13/2011

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((Hugs)) Momma. :) She will self wean eventually :) Many mommas do baby led weaning and their babies are not taking them along to college :) I give you big props for doing full term nursing and I think you are doing awesome :) Even if she isn't ready to self wean in six months perhaps in six months she will be more receptive to some help with weaning :) Molars HURT and nursing probably helps. :( Perhaps some other things that help with the pain might help her not nurse as much? BIG BIG HUGS!! :)

Sammie - posted on 05/12/2011

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It's hard to say, but if your daughter is down to nursing only to sleep, she may very well wean in 6months. My son is 4.5 and he is almost weaned, he nurses every few days, for about 30 seconds, only to sleep. Since you are okay with it for another 6 months, i would just try and wait it out and see if she doesn't wean herself. If not, then you may have to give her a little nudge.
Good luck!!

Taylor - posted on 05/11/2011

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My son is only 11 months but I feel this way too. I'm really tired of being the only thing that can comfort him. I didnt BF my oldest but I weaned him from the bottle by reducing the amount of formula each night for a week. Maybe you could try this same concept by reducing the amount of time you let your daughter nurse. Easier said than done, I know but its a thought. It will be very hard to wean her if she is stressed out right now. 2 year old molars are definately cause for stress. I know you're ready to be done but I'd recommend nursing until those teeth come in and then trying to wean or maybe she will be ready to wean herself by then. Good luck!

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Karla - posted on 05/16/2011

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Thank you all for your responses. I do realize that this time will not last. I will try to reframe my thinking and enjoy it more.

Bev - posted on 05/15/2011

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4 years 4 and a half years and almost 5 years for the kid with food allergies...the first 4 year kid is now 25 nursing her 2cnd child, and going to be an rn the 4 and a half year kid is 14 and is heading towards engineering school, just got excepted in a program that will put her in a 30,000 a year college, and the 5 year kid (WHO HAD A QUESTION OF NOT BEING ABLE TO WALK OR TALK at birth) is 8 doing wonderful ...so yes at some point she will wean...if today were 9/11 would you care how long she nurses.........kiss her forehead the whole time she nurse, and just love her up...mother of 5

Melissa - posted on 05/13/2011

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I don't know if putting a time limit on it would work or maybe try pumping and giving it to her in a bottle or sippy cup and then eventually mixing it a little with milk more and more like 3/4 breast milk 1/4 milk then 1/2 and 1/2 then 1/4 breast milk 3/4 milk i don't know if that would work for you or not. Or putting water in a sippy cup instead since it would be better on her teeth too!

Tuesday - posted on 05/12/2011

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Most likely you'll have to force the issue. My Sister went through this with her middle to girls ( one of whom would threaten her to give up her milk). The other would whip out my sisters breast in the middle of anywhere and start drinking. The first went a little over 24 months; the next went up to 36 months. It's funny now; it wasn't then. They're 13 and soon to be 16 now. I'll pray for you.

Emily - posted on 05/12/2011

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Yes, my child self-weaned, but he was 3 1/2. If you want to go the self-weaning route, (which I highly recommend because it's so easy! lol) you really have to have patience with it. It's not something you can put a time limit on. That's not to say she *won't* wean in the next six months, but if you want a guarantee, I don't think you'll get that. Other than trying to have another person put her to sleep, I would just recommend reframing the way you think about the situation. She's only nursing once a day.. this time will not last forever. From her perspective, Mommy is the source of the greatest comfort.. and that is a good thing. Try to enjoy it while it lasts :)

Heather - posted on 05/11/2011

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My daughter is only 181/2 months but I did have to wean her about 3 weeks ago because I was needing to start taking medication that I could not take while nursing her. She was down to 2-3 feedings a day anyways. The first day was really rough, but we just kept busy and got out of the house so I could keep her distracted. Then at bedtime we made it fun, I made her "hot chocolate" warm whole milk with a sprinkle of baking cocoa and a splash of vanilla. I left her drink it from a mug using a straw and she loved it so much that she drank the whole mug! In doing so she got a tummy full of warm milk, then we went up to her room and snuggled in her rocking chair until she fell asleep, and she slept through the night for the first time in MONTHS! The next morning she didn't even ask to nurse when she woke up! We repeated the same routine for several days and I switched the "hot chocolate" to just plain warm milk without saying anything to her about it. Now after several weeks she is even asking to lay down in her crib before she is asleep and she has slept through the night all except 2 nights, those 2 times I changed her diaper and we cuddled in her rocker about 10min. before laying her back down. In our case she was teething as well but if you can postpone weening until after her teeth are in it may be a lot less stressful for both of you! Good luck!

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