I'm so tired of everyones comments about me still breastfeeding!!!

Dannie - posted on 01/25/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




My son is 19 months and I still breastfeed exclusively from my breast, he never took a bottle... Now he eats a lot of solid foods and drinks juice out of cups but he still wants breastmilk. He won't take cow milk no matter how hard we try... He cries if he doesn't get his breastmilk and he is a stubborn baby, he will cry and cry and cry... So me and my husband decided that he will stop on his own time...Now I'm almost 7 months pregnant... I have been hearing comments since my son turned 1 about me still breastfeeding him and I just ignored it but it's getting more and more irritating!! I hear them the most from my friends who either dont have children or ones that didn't even bother trying to breastfeed. My aunt told me 2 months is too long, Aside from my husband, my mom,my sister, and my in-laws everyone else has always had something to say. My father always has something to negative to input! At the doctor I go to we alternate between two female doctors. One is so excited that I was still breastfeeding and ask was I going to tandem feed and I told her it was based on my son. She also told me it was perfectly safe to continue feeding him. Just last week I went to my doctors for the check up on my pregnancy and saw the other doctor and she was so rude, saying if my son is walking he shouldn't still be on the breast! Well my son started walking at 7 months!! So my mother was upset , (who never breastfed) and told me to change my doctor... It's just beginning to get to be too much!


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Melanie - posted on 01/25/2010




I have four children. My first two I feed for two years each. Number three is now 2.5 & is still feeding. Not as much as she was mind you. I had baby number four 6 months ago & fully intend to feed her until she is two years old. I think breast is best, & if you are able to continue to feed him & you are both happy about it, carry on. I do know people who have feed until their children start school. None of my children have ever taken a bottle, & even now are not fussed on cows milk. You keep going & tell them to mind their own business. As for the doctor, well how rude!!!!

Rebekah - posted on 01/25/2010




For the record it is recommended that babies are breastfed for the first 2 years!! That being said there is absolutely nothing wrong with your son still nursing! My sister breastfed her daughter until she was almost 4 and that was because the baby wasn't ready to quit. She never took a bottle and ate solids at the appropriate times. If I were you I would ignore everyone else and continue to take care of your son! As for the doctor that thinks you shouldn't be nursing still well I would personally change docs but they are entitled to their opinion. That doesn't mean you have to listen to them! Apparently that doc never breastfed or is not educated in the benefits of breastfeeding! Stand your ground and keep on nursing!! If the same people wont stop commenting then just tell them when they have a baby they can do what they want but in the mean time he is yours and you will feed him as you see fit because you are his Mother!! Hope this helps. Good luck

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U breastfeeding ur child until yall r ready 2 stop...No body never say nothing when a woman have a man on her breast.. Tats theway ur son eat.... I say keep don it..

Stevie - posted on 01/25/2010




Congratulations! I breastfed my son until he was just over 2 years old. I started to wean Ethan at 20 months because my fall schedule was going to be including a full day of classes and he was going to child care on campus. A month and a half later he was in the hospital with complications/misdiagnoses of asthma and all he wanted to do was breastfeed since I still was lactating at a minmum the nurses and doctor thought it would be best and within a month of his 2nd birthday he had weaned himself. My advice to you is don't let other people's opinions bother you - I know easier said then done. As long as its healthy for you and the expectant baby, why does it matter? Good Luck!

Jennifer - posted on 01/25/2010




I have told people its my body my decission..With that said no one says anything to my face my family makes comments behind my back but I don't care I am doing what is right for my family and my children. I became pregnant when my daughter was 13 months Dr. said I needed to stop I said I don't think so and if you have a problem I'll find a different Dr. So here I am with a 2 1/2 yr old and a 6 month old and we are a happy tandem nursing family. You need to go with your heart and do what is best for your family and not let anyone else tell you different

Tiffany - posted on 01/25/2010




I say more power to ya. I wouldnt want it to effect him as he gets older because he is in fact a boy but more power to you! He's your child and it is your decision. I however am not breastfeeding my son past a yr but that's my perogative and this is yours. Frankly, Im tired of those who speak negatively of breastfeeding all together, those are the people that make me P.O.'d

Becky - posted on 01/25/2010




Just tell them to shove it! :) Okay, maybe not, but really, why do people always feel like it's any of their business how you choose to feed your baby? I breastfed my oldest son until he was 14 months old and I was 4 months pregnant, and then I weaned because I was too tired - especially because he was still waking in the night to feed - and I was losing my milk. I got a lot of pressure to wean sooner too, mostly from my family, who thought that I might be hurting the baby by nursing while I was pregnant. My dr. never said anything, but then again, I never told him I was still nursing! He's pretty forward thinking though, so I don't think he would've had a problem with it. I understand other people making comments - they're just based in ignorance about breastfeeding, but I'm very disappointed your doctor was so negative about it! It seems a lot of dr's know very little about bfing, and that's really sad. I'm sure many more women would bf, and for much longer, if their doctors could give them proper information and support them properly.

Elizabeth - posted on 01/25/2010




Hang in there! I am a mother of four,all of my children nursed,al for different lengths of time. My Advise is to let it roll. The biggest thing I have learned from bieng a parent is that everyone does it better. Including me. So I try not to judge.Refuse to repeat any judgments I do have,and ask others to offer me the same respect. Doesn't always work,but it helps my attitude a lot. I'm proud of your path,hope all goes well for your family! Good luck!

Kelly - posted on 01/25/2010




i completely understand where your coming from, i have breastfeed all 4 of my children and my 16 month old is still nursing, i was 2 weeks from having her when my son weaned himself, i had planned on tandem nursing and he was 23 months when he weaned, my older two girls weaned themselves also, i don't have any plans on weaning my 16 month old i will let her choose when it's time. I know it's hard to let it go in one ear and out the other, i only had my husband as support for me, the rest of our family feels like they should be off the breast by a year old, at times they would make me so mad i would end up in tears when i was pregnate but i think it's just the hormones! I hope it gets better for you! Breast is always best!! Good luck with the new baby!!

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