I need help weaning my 3 year old toddler from other mums who have been in the same boat

Hammy - posted on 07/02/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




My daughter, aged 3 years and 2 months, is still breastfeeding. I also have a son who is 11 months old and breastfeeding. My daughter had no issues with change of milk taste during my pregnancy or even sharing the milk with her baby brother. I have tried to say no more mummy milk, mummy has boo boo, anything and everything without upsetting her too much or turning it into a power struggle. However nothing works! I am at my wits end! Even at the slightest hint that she will be refused she will wail and carry on and the easy thing is to give in. I am starting to resent it and just need some advice. My husband is next to useless and hardly anyone else even knows she still breastfeeds besides my mother and sisters. They are of the "just say no" school of thought but it is not that easy.

I need to add that I have solely breastfed from my right breast due to various reasons. So both my daughter and baby boy feed from the right side. My right breast is monstrously huge compared to my left and it has milk on tap 24/7. I think stopping the toddler feeding may help it go down somewhat (at least I am hoping). So it is really not doing much for my self-esteem and I need help!

Any advice from mums who have experienced anything similar and how you managed to wean your older toddler will be much appreciated.

Thank you and please no negative comments.


Celeste - posted on 07/02/2012




I'm not sure if it will help your right breast but I can help give you ideas on weaning..

What I ended up doing with my 4 1/2 year old is doing a reward chart. At this point, he was only nursing once a day. So I told him that if he didn't nurse that day, he'd get a sticker on his chart. When the chart was full of stickers, I'd get him a prize. That really worked for him (and he was very attached to his "nah nahs" and if it were up to him, he'd still be nursing at 5 1/2 LOL)

Good luck!


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Claire - posted on 07/02/2012




One sided feeding!! i put a post out a while ago about advice to get my daughter off the boob, people suggested lemon juice and vinegar on nipples but i like celeste's idea - sticker charts are fantastic. Stopping one child and not the other is hard and i would suggest you should give her tons of reassurance that she is still just as loved, maybe switch to a calm storytime just the two of you in place of nursing so she still experiences the bonding. i'm still feeding my little girl as i decided it was society rather than either me or her that wanted to stop, in preparation to stop at some stage i do don't offer don't refuse - my mum is keen to get her off and when she tells her she doesn't want bobo she's a big girl it stresses her out and and she ends up going on more so i think a supportive approach is best. good luck with it and let me know how you get on x

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