i need help with nagging family members telling me to i need to stop breastfeeding my 24 month old

Ashton - posted on 10/31/2012 ( 28 moms have responded )

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I breastfreed my 24 month old son about 3-5 times a day, and everyone in my family except my husband is telling me i need to stop that he is to old, i have tried explaining to them that they recommend a minimum of 2 years and it doesnt help they continue to nag me telling me i need to stop. i just want some support for once.

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Celeste - posted on 11/02/2012

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HOnestly, cow's milk isn't really needed. Cow's milk is for baby cows :)



There's no right or wrong way to nurse. If you're fine nursing 3-5 times a day, there's absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Samantha - posted on 11/15/2012

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Do what you feel is best for your son! And when they give you drama again ask them if they would take away his bottle and when they say no explain to them that you are his bottle!

Margarita - posted on 11/04/2012

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How long you nurse is up to you and your LO. However, you may want to check with your pediatrician about his lack of interest in solids. As I understand it, and your pediatrician will know if I'm correct or not, at this stage of the game, the lion's share of his calories should be coming from solids, and breast milk should be a supplement, for comfort and extra antibodies and such. If he doesn't like cow's milk, there are plenty of other sources of calcium, from yogurt to broccoli and leafy greens. Just make sure he gets plenty of fluids and try to expand on the solids he is eating. It could be a matter of texture, so if he prefers things that are mushy, you could cook his fruits and vegetables, give him pasta, eggs, fish, etc. If he prefers crunchy foods, give him raw crunchy vegetables like carrots, celery, apples, and crunchy proteins like oven fried chicken, etc.



As long as he's not yanking up your shirt and unhooking your bra in public, I don't think it's any of their business. It's probably best not to do it in public, more for the sake of your own sanity than everything as folks who may be cool about seeing a nursing newborn may not be as much with a toddler. Congrats on nursing this long and for continuing to do so. Health is far more important than the approval of others.

Celeste - posted on 11/01/2012

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OH man, I totally understand. My mom and sister ganged up on me once for nursing my twins who were 18 months at the time. They said some pretty stupid things (ie. that my boys were going to get a boob fetish).



I sent them an email and gave them facts and told them not to bring it up anymore.



They got the message. Another thing that helped me was that I know I have medical fact on my side and all they have is their uneducated opinion.

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Ania - posted on 11/16/2012

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I would just send them a group email that tells them your reasons for breastfeeding and how this is your business, and how it is actually beneficial and not harmful to your child. That would be my response

Jessica - posted on 11/12/2012

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I breast fed my 7 year old right up to the legal limit in Vermont...3 years. Try Leleche League. You can not beat them if you want support. They are like an arsenal. I remember one woman talking about her floor step pump that she carried around with her. And their scheduals.

Alisia - posted on 11/09/2012

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It's funny and ironic the things people will say when they don't have much knowledge about breastfeeding. It can be hard to ignore rude comments, but just remember you are doing something wonderful for your son!

Ashton - posted on 11/09/2012

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LOL Thats no big deal, He has very big bright blue eyes and everyone is always sayig what a pretty girl. lol i guess he is just very pretty for a boy.

Celeste - posted on 11/08/2012

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3 months? That's sad. What do they think happens after 3 months? Turn to kool aid??



Sigh, I'm sorry you have to put up with that nonsense. Hang in there and know you're doing the best for your daughter!

Ashton - posted on 11/08/2012

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Well i felt really good about my breastfeeding then my grandfather has a heart attack and we all went to see him and my aunt and her daughter came into my hotel room and the first words out of there mouths was "IS THAT A BOOB IN HIS MOUTH!" I said i still bf and they said thats gross he only needs it for 3 months, i just shrugged it off and kept quiet... This is all very frustrating. I wish my husband was home to help me through all this stress.

Alisia - posted on 11/05/2012

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I know how you feel. Besides my husband, everyone in my family was very rude about me breastfeeding in general and especially when I went past a year with each of my girls. I am the first in my family to breastfeed so it was really hard to have my family nag me anytime I would feed my children. I just ignored them and tried to educate them about breastfeeding. Of course that didn't stop them from criticizing, but now I'm pregnant with my third and they are more open to the fact that I will be breastfeeding again. Now, some family members that are thinking of having kids are even asking me for more info!

Ashton - posted on 11/05/2012

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I am so very thankful to have support from all of yall. My husband recently joined the airforce and he has been gon e for a little over a month. Without him here to support me im very happy that i can come on this site and have tons of support!

I thank every single one of yall.

Jennie - posted on 11/05/2012

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Good for you for continuing this long!!

I have a 23 month old son who is still nursing. Mainly first thing in the morning and before bed at night. However he is also fairly picky about what he eats and how often. I feel comforted that he will still be well nourished as he is still getting lots of his required nutrients from me. He also won't drink whole milk at all; very occasionally chocolate milk but that's it, mainly it's just water, lots of water. As other have said though, children don't actually really 'need' milk and can get their nutrients from food.

I am also 8 months pregnant and have received several comments from family about why I haven't weaned my son yet since I am about to have another baby. My response always is he isn't ready to wean so why should he? I am planning on tandem nursing once the new baby arrives. There is lots of information and research that supports extended nursing, in fact the world average age is actually 4!

I know it can be hard but you need to do what is best for you and your family, not what others think is best. If you need more support you can also check out the La Leche League website (www.llli.org) to find support resources and a meeting near you.

Once again, good for you for listening to what you feel is the right thing for you and you little one!

Sally - posted on 11/05/2012

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Tell them to shut up and if they don't, stay away from them. You are doing what's right for your child and you don't need their ignorance interfering with your parenting. If you think it will help send them the information about how healthy it is.

Good luck

My oldest nursed until nearly 4 and my youngest is still going strong at 3. The only limit I ever placed on either of them was that after they were old enough to eat enough other food, we didn't nurse outside in winter any more.

Ashton - posted on 11/04/2012

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I dont nurse anywhere but at my home, im very modest when it comes to public feeding, there are tons of mom who do it and hey all the power to em im just more of a personal at the comfort of my own home type of a person.

Stephanie - posted on 11/04/2012

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I breast feed my son for 1yr and 11 months and that was only because I was pregnant I dont see anything wrong with ur decision to do so its ur child and it is good for him let them know u will stop when ur ready and to mind their business.

Fit2BMe - posted on 11/03/2012

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About kids and regular milk, or other milks, I find they know their bodies. We tried to supplement with soy milk on a trip once and DS hated it. Turned out he wasn't being picky, he had a soy sensitivity. Likewise with milk. Breast milk is safe, he likes it, so why not go with it as long as you feel to. Then maybe try other milks like almond or hemp milk and maybe it'll go better. Milk in general is over-rated though. Especially cows milk. My oldest son (no longer breast feeding) drinks almost exclusively water with only one cup of hemp milk a day and periodically some carrot juice. He gets all his nutrients from food.

Kids need less than you'd think though. I just find their bodies tell them what they need and don't and what's safe and what's not, and its good to respect that (within reason) and teach them to continue listening to their bodies.

Fit2BMe - posted on 11/03/2012

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Oh come off it! Really? I breastfeed my kiddos until 2 years old and the doctor tells me that its recommended! Baffles me that people take issue with it. You're just fine. Had my son not been so uber verbal and I not succumbing to the pressure I might have let him go longer. He was showing signs of readiness anyway. I think it should be up to the babes. They seem to naturally know when they are ready. My boys are total boob boys. Even my three and a half year old still cuddles up and puts his face in my breast when upset and needing comfort. It's just natural for them. You're doing just fine mom. Keep it up and go with what's best for you and your little one. Remember that many of our parents are coming from a generation where breastfeeding was even discouraged. ( rolling eyes )

Dove - posted on 11/02/2012

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If it were me.... I'd tell them to drop it and if they didn't I'd just stop being around them.



You are doing FINE!! My son was nursing (depending on the day) 1-5 times/day when he weaned at 3 years old. At 2 he was probably nursing at least 5 times/day... and many days MORE. ;)

Ashton - posted on 11/02/2012

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He is a very picky eater, so i feed him at night and when he wants to nap.i have a hard time getting him to eat any regular food and he refuses to drink whole milk, i have even tried chocolate and strawberry milk and he still does not want it. i feed him so many times a day to keep his nutrition up.

Shelly - posted on 11/02/2012

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With each successive child, I nursed longer - the first one for one year, the second 18 months, and the third 2 years. If both of you are comfortable nursing, then that's your decision, and others should mind their own business! By the time kids are that old, however, you probably don't need to be nursing that often, as kids usually are eating lots of other food at that time. It is also a good time to be introducing other foods, including regular milk and milk products. By that age, I was only nursing twice a day, first thing in the morning, and just before bed time at night. That had the added advantage that no one outside the immediate family really knew that I was still nursing, and therefore I didn't get any unwanted comments.



Also, when it does come to weaning, it really doesn't need to be difficult at all. All three of my kids I weaned very gradually, just dropping one feeding every few weeks, and I never had the slightest problem for myself or my kids. I made sure that they had plenty of other "cuddle time" so they wouldn't feel neglected, my body adjusted easily, and I think the kids hardly noticed that they were being weaned.

Tiffany - posted on 11/01/2012

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Well personally I think anything over 2 years is wierd but that's my own personal opinion. Don't let other people stand in your way, do what you feel is best for your children :). I'm at 5 months and going strong but even now I get wierd looks and wild opinions from my family I just tell them tough cookies its my kid not yours! Do what you feel is right and ignore the disapproving looks its not their choice it is yours. Although weaning at any point is difficult but when you choose to stop should be your own choice.

Elizabeth - posted on 11/01/2012

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Keep doing what you want and 4get everyone else. Breastfeeding is healthy for bay and mom. Only u two can decide when to stop. Nursing my 20 month old as I write this.

Kyle - posted on 11/01/2012

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I'm still nursing my 21 month old son and I'm starting to get looks. But I remember caving in with my daughter and weaning her on her 2nd birthday. It was traumatic for both of us. I will nurse this baby until he and I are ready to quit, no matter what anyone else thinks of it. Because in the end, this relationship is ours and the memories of it are ours. I want them to be good ones. Maybe that thought will help you to stand up up to the nagging.

Ashton - posted on 11/01/2012

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Thank you it helps alot knowing i have some support for once. i will try giving them a printed sheet with medical facts of about it and hopefully like your story they stop bringing it up. thank you

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