i want a nother baby

Brittany - posted on 01/15/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )




i just had a baby boy hes 16 weeks how long should i want to have one more ?


Amy - posted on 01/16/2012




Not to be rude but if you can't afford a pump for the baby you have you should probably wait till you are better off financially.

Otherwise I agree with Terra your body really needs a full year to recover from your last pregnancy, if you were to get pregnant doesn't mean there would be complications but it's really not in the best interest for you, your current baby, or your new baby. Let your latest addition have time to be a baby and be the center of attention for awhile why make him grow up so fast if it's not necessary.

Terra - posted on 01/16/2012




Give your baby a chance to be your baby for a while! You also really need to give your body time to recover from pregnancy and childbirth. If you plan to nurse for the minimum of a year then you really should wait that long to try and conceive as pregnancy can dry up your milk. Just snuggle in and enjoy the precious little one you just had.

Mine are 3 years apart and it's been great in most ways. My daughter was out of diapers before her brother came. She was old enough to understand what was going on and to actually be excited about it. When her brother was born she was old enough to be helpful, to understand that I needed to nurse the baby, to be able to wait for a drink or snack until I was done (or in some instances to be able to get them herself). Etc., Etc.

Only you can decide what age difference you really want between your babies but for your health, your baby's health and the health of the tiny baby you'll be carrying I would highly, highly suggest waiting till at the very least 6 months.

Sally - posted on 01/17/2012




Having children less than 18 months apart drastically raises your chance of miscarriage and premature birth. I've often heard it recommended that children be at least two years apart.

Also, as wonderful as babies and toddlers are, they are both an amazing amount of work. Two of them at the same time could easily become overwhelming.


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Lori - posted on 01/18/2012




I wanted children close together too. I have 3 boys who are now 5, 3, and 20 months. However, after having experienced the pregnancy and healing after baby, I urge others not to go through it. My youngest 2 are 16 months apart. The pregnancy had issues, I had to stop nursing because my milk dried up. It was previously very easy to nurse, but not once I was 2 months pregnant. It seriously just disappeared. My son was 8 1/2 months, but I had continued to nurse until he was 9 months, ànd fed him stored milk I had in the freezer until he was 11 months old. When baby was born, the delivery was by far the easiest, but the recovery was extremely difficult. I Could barely move the first week, I bled for 6 weeks, and still had spotting after that. Not going to mention the whole new world you need to deal with your bladder and other functions. I have had to work so hard to recover. All the while dealing with 2 young babies. Good luck, but be aware of your potential consequences.

Sarahann - posted on 01/17/2012




Brittany if you are sure you and your parnter want another one i think it will be just fine, but you have to keep in mind that you might not be able to nurse anymore and your partner is a big help.I have two boys and they are 14 months apart my son was about 5 months when i found out that i was pregnant again.my pregnancy went good and i loved have two children close together. they are the best of friends they are now 4 and 5.i feel like we made the right choice for our family.the only thing was i wish i could have nursed my son a little longer but it all work out and he turn out just fine and he is a healthy stong 5 year old now! just keep in mind having two little ones are alot of work. i hope you found this helpful.

Holly Janelle - posted on 01/17/2012




I think it's just the hormones talking or something. My daughter is 10 months and my SO wants another one but I say ,no way not right now! I want to enjoy my daughter and spoil her and everything. then maybe in 4 years try for another. I dont want her to feel like she has to share the attention of another baby until she is able to understsnd whats going on i dont fhinm it would be fair. You should do the same enjoy your baby boy let him be the center of your universe for a while, he deserves to have you all to himself for a little bit. :)

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