I want my boobs back!

Anne - posted on 05/28/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My son is almost 1.5 years old now, and I’m breastfeeding him. I wasn’t able to breastfeed my daughter so I’m new to this. Well, not that new anymore seeing as how it has been a year and a half. I am ready to wean him though, I want my boobs back! This boy does not want to give them up though. I don’t know what to do. I have tried limiting the nursing, but he will come up to me in the middle of the day and start tugging on my shirt collar, scratching at my neck/chest, pulling at the bottom of my shirt, shoving his hand down my shirt, if I don’t give in he starts screaming and hitting and biting. I don’t know what to do. I’m thinking now I should have weaned him earlier and gotten him on a bottle and then went to a sippy cup. Maybe then it would have been easier. I would try going cold turkey but I need my husband’s help for that (I’m just not strong enough) and he is in Africa right now. We talked about doing that when he gets back, but I don’t know how well it will work; especially when he has to leave for work during the day. Does anyone have any secrets/tips/suggestions? Has anyone seen the movie Grown Ups? It is loaded with breastfeeding jokes; they really crack me up. I’m scared though, if I don’t get Jasper to stop nursing I’m going to be the one saying “he’s 48 months!” and people looking at me and saying “That’s 4!!” I don’t want to be one of “those” parents. No offense to anyone who continues to nurse that long though, it’s just not for me.

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Kim - posted on 02/02/2015

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We weaned our child by putting a vanilla milkshake in a bottle. He loved it and switched right away and after that it was breast milk or formula in the bottles.

Cassaundra - posted on 05/29/2011

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just to throw ut the alternative, have you considered not weaning him? just limit him to one or two set times a day. under the age of 2 it is considered to be premature weaning because from a biological standpoint, children need to nurse til they are around age 2 and a half minimum. i always weaned mine at around a year and ahalf until i learned that the World Health Org says you should nurse till age 2 minimum, and then i read this article:http://www.kathydettwyler.org/detwean.ht... it really opened my eyes! my fourth is now tandeming with my fifth baby, at 1 year and 2 and a half. i tell her no if i don't feel able to nurse her, but it's been a life saver helping her get through the terrible twos and sibling rivalry. just something to think about is all. good luck!

Celeste - posted on 05/29/2011

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Well, I was one of "parents" and yes, I saw the movie. That is *not* how my 4 year old nursed. He only nursed once a day. Wasn't my plan lol but I completely understand being ready.

I think consistency is important. I'd handle his fits like you would if it wasn't nursing.

I know you said you tried everything but I'll post what worked for us:
-distractions. I'd keep them busy ( I nursed twins) by taking them out of the house, something to keep their minds off of nursing.
-counting. I'd say "ok, nah nahs are done when I get to 10!" didn't work right away, but eventually it did.
Congrats for nursing to 18 months!

Anne - posted on 05/29/2011

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Lise, Thanks for that tip. I will try that, it sounds like it will work. I know he understands me, but man sometimes he just doesnt care what I say. Ill give it a go though...

Liz - Yup! That's what the doc said. I couldn't believe it. He was old enough when it happend to remember too, so its not something that he fabricated as a kid. Can you imagine that pain. Their teeth are so sharp, I could see it happening.

Lise - posted on 05/28/2011

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For the moving.... I nursed with my finger near dd's mouth. As soon as she started to move, I popped in a finger, covered my breast and said, "Lay nicely." At first I had to help her lay nicely, but she's got the hang of it. She gets to try 3 times and then we get up. She's pretty good now - but it takes consistency.

She's drawn blood 3x - teeth hurt!!! She usually only bites when asleep now, thankfully.

Lise - posted on 05/28/2011

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I think you can still try now, if you want (totally up to you). My daughter is still learning new boundaries (like, you can't eat blueberries and nurse at the same time...). The biggest thing is consistency in terms of consequences. If dd starts to whine because I said to wait for nursing, I walk away from her. She has never done any biting with regards to it, but every baby has his/her own personality. Good luck!

You can also look through the kellymom forums - they have a lot of helpful people on there. www.forum.kellymom.net

Anne - posted on 05/28/2011

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Lise,
I just finished reading the websites...I actually have tried several of these approaches. I think maybe I'm not just persistent enough...I'll have to work on that. I also realize now that I don't really say much to him when he is breastfeeding...well I don't correct him, I will just take him off. I think it is because he doesn’t really talk...I'll have to work on that too, I correct him and talk to him everywhere else though... He is the first baby I have breastfed so it was a learning curve for me. It would have been nice to have this information from the get go, so I could have prevented a lot of this. Again, thanks for the link. I'll keep working on it and try some of these approaches again.

Anne - posted on 05/28/2011

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Hey Erin,
Unfortunately I already gave my son a cup...around 8 or 9 months... and he drinks milk...even chocolate...but he just prefers my milk at certain times of the day. I think it might be easier if he was talking, but he just doesn’t say much right now. Jasper is a squirmer… constantly moving around while he eats…and he doesn’t always release before he moves, I try to correct him but I’m just at a loss I just don’t know how to get him to obey. I never had problems like this with my daughter…but she was a bottle baby. Thanks!

Anne - posted on 05/28/2011

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Lise,
Thanks for the links. I really don't want to go cold turkey, but my son isn't very good at listening to me right now...manners are exactly what he needs... Plus he is starting to bite; his pediatrician told me what to do for biting...I did it...it didn't work... He also told me that when he was a kid, his little sister was nursing and bit her mom’s nipple off...and with Jasper starting to bite and graze the nipple (man that hurts) I just think it's time. Thanks for the links.

Erin - posted on 05/28/2011

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It could just be a comfort thing now that he's 1 1/2 years old. I nursed my 1st child only for 8months b/c I had to stop (not my choice, LONG story). My 2nd child I nursed until he was almost 14months. I was kind of in the same situation as you though: I was ready to stop but he wasn't. (although it was more of a nightime thing for my little guy). I gave him water in a bottle at bedtime instead of letting him nurse (he only wanted to nurse at night at that point). The way I got him to ween for his other feedings was I took him to the store and let him pick out a BiG KID cup and made a really big deal out of it for him and made him feel so special that he was drinking from a big kid cup. I let him have cows milk (since he was over 1) and I even gave him some of the gerber juices (I dilute them with water though). Maybe try something like that? I hope it works out for you. I def. know how you feel with wanting your boobs back, LOL! My body was literally shaking at that point b/c I just couldn't take nursing anymore. It was super uncomfortable and my body just couldn't do it. Good Luck to you!

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