I want to stop breastfeeding now my daughters 7 months but she won't take formula, please help

Liana - posted on 07/22/2009 ( 27 moms have responded )

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Isla's now weaned onto solids she has 3 meals a day and 2 feeds in the day, at night she is on the boob constantly, she doesn't really like formula and will scream for hours for a breast feed, its the only way she will go off, i live in a flat with my 3 year old and i don't want him woken by hear screams. I can't see her ever coming off, she has teeth and i haven't had a night off in 7 months

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Melissa - posted on 07/25/2009

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Aaaahhhhhhhh sounds like what I went through!!!! Seriously! But I didnt want to stop breastfeeding just not all night long. She would wake up at like 12am and nurse over and over again through the night I was getting no sleep. I finally got to the point where I just had to sleep. My plan was, I started putting her down no later than 8 or 8:30, and when she would wake up in the middle of the night I would leave the room (both me and my hubby cause she sleeps in our room) and sleep on the couch until like 6am. Then I would get her up and breastfeed her and let her sleep with me. Everyone told me, "oh it will only take like 2 nights"......wrong!! It took like 2 weeks. BUT SO WORTH IT!! If she is eating normally during the day you DONT need to feed her at night. After about the 2 weeks she NEVER wakes up during the night. Its about training her to know that when she wakes up its ok and she will be fine to fall back asleep on her own. Sometimes if she woke up screaming and I thought she was scared I would get up and rock her standing next to her crib until she was calm and put her back in. Even if she started screaming again I wouldnt get her. I figured that she wasnt scared now and Id go to the couch. It was hard for a while cause like you I didnt want her waking everyone up. but know that it is only temporary and you need sleep just as much as everyone else!! It doesnt last that long, but in the long run you will be glad that you did it!! I still breastfeed her in the morning it is like our sweet time waking up together. Now she sleeps until 7 or 8!!! Whoooo hooooo!!! She is 17 months old and a great sleeper and Im much nicer now that Im getting sleep too!! TRY IT!!! You will not regret it! Keep nursing her in the morning like I do, it helps them so they dont develop insecurity issues, being forced to stop before they are ready. By doing it only in the morning or afternoon then you wont feel overwhelmed or guilty for giving up! Its a win win!!! GOOD LUCK!!! I know how hard and frustrating it can be!!

Mary - posted on 07/22/2009

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I agree with the other moms- your baby's PRIMARY source of nutrition for the first year is milk- either yours or formula. The solid food she is eating is not enough to sustain her. She is nursing so much at night because she needs the calories and nutrition she is missing during the day.
Try pumping your milk and give it to her in a bottle so she can get used to the bottle and nipple. Once she's used to it, mix 1/2 breast milk and 1/2 formula (prepared formula, not just powder) such as 2 oz. breast milk and 2 oz. formula. She might take this better. Then after a bit, switch it up to 1 oz. b.milk and 3 oz. formula, then just formula. Hopefully this will help her adjust to the taste.
Wean her gradually. You have to remember that you and your milk is what she's been used to for the past 7 months. Change isn't easy, it takes time. Just be patient and make sure your baby is getting the proper nutrition she needs. Best of luck!!

January - posted on 07/26/2009

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Have you checked into a local LLL meeting? They might be able to help out with this. My son who is almost 2 just started weaning. We co sleep, and I discovered that he would wake up throughout the night to nurse, or just latch on and suck a few times. If I tried to remove my breast he would wake up. But if he slept with my husband between us, he would sleep all night long. The thing is your baby can smell you, and that to a baby is a pretty tempting smell.

Kari - posted on 07/25/2009

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Try pumping the milk then giving it to her in a bottle or cup. My daughter is just over 7 monthes and I have been pumping the whole time and I have a frezzer full, so now she takes a cup or bottle and i am doing the dry up process. She should be good til she is a year or then some. Keep trying and it will happen. Stay strong also.

April - posted on 07/23/2009

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Don't give up just yet! Keep on nursing and try to enjoy your special time together. Sometimes they just need to be with you, hugged, cuddled, and loved!

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Lori - posted on 09/21/2012

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Susi - this is an old thread. From 2009. If you'd like, please start a new thread with your questions/concerns.

Susi - posted on 09/20/2012

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My daughter is just about to be 10 mos already and she keeps me up all night trying to feed even though i feed her solids during the day along with breast milk she wont take a pacifier or the bottle she doesnt like the texture and i have tried just about everything i have let her starve all day with out the breast and tried putting breast milk in a bottle for her to take it and she wont. any other suggestions cuz none of these are working for me.

Shelly - posted on 07/25/2009

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Have you thought of pumping your breastmilk? Does she even take a bottle, if not she is plenty old enough to take the breastmilk through a sippy cup. Before she goes to bed, you should feed her, her cereal and then nurse her on both breast if she will take both and then she should sleep through the night. If not have the partner or husband get with her and give her the bottle or sippy cup of breastmilk that you have pumped. Good luck!

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I nursed both of my kids for 12 months each and I found out that if they are already drinking water or juice out of a sippy cup than put the formula or whole milk in it. Do not start them on a bottle. It will be hard to stop the breast and the bottle at the same time.

Tessa - posted on 07/23/2009

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When i returned to work my mum had a lot of trouble getting her to take a bottle. Her answer "when shes hungry enough shell take it" and she did! Just dont give in to her, and go slowly

April - posted on 07/23/2009

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In response to Jenny - sometimes they nurse a lot when they are reaching a growth spurt.

Jenny - posted on 07/23/2009

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My daugther went through a period where she nursed all through the night...it tended to be when she was teething or when she was sick. Now that she's off the breast (i held out to a year) she will drink a full 6 ounce bottle sometimes more per night. Some kids just get thirsty. As far as formula's to try, we sometimes supplemented with Nestle Good Start, pre-mixed formula. It comes in 4 oz jars and 6 oz. cans.

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I just wanted to say most breast feeding experts do not recommend night weaning until 12 mo. or older. So you must make sure she's getting LOTS of BM in the day if you are going to night wean.

Meg - posted on 07/23/2009

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Is it that she won't take formula or that she won't take a bottle? It could be either or both. My children got breastmilk from a bottle, but it took a long time before they would drink from the bottle. We had to try several different kinds of bottles (they liked the Dr. Brown's best) and we had to practice for 5 min or so every day (some time when the baby is not too hungry works best).

Something you might consider with a 7 mo if she is fairly big is night weaning. Just warn all the neighbors that you will be doing it and there may be crying for a couple of nights. Apologize, bring them cookies, whatever.

If she will take breastmilk from the bottle but not formula, it's understandable (have you ever tasted formula? yuck). Try giving breastmilk mixed with a tiny bit of formula and gradually increasing the proportion of formula.

Good luck!

Brenda - posted on 07/23/2009

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You can try to feed her breast milk in a bottle to get used to the bottle first, then slowly add in a little bit of formula, so like 25% formula, 75% breast milk. Slowly transition the amount of formula vs. breastmilk until there is only formula. The slow transition may help her get used to the formula. Also, if you want her to stop waking up in the middle of the night feed her more during the day AND start sending your husband in to comfort her in the middle of the night. If you go in she will smell the breastmilk and want to feed. As long as you know she is getting enough in the day there is no harm in not giving her that middle of the night feed. Once she realizes that she doesn't get Mommy at night she just won't bother waking up and should sleep through the night. I wouldn't suggest giving up the breast feeding all together during the day though. Maybe just one bottle of formula a day to keep her used to it so you have more freedom to go out sometimes and leave her with a babysitter.

Ginette - posted on 07/23/2009

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I agree with Mary. You have to get her used to the bottle itself first - so give her pumped milk in a bottle. Then you can begin mixing in formula in small amounts, working up to mostly formula. If she won't take a bottle at all try this trick..... Let her suck on a soother for a little while (if she takes one), then quickly pop out the soother and pop in the bottle (of breastmilk). It worked for us. Also - try giving her the soother when she wakes at night to put her back to sleep instead of feeding. When my daughter wakes in the middle of the night, most times once the soother gets popped back in she goes right back off to sleep. Good luck!

Natasha - posted on 07/23/2009

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i would start cutting some of the solids out if shes not want to breastfeed. always attempt to breastfeed before you offer the solids so that she gets what she needs from your milk and any solids she eats will just be extra. if you giving her a whole jar of baby food then just give her half and replace that with your milk.

always,always offer your breast or formula before you offer her the solids.

with the waking up at night just to suck for a min or two i think it has to do with co sleeping and breastfeeding because my litttle girl does the same thing. she is 6 months old.

Liana - posted on 07/23/2009

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Also, at night she isn't always "feeding" at night, she'll wake and just want to suck a couple of times to go back off as, its a comfort not a need. She's a little fatty and is growing at the correct rate and hitting every milestone early and my health visitor is very pleased with her progress, i can't see that she isn't being fed enough, you have all worried me now, she doesn't want any more feeds in the day, how can i force something she doesn't want on her?

Liana - posted on 07/23/2009

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She does share our bed and she has her last bed feed at around 7am, then she has a yogurt for breakfast another breastfeed mid morning, a jar for lunch then another breastfeed late afternoon, a jar and a fruit puree for dinner, then at 7 she has a feed to go to sleep and then throughout the night. Is that really not enough breastmilk?? She loves her food, its her choice to have the amount of solids she does, my son didn't have 3 meals till 9 months, but she knows what she wants my girl

Amber - posted on 07/22/2009

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I agree 110% with what Nicole said. During the 1st year, breast milk or formula are the main source of nutrition. Adding solids is just practice for when they eat whole foods at age 1 and up. In addition to Nicole's advice i would talk to your pediatrician for more details and suggestions on feedings.

Natasha - posted on 07/22/2009

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i agree to feedings a day is not enough. my daughter is 6 months and has 2 solid meals a day. one in the mid afternoon and one around 6 ish. when she wakes up at 7 she feeds then at about 10am 1pm 3pm 6 and then before bed. i am also breastfeeding and was told that breastmilk is digested faster than formula. so in about 90 mins after feeding its already out of there litttle bellies and thats why breastfed babies feed more often.



if you are wanting to wean her and no longer want to breastfeed try and be slow. try adding about 2 ounces of breastmilk to her formula then put a little less about every 4th day. always giver her your breast before a feeding of solids she needs that more than anything else for the first year.



i know it can be hard breastfeeding and you dont get to do that same things as you use to be able to. you can become overwhelmed. just remember that someday she will grow up. its not going to last forever. GOOD LUCK :)

Crystal Ward - posted on 07/22/2009

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have you ever tasted formula? yuck. Put a good tsp of dark karo syrup in it. It's good for her digestion. She'll appreciate it.

Hassana - posted on 07/22/2009

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Try pumping your breastmilk and feeding in a bottle. It will taste the same, and might help transition to bottle feeding easier.

Amanda - posted on 07/22/2009

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Two feeds during the day is not enough breastmilk for a 7 month old baby, on soilds or not. Like Nicole said soild food isnt even important right now, and does not give your baby what she needs to grow. Start breastfeeding her more during the day, and she will not be feeding all night to prevent starvation. Feed her on demand, and you will not have as many issues. Also I agree co sleeping could save you a lot of lack of sleep, she is old enough and big enough now that it is safe to sleep with her.

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Oh and then I would keep offering her the bottle of formula daily and eventually she may get use to it.

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Babies need either breast milk or formula the first year. Food in the first year is suppose to be about learning and having fun, not nutrition. The nutrition and caloric intake still comes from you or formula. I am not surprised at all that she is nursing like crazy in the night, she's not getting what she needs in the day. I am not trying to be harsh, but rather just honest.

I agree, nurse her more in the day, cluster feed in the afternoons/evening (nurse every hour for 4-5 hours) and you may have a break at night. My son didn't sleep through the night and night wean until 18mo. He NEVER took a bottle either. It was all me and I work full time. He's 2.5yrs and still nursing and I also am nursing my 15w old daughter. Telling you this to let you know I understand how hard it is, but as a mom I know you want to do the best for your child. So, if she won't take a bottle of formula, you must keep nursing and as I said it really sounds like you need to be nursing more. She's going through major growth and brain development that will be hindered if she does not get what she needs nutritionally.

Also, consider bed sharing so you can sleep and she can nurse. This was a life saver for me... we did this from 6mo until almost 2yrs. Although as I mentioned my son night weaned at 18 mo.

I suggest trying to nurse her at least 4-6 times in the day and see if you don't notice a difference. And, try the cluster feeding too for just a few days and see if you notice a difference.

Here is a link on that:
http://www.kellymom.com/babyconcerns/fus...

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Try nursing her more during the day. It might help. Might not. I'm sorry. It's a rare occasion when my 16 month old son only wakes twice a night to nurse. I haven't slept in about 18 months now. At 7 months some babies can sleep through the night, but I think it's more common that they don't.

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