iam having a baby and i dont know if i want breast feed but i heard its good but i dont know thou

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Carly - posted on 09/06/2009

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There are so many reasons for and against it. If you have any doubts about it, educate youself ask your doctor and take a prenatal class, if you are still unsure just try it for a couple weeks any breast milk you give your baby will be of some benifit. If you are concerned with the whole baby hanging off you boob for the next year consider pumping and bottle feeding your milk. Boob is the lazy moms food, there is no washing heating shopping or mixing all you have to do is lift your shirt and lunch is ready.

Jennifer - posted on 09/06/2009

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Do you have any particular concerns about breastfeeding? Scientifically, it's the best thing you can do for your baby in terms of health, nutrition, reduction of SIDS risk, etc. It's also more healthy for your own body.

There's nothing wrong with formula feeding, and plenty of people are grow up on formula and do just fine. It's just an inferior product. A couple of decades of research can't light a candle to millions of years of evolution, or if you prefer, God's design.

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Pamela - posted on 09/13/2009

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I have breast feed 2 of my 5 kids and I loved it the bond between my youngest 2 and I is amazing.I wish that I had feed them all

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It is the most amazing, special gift you can give to your baby...Tons of support sites out there! It is what your body was meant to do and it will bring you and baby such a special bond!

Sabrina - posted on 09/13/2009

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I love it!! My daughter is now 7 months old and still breastfeeding!! It's one of the best gifts I could give her. She's healthy and right on track for height/weight. It's not for everyone, some women stop before they even really start due to nipple soreness or lack of sleep. You really have to be commited to breastfeeding, if that's the path you take. At least try it for a month....maybe two. That way you get passed the soreness in the first month (shouldn't take more than a week or two for that, make sure you always have a good latch, so important!!!!) and your baby will, like a miracle, start sleeping through the night in the second month. Also invest in a pump. It will make that much more of a difference to get the extra help from someone. I hope this helps. Good luck in your decision dear.

Susan - posted on 09/13/2009

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Breastfeeding is suposed to be better. I have twins that I bottle fed and I am expecting in December. I am planning to breastfeed this time. Most Ob-Gyns can offer assistance on learning how. If yours does not then talk to the nurses at the hospital where you plan on delivering! Usually the hospital's nurses will sit with you and walk you through it the first few times if you request the help. I hope I have been helpful; good luck with all!! Susan.

Susan - posted on 09/13/2009

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Breastfeeding is suposed to be better. I have twins that I bottle fed and I am expecting in December. I am planning to breastfeed this time. Most Ob-Gyns can offer assistance on learning how. If yours does not then talk to the nurses at the hospital where you plan on delivering! Usually the hospital's nurses will sit with you and walk you through it the first few times if you request the help. I hope I have been helpful; good luck with all!! Susan.

Vickie - posted on 09/13/2009

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breastfeeding is really good for bbys i can attest on that. because base on my experience i didn't breastfed my eldest she is always at the hospital for confinement due to sickness, if i remember it right before she turn 1 year old she has been hospitalized for about three times. but on my second child i breastfed him and i can proudly say that now he is already five years old he never had a serious sickness like her sister. so i can say that really breastfeeding is still best for the babies.

Abbey - posted on 09/12/2009

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It's the greatest thing you can do for your child. Boobs are there to play with they are there for babies (my grandma told me that). With all the disease and illness going around right now the best thing you can do for your baby is jump start their immune system and breastmilk is the only way to do that. It's also an amazing bond between you and your child. It's something that no one else can experience with your baby and it's well worth it. A lot of people give up because they think it hurts or is too hard but the discomfort goes away quickly. And honestly, it's much easier to pick up your baby at 2am and lay in bed to breastfeed than it is to make a bottle while sleep deprived.

Cassandra - posted on 09/12/2009

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I was the same way when I was pregnant...I just told myself I would try it and if it wasn't for me at least I tried. My son is 4months old and I have been nursing since he was born. I love it! It was rough at first until we both got the hang of it but it is so easy! It's worth trying and like others have said, don't stress over it! Good Luck:)

Sapphire - posted on 09/12/2009

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for me breast feeding is way easier than making bottles, because you don't have to warm breastmilk (unless it's been expressed), you can do it laying down, so if you're tired and you don't have the energy to get up all you have to do is place your baby next to you and you're good to go, you don't have to worry about your formula expiring or running out of formula, and, in my opinion, its the best way to bond with your baby

Lisa - posted on 09/12/2009

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i wasnt sure either when i had my first born but i'm glad i decided to do it, and went on to nurse my other 3 kids also ..so at least give it a try.. any breast milk that your baby can get will greatly benefit them and yourself, its a great way to lose the baby weight!

Sarah - posted on 09/12/2009

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Do it, it is the best thing you can do for your child plus it is a great bonding experience!

Nancy - posted on 09/12/2009

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You should try it and hang in there. It will be painful a bit, but once they get the hang of it and you too, its awesome and it helps with the cost of formula.

Stacey - posted on 09/12/2009

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Do it! It's amazing. At least try it. Remember, the first 2 weeks to a month are the hardest, but if you can get through it you can do it for as long as you and baby like. There are so many benefits besides just nutrition. It's great for bonding after birth, and connecting with your baby when you both need a break. It's a tension tamer for me and baby alike. I'm still going strong at 8 months. Also, the longer you breastfeed, the chance of getting breast cancer goes down dramatically. Oh and it's free!!

Shannon - posted on 09/12/2009

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Breastfeeding takes real commitment for the first 6 weeks. It is hard to learn, especially when its your first time. That said it is one of the most rewarding things I have done for my kids, its healthier, easier, cleaner, neater and so much more convenient. You can nurse in a sling, chair, couch, bed, while eating, watching tv or doing just about anything! After the learning period (4-6 weeks) and as long as you dont listen to the oh just give him/her a bottle, you will be a pro and so fine with it. Talk to a LC at the hospital, dont let ANYONE give a bottle and really make a promise to yourself and your baby to stick with only breastfeeding for the first 2 months. After that you will be doing great! And if you arnt you gave it a really good try. It is very rare that women cant breastfeed, most women that "cant" have been sabotaged or sabotaged themselves.

Maureen - posted on 09/12/2009

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breastfeeding isnt all that difficult. sure it takes some patients but once you get the hang of it its a breeze. and its a hole lot cheaper too

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I have had 4 kids so far and am getting ready to have my 5th. I am a naturally small chested person and was afraid I wouldn't be able to and was unsure of it myself. But if you read up on the subject you'll find that breast milk is truly what is best for your child and can help improve their brain function in the long run. I was never able to feed more than 4 months, then switched to Enfamil Lipil with Iron which contain DHA. I would suggest trying it with your baby, see if your baby takes to it, see if you are comfortable with it, if not there are lots of formulas that are great. and you can still have a happy healthy baby and experience much the same connections as breast feeding as long as you hold the baby every time you feed and treasure every minute of them being so small,,,cause trust me they grow up really fast!!

Maureen - posted on 09/11/2009

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Its is very good for the baby it helps prevent sickness, and its very convenant you dont have to carry around bottles and formula (which is very expensive) and its ready to go. I found it very simple u dont have to prepare any bottles, you body does it all! and I love not having to get up and go downstairs to make a bottle, U can nurse while laying in bed which is awsome! u dont have to hold them all the time to nurse.and the best part its FREE! my sons 6 mos and 3 weeks and hasnt gotten sick yet! which helps with the doctors bills if your on a tight budget, in this economy. hope this helps!

Sharee - posted on 09/11/2009

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I strongly encourage you to breastfeed. It is the most precious gift you can give your child. The nurishment the baby receives is like no other, you truely can't get it in a lab created formula. Organizations are now suggesting that women breastfeed for the first two years due to the fact that children's immune systems don't even start to kick in until that age. I personally love the bonding time and connection that my son and I have because of it. He is not addicted to a passifier or his fingers or a blankie or anything, and I personally can't help but think that since I didn't use any of those to comfort him that it helped. Good luck to you and continue to do the research. People can tell you all day long their opnions but you need to make your own based upon research from more than 3 sources. Oh yea, my son is almost a year old on the 30th and he breast feeds 3-4 times a day, depending on the day, plus he eats homemade food 3 times a day.

Jela - posted on 09/11/2009

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I have done it with both of my boys and its amazing. Its a way healthier choice for them and its FREE you dont have to worry about mixing up bottles or anything its always at the right temperature. Its hard work. My oldest took to it like a champ and my second had a bit of trouble. Stick to it though its wonderful and its an amazing bonding experience for momma and baby

Belle - posted on 09/11/2009

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it is the best thing to do for you and your baby...i breastfed for 6mos and let me tell you i never had to take my son to the doc unless if it was for his check ups!!! he is 2 yrs now and he has only been to the doc 2x with a cold!!! being a first time mom myself i wasnt sure either but i tried it and it was the best thing i could do for me and my son. but keep in mind it is hard work but well worth it! the feedings are more often than if ur baby is formula fed! be prepared to be feeding every 2 to 3hrs instead of every 4+ hours! so it wouldnt hurt to try it...good luck!!!

Marti - posted on 09/11/2009

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I was worried at first about breastfeeding. All my friends were using bottles. I have to tell you is was the most special time for us. My friends had probelms finding the right formula.. I didnt because I used what nature gave me. My son is now 5 hardly ever gets sick and think it was because of breastfeeding. Plus it helps your body goes back to normal faster.

Dawn - posted on 09/11/2009

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Yes Breastfeed your baby, it is the best. Since this is your first child you don't know how hard it is to get up in the middle of the night to warm up a bottle and your baby is crying and wanting the milk right now!!!. And you can't use the microwave because it destroys the formula and creates hot spots in the milk. When you nurse everything you need is right there. And you can go right back to sleep. Try it and see if you like it. Nursing is not for everyone. But if you try and put a little effort into it you can. It keeps them healthy. The only draw back is when your out in public. If your afraid to nurse in public then make sure you pump before you go out and have the bottle with breast milk in it ready. I try to encourage all my friends to do it. It's what god intended. Nature at it's best. I nurse my first baby for 4 months. My milk dried up when I went back to work. My son is 10 months old now and I am still nursing him. He hates formula. Yuck have you ever tasted it. Oh yeah, if your having trouble try a lactation consultant they are WONDERFUL, very helpful. Good Luck and Congrats on your new addition.

Kimberly - posted on 09/11/2009

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Hi- I hope you do breastfeed. It is VERY healthy and not just in nutrition, but starting there I just read yesterday ( In a book a bought for a friend about ADHD- they reccommend it there too) there are natural fats in breastmilk (the DHA's) that are naturally forming and are complete in breastmilk and not the same in whatever they do add to formula. They don't add it to many, but some now, and where do they get it from? cows? That's for cows, not humans .This is very important in normal brain developmentwhich is still occurring after birth, and will help your child to learn and you will notice a difference. I breastfed for almost 3 years, and she is just starting kindergarten- she does not remember it at all. I would do it for as long as you can- I did not plan to do it that long. At least one year is best- It also helps to prevent breast cancer in you, and there is a calming let down response that relaxes you and helps you bond with your child. My daughter has been so healthy- I think she's had maybe 2 fevers and they were mild. She's going to be five next week and the dr says she is 95% in height for five year olds and that was last month for her physical- not even five yet. WE are both kinda tall, but she eats everything. broccolli- Don't introduce foods until after 4 months and you drink LOTS of water! Every mother I know who has breastfed notices a differnce in theri child's health. It is good for both of you. I encourage you to try. Don't be discouraged in the beginning- rub yourself with a dry washcloth and use the lotion for breastfeeding moms- comes in a purple tube. If you can pump- i bought one and ended up doing it manually - it was easier for me to get more out and the pump was not comfortable and I gave the bottle to dad. He enjoyed that too. My daughter would not take a bottle for six weeks- Also, dont forget the pacifier- sometimes they just want to suck. Use the soft kind, so she doesn't get confused. After a little bit you will figure it out. My daughter does not have ADHD but the book was in the healthfood store and thers lots of info in there Breastfeeding is the best thing you can do. Try it - you'll like it. .

Nicole - posted on 09/11/2009

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I am currently breastfeeding my 3rd baby who is 6 mths. My first son was born at 36 weeks and l had trouble, every day l would say to myself l will breastfeed one more time and one more time until he was 16 mths and l had to wean cause l was pregnant (and not coping well), the next 2 were easier.

In the begining it hurt like hell! I will say it, but l kept going and it did get so much easier. Also in the begining l felt like all l did all day was sit on the couch and breastfeed but now she has it down to about 20mins all up sometimes even less. I agree with all the advise everyone has given but just get the best advise and help with attachment if you need it. Don't let older generation people tell you that you may not be producing enough milk, believe in your own body. And most importantly enjoy your baby no matter what your decision.

Summer - posted on 09/11/2009

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The best advice I was given was give it 30 days and if you don't want to continue then don't. I was really unsure as well, but am a big supporter of it now and my son is nearly 5 months old. It's a personal choice, but 30 days is better than no days.

Katie - posted on 09/10/2009

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Definally try it and stay strong dont give up, it gets pretty challeging the first couple of weeks but I promise it does get better. And when it does it is so worth it, Im so happy I didnt give up. I bottle fed my first child, cuz I was alot younger and nervous to try it. But I really wanted to try it with my second child and Im so happy I did, I wish I would of breastfed my daughter also. If you have any questions at all this is the best site to ask questions that you are having. I didnt have too many people to talk to about breastfeeding and this website was my life saver for me many times lol. The moms on here are so helpful. Because believe me you will have all kinds of questions to ask. Well good luck and stay strong for you and your baby.

Saralee - posted on 09/10/2009

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I am breastfeeding my child, I didnt breastfeed the other 4 I had and this is much easier..At first I did partial formula and part time breastfeeding, but the baby liked breastfeeding much better and less diapers and no colic. Breastfed babies only poop 2 - 3 times a week most anyways and you do lose the weight alot quicker.

Melanie - posted on 09/10/2009

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I didnt knw if i wanted to either. my baby is 3 weeks old and i am breastfeeding its going realy well i glad i gave it a go! just try it and see what u think then.

Holly - posted on 09/10/2009

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i breast feed and do formula its just easier for me and baby girl this way do whatever works best for you and your baby

Claudia - posted on 09/10/2009

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It will be hard at first. it took me 2 months to get the hang of it but was happy I didn't give up. You will form a beautiful bond wih your child and it is good for your health also! I stongly recomend u do it!

Jessica - posted on 09/10/2009

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I hope that you consider breastfeeding your baby. I have breastfed all of my children and I am a believe that in doing so you create an amazing bond that is not there with bottle feeding. My daughter only breastfed for 2 monthes and then we did not work at it enough to continue. She was always sick and has allergies. My older son who is now 5 breastfed until he was 19 months and is healthy as an ox. My younger son is still breastfeeding and he just turned 1. I do not plan on stopping any time soon. It is by far cheaper and more convient, but it gives your child a great start with their immune system and creates a healthy bond between you both. There are so many benefits to consider. Enjoy your baby!

Alicia - posted on 09/10/2009

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From my experience it's an absolute must, not only is it the very best you can give your baby, it also makes the bond between you and your little one that much stronger.

Abbey - posted on 09/10/2009

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I have a chart that is 100 reasons to breast feed you should ask at your Drs office or resource center for a copy because your best to educate yourself and then make the choice.....I breastfeed and my husband was unsure at first until I brought it home.....Message me with your address and I can mail it to you if you would like.....
Breast feeding is not easy but as time goes on it is much more convenient and you will get more sleep because you do not have to get up and make a bottle, warm it and then feed and burp the baby......
Best of luck.

Carol Cherry - posted on 09/10/2009

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Its really the best thing for them. I'm still nursing my toddler and I love the bond between us. But I think if you do decide to nurse (which I think you should) the one thing you dont want to do is to have them be too dependent on it cause it kindof breaks the bond between anyone other than you. The one thing I dont really like is the fact that he cant really sleep with anyone other than me. But I highly suggest it. The bond is WoNDERFUL and you know thier getting the nutrition they need for thier brains to grow. My toddler is really smart.

Jackie - posted on 09/10/2009

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I did it because it was free, and I figured that it would be one less cost. I absolutly hated it for the first few weeks. Everyday got a little easier, and I just kept trying because I figured that I owed it to my son. Liam is almost 8 months now, we are still breat feeding, it is SO easy. It is hands down the best decision I have ever made. He has gained the exact amount of weight that he is supposed to, and has never been sick. My friends who formula fed their babies have had alot of problems with colds and coughs and their babies are over weight. It may just be a coincidence but I like my odds.

Shanna - posted on 09/10/2009

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also... if you're unsure about how to get started, there are lactation consultants at the hospital that can help you. and when you get home, there are hotlines that you can call like the leche league for your area, just google it. oh, and breastfeeding is free, so u can try it... for free, and if u dont like it then don't do it.

Amber - posted on 09/10/2009

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i think breastfeeding is a wonderful thing, personally i have a huge connection with my son doing it that no one can take away from me. It also healthy for the baby and formula put more weight on the baby but that my opinion. by the way there always the option of pumping your milk

Amanda - posted on 09/10/2009

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its the best thing you will EVER do for your child. its one thing if you physically have reasons not to, but to not do it b/c of vanity reasons or time reasons is just selfish. i have nothing against mothers who decide to bottle feed, but think of your child, after all, we all want what is best for them. good luck in all the firsts that are ahead of you!!!

Christine - posted on 09/10/2009

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if you deside to do it just dont give up it gets easier and there will be times when you just want to give up but trust be it will be worth it,its not easy i wish i could say it is but it all depends on how determined you are to do it best of wishes for you!!!

Dolores Or Just DeeDee - posted on 09/10/2009

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It's very good for your baby and for you. I won't lie it's not easy. There are options to formula and breast feed, but it's really up to you. I chose to only breast feed and I took my breast pump with me to work. It takes more time and you really have to time going out, but it's been so worth it. I loved the way each of my babies looked up at me while nursing. It's not as easy as they say but so rewarding. Don't be discouraged if this is your first baby and your milk doesn't come right away. Patients and knowledge will help you decide. La leche leage has alot of information. Just do your research and do what you feel is best for you and your baby.

Jayme - posted on 09/10/2009

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I highly recommend it I did it a full year with both of my children it helped save money plus I have 2 of the healthest children I know they have each only been sick once when they needed to take antibotics so I would do it plus it creates a bond that only you and your child can have together...It just has so many benefits for you and your baby...Think about it and give it a shot because you might regret it later?

Topaz - posted on 09/10/2009

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breastfeeding is best... but its not best for all mommies out there. its a hard thing to do. well i mean its hard to get a schedule down. once youve made it through the first 2 weeks its a breeze! I breastfed until my daughter refused (she refused at 3 months, which made me cry of course) I would suggest you AT LEAST try.. give it 2 weeks because the first 2 weeks are the hardest.. if you feel its not for you then give her formula, but at least you can say you tried!

Melissa - posted on 09/10/2009

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It's the best thing for your baby. My daughter barely got sick when i was brestfeeding, you pass your immunities on to the baby. And your bond in my opinion is even stronger.

Michelle - posted on 09/10/2009

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It hurts at first, but after awhile you get use to it. I would definetly recommend it. I have a 6 month old that I'm still nursing and an almost 2 year that I nursed until she was 9 months. I HATE to make a bottle, it's so inconvienient. I say try it at least 2 months, then you can decide....

Jenny - posted on 09/10/2009

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I would give it a try and if it works out, that's great and if not that's okay too. Breast milk is best but there isn't anything wrong with formula either. I do both and works really well for us!

Connie - posted on 09/10/2009

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Nobody can really make that decision for you, but, this much I can share. I have two children, I breastfed both of them. With my son, I wasn't ablr to produce enough to completely satisfy him and had to begin supplementing with formula beginning at about 2 months old, but continued to breastfeed him until he was a full year. My daughter, OTOH was exclusively breastfed for the first 10 months of her life. She refused formula. She refused the bottle entirely.... not even when I pumped my own milk. I continued to nurse her until she was 22 months old.

My advise to you would be to find every piece of literature you can find (pro versus con) on the subject of breastfeeding... educate yourself and make your own decision based on what you believe is best for You AND your baby.

Anyone can tell you that breast milk is the best source of nutrition for babies, and while there is much scientific evidence to back that up... They can give you all the facts, that it is best for their brain development. That it acts as a natural vaccine against disease, etc... but, the simple fact is, there are some women who are unable to breastfeed their babies. Some dry up within a few weeks naturally, some never produce milk at all. While those are rare cases, it does happen.

Whatever decision you make, you have to be completely comfortable with your choice, and if you decide that breastfeeding is best, then please understand that is does not constitute a failure in you as a mother if, for whatever reason, it doesn't work out and you end up having to supplement or switch to formula entirely.

Samantha - posted on 09/09/2009

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Quoting jenny:

i think its a selfish act to not breastfeed



Hey i dont think that was nice!!!!!!!!



 



ITs ever1s chooise to breastfeed or not !!!!!!!!!!!



 



She was just asking a simple question and wanting Positive feed back  she didnt want people to be nasty OK  and wether she chooises to breastfeed is her choise and 4 no1 to judge!!!!!!!!

Samantha - posted on 09/09/2009

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hey im a 16 year old mum and have a baby girl who is 3months



I didnt no if i wanted 2 breastfeed eathr but i gave it a go and r still exculsefly breastfeeding. i think its the best and easyest way lol like if ur in town all u need to do is pop a titty LOL its ever1 to ther own tho aye I think its the easyest way :)

Kristy - posted on 09/09/2009

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i didn't want to breastfeed my first child and i didn't, my second child who's 1 is breastfed. it isn't as easy to do as some people think. i had to work at it and not give up .once you get past your milk coming, your breast engorging and baby latching on it gets easier.but i do regret not breastfeeding my first child.

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