Is it normal to dislike pumping?

Sara - posted on 05/25/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )




Yesterday we simulated a working day, which I go back next Tuesday. I plan to pump every 3 hours and a total of 15 oz. a day while at work. It felt so odd… watching my husband bottle feed the baby while I pumped. I truly did not like it. DS was so frustrated because DH could not thaw out and warm the bottle fast enough which really upset me. Oh and the mother/baby bonding was delayed since I did not feed him until after 5 since I would not be home from work until then. I did not like this more so.


Amy - posted on 05/25/2012




Yes it's normal to dislike pumping! It's time consuming and a pain because it's an extra step. That's great that you stimulated a work day so you have an idea of what your day will be like. The good news is that when you are home you don't need to pump! Your baby will adjust to having to wait for a bottle, your husband will learn to recognize the hunger cues and will be able to get the bottle ready before your dear son is frustrated. Just remind yourself that you won't have to see your son take a bottle because you'll be at work so you won't feel like you are missing out on something while watching your husband give your son a bottle.

Just a reminder when you do return to work to keep your fluid intake up. When I initially returned I saw a decrease in my milk supply and I realized that I would be gone 12 hours a day and hardly drinking any water so I had to force myself to drink to keep my supply up. Good luck!


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Janine - posted on 06/15/2012




totally normal emotions, when my DS was born we thought it would be a nice way for DH to bond, however I was totally uncomfortable watching / knowing that DS was being bottle fed (even with my milk), so we stopped. I felt like I was being replaced by a piece of plastic. DH found other ways to bond (bath time mainly). I now only pump if DS is having a low intake day to maintain supply after 14 months BF.

Good luck to you, the other posts have made some great points and at least you know that while you are at work your DS will still be getting your milk, which is what matters most.

Teresa - posted on 06/11/2012




It;s funny that I have seen alot of breastfeeding mothers post to keep your fluidds up but my dr. ( male) said that fluid intake doesn't matter. hmmmmm. I say, follow the advicwe of those that are actually breastfeeding and you will be fine. When the pump first starts for me i feel sick. It has always been that way i winder if that affects my pumping. Good luck.

Merry - posted on 06/03/2012




Yes it's normal. I've heard a lot of women dislike pumping. But a lot of us dislike changing diapers too! We do a lot that we don't like for the sake of our babies. And I'm sure you will enjoy the fact that you're providing Cruz the best possible food even while earning some money for his future!
Learn to respect that pump, it is an amazing thing we have that option these days and your son is lucky to have you willing to dothis for him.

Anna - posted on 05/29/2012




I also hated it, made me feel like a milk cow but I did until my son was 16 mo. It was something I had to do, no way was I gonna give my son formula. There are a lot of things I don't like waking up at night for my 2 yr old or spending over an hr with him sometimes getting him to sleep but I still do them, it's what motherhood is about :) Give it a shot, you might get used to it.

Samantha - posted on 05/27/2012




I pumped at work with my first son.

I pumped in my office. I put on soothing music and relaxed. I also had a picture of my son that I took just before he latched and a recording of a hungry cry to help me with let-down before I started pumping. When I used these visual and auditory aids I found that I got more milk when I pumped.

I also drank a lot of water, kept taking my prenatal vitamins and ate a good diet and it helped me maintain a good milk supply.

My son was eating 3 to 4 ounces by 6 weeks every few hours. We prepared the amount of bottles needed for the day let them thaw in the refrigerator over night. Then my mom (who watched my son) would microwave a large mug of water for 2 minutes and put the playtex nurser in the water about 30 min before feeding time. That gave it time to cool to drinking temperature (she still tested on her wrist).

We used the Playtex nursing system and low flow silicone because he had to work or use his mouth muscles to get the milk from the bottle just like the breast and because you could express the air out and he had less gas. It was easy for mom to use and closest to a breast feeding experience for us. All we had to do was boil nipples, clean the rest in the dishwasher and use the sterile bags.

I also noticed that my friends who did a lot of work sterilizing bottles quickly grew tired of nursing because it was twice as much work.

I pumped into a plastic liner, sealed it and dated it so I knew when it was pumped and frozen. That made it easier. Then I put the liners in the bottles the night before they thawed over night and mom warmed them just before he ate.

I can imagine that it would be difficult to see your baby eat from a bottle when you are nursing.

My mom suggested that I never feed him from a bottle so that he knew nursing was the way he ate with mommy. I followed her advice and he was always happy and ready to nurse when I got home. We were able to nurse exclusively (no formula, no food) for his first year. I worked 6 months during my final semester of graduate school and summer session and pumped. He transitioned well to the breast full time after I graduated.

Good luck. It is understandable that seeing that made you upset. As you (mom, baby and dad) get accustomed to the new work routine and your husband gets better at understanding the baby's hungry cry and other signals it will get easier.

Rebekah - posted on 05/26/2012




Definitely drink the fluids! I dried out in a month after returning to work because of dehydration. I also hate to pump.

Sara - posted on 05/25/2012




Thanks Amy! I am glad you painted a better picture for me as far as my husband feeding Cruz during the day and me not pumping at home or witnessing a bottle feeding. I am bad at drinking anything and I plan on keeping a water bottle in plain sight at all times. Thanks again!

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