Is it normal to feel sad that your bfed child has weaned?

Michelle - posted on 08/22/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I exclusively breastfed my son from birth till last week. Which means he was breastfed from birth January 2009 till August 2011 (31 months). I wanted to wean him at 24 months but it did not happen. I gave myself till May yet still it did not happen. Then all of a sudden he self weaned. He sang a song to bid breastfeeding goodbye and that was that. Now I feel like he has grown up so much.

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Ella - posted on 08/24/2011

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Terri, I'm confused as to why you think a baby needs to learn independence and why you have decided the arbitrary cut off date is 12 months, maybe at this point we should send them out to earn their keep and stop hanging around being so needy? Are you aware that the World Health Organisation recommends feeding for 24 months for optimum child health? If you want to put other things before your child's welfare that is up to you, but it doesn't give you the right to judge other people's choices as "sick", maybe you should check the evidence first?

Amanda - posted on 08/23/2011

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Terri I think you are the pathetic one. Breastfeeding your child past a year means your a good mother and are taking care out your child. Just because you don't agree with the choices other mother make does not give you the right to judge them for it. For the record I have a very full life working full time dating and enjoying my romantic life all WHILE breastfeeding maybe you should have learned to multitask

Terri Lynn - posted on 08/23/2011

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I breastfed for a year. In these cases where women go on 2 or 3 years, it is kind of pathetic how they cling to it as if they had no life outside of their child and breastfeeding. It seems a little sick to me and later on these same women will want to make the child her own identity. I breastfed for a year but much of the breastfeeding in the last 3 months was expressed milk from a sippie cup. I allowed freedom to develop. I also was writing for a living, did volunteer work for animals and people, and had many hobbies and interests as well as having a romantic marriage with my husband. If your child is over 12 months old and you are still nursing, it is a sign mom needs to get a life and stop clinging.

Amanda - posted on 08/23/2011

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I can't imagine not being sad when your baby weans.... I am still nursing and my son is only 15 months old but I know I will be sad

Jo - posted on 08/23/2011

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BF until 15 months with bottle only between week 2-7 while I got over massive mastitis, nipple half gone, absesses and nipple vaso-spasm..... incidently we'd already taught him the concept of "last" by doing positive things - last kiss, last cuddle, last book etc.. and had been then able to use it with other things such as last episode of bob the builder.. the morning of our last feed, he had finished and rolled off [we fed in bed] and I said "last one" and smiled, rolled back and had a last drink. I consider myself so lucky to have that memory. We also took so photo's of us together, feeding, on his first birthday (favourite nightie and nappie pants on DS) and they are gorgous and a delightful memory. A couple even carefully enough composed to have in a frame in the bedroom - really helped me with the transition to be able to see it. Can strongly recommend it to those still BF'ing.

our DS is about the same age - 3 in December - and has had growth spurts lately - the sense of being all grown up would have been with you regardless of self weaning - if that helps!

Ania - posted on 08/23/2011

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I would be sad :( They just grow up and that is the hardest thing to see for a parent

Marjorie - posted on 08/22/2011

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I felt sad when my daughter finished up feeding - she was fine and happy with her choice...I was gutted and imagined what it would be like on her wedding day. LOL.

Sandie - posted on 08/22/2011

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wow, well done you for breastfeeding so long, youve done so well, be proud of yourself!!

i stopped breastfeeding a little under 2 weeks ago after 27months of breastfeeding :) yay me! lol. i stopped because he kept telling me it was all gone after a few mins, so i figured id stop now.

i know what you mean about feeling a bit sad, suddenly theyre not babies anymore, i felt a little bit like i wasnt needed anymore for a few days.

he still asks for milk in the morning, but i remind him that its all gone and we have snuggles instead.

so cute your little one sang a little goodbye song! be proud of what you've done, and enjoy the next chapter of your life with your son, xx

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