just weaned my son

Courtney - posted on 09/06/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




hello ladies, I just need some advise.
My son is now 25 months and its been 1 week 3 days of no breastfeeding at all. I was ready since he was 18 months but wanted to wait it out for him, he got down to only night time feeding for a couple months and stopped daytime completly because I was at work.

The thing is, now that he is not nursing he still wakes up at that same time every night. I would just nurse him in our bed because Im 25 weeks pregnant and can no longer fit in his toddler bed.
Now we give him milk and his dad goes to lay with him until he falls asleep but he still wakes up a couples hours later (the time when he would nurse) and want into our bed. He'll try asking to get nursed but I simply say "no, no nurse time" and hes fine with it and asks for milk.

My boyfriend has tried going in his room and lays with him to see if he'll fall back asleep but he wont :( I usually dont have a problem with him in our bed, but being pregnant is leaving us with less room in the bed as is

How can I get my son to skip that time at night and just sleep right through?


Ashley - posted on 09/07/2011




Your son has developed a need to be in your bed because he was used to being nursed there. Now that it is time for him to stop nursing he also has the task of getting used to being in his own bed instead of mommy's bed. Your boyfriend has the right idea laying with him in his room. Getting kids out of the parents' bed is one of the hardest habits to break. It is going to take alot of patience and lost hours of sleep. Your boyfriend can give your son his milk in his own bed and then lay with him awhile. It may take a long time for him to fall asleep, but if he cries or gets up if your boyfriend leaves the room then it's best for him to stay in your son's room until he falls asleep. The fact that he's drinking his milk in his bed means he is winding down and that should be helping him to get tired. Your boyfriend could try humming, singing, or playing quiet music to your son, too. After awhile he will get used to his own bed. After that you can try to start leaving him alone in there to fall asleep, checking on him every once in a while. Once that happens you can start trying to get him off the nighttime feeding. Just put him in his bed and let him fall back asleep. It should get much easier once he can go in his room and fall asleep alone. I'll be honest, it's going to be a bit of a process. Baby steps!! You'll get through it. The key to success: consistency. It's good you have your boyfriend to help since you're pregnant and you really need as much sleep as you can get! Good luck!


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Kathryn - posted on 09/10/2011




I had the issue with my daughter wanting to sleep in our bed with us while I was pregnant too. It was a lot of sleepless nights, but we continued to put her back in her bed when she would wake up and try to climb into ours. We also would at times lay with her. It is very hard, but its better to get him out of it now than to have to deal with it once the baby comes.

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