Large families

Rhianwen - posted on 06/08/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )




Does anyone else have, or is planning to have a large family?

I currently have 4 children, and would like at least one more. I have found that most folks are cool about this, but you get the odd rude comment to the effect of "don't you have a TV?" or "do you not know what causes them?"

I was wondering about other peoples experiences of the same.

Rhianwen from Australia

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Kate - posted on 08/03/2011




We haven't heard this yet -- we are about to have #3 but are aiming for 10. Most say things like, "Oh, once you have a few, you'll change your mind" (nope) or "You'll probably stop after 5 or 6, they're a lot of work" (thanks, I've been a parent for a few years now and I know that, plus they won't all be little at once...). Anyway, I just smile and nod most of the time then go do whatever I want. We take care of our children very well with no assistance and don't need to worry about what others think.

Kelly - posted on 11/08/2010




We have 5 and we are expecting number 6. People are constantly answer if we are going are planning to stop. I always tell them that the great thing I am doing is being a mom and that we are not sure how many more we are going to have. I always wanted 6 and my husband want 8 to 12 so we will see.

Briana - posted on 11/08/2010




I personally only want 2 (at most) but that's because my husband is in the Army and in the 5 years we've been together, he's been gone half of that time with training and deployments. So I could only handle about 2 kids on my own all the time haha. But I grew up in a large family with 3 sisters and both my parents had very large families and I absolutely LOVE the atmosphere and the loudness and craziness sometimes. And LOTS of love :)

Just so you know, those of us who only want 1 or 2 always get comments, just the other way around. Especially the "When are you going to have another one" and my son is barely 8 months old! I'm always like "Give me some time with my kid please!" haha. There's pressure from people for us to have another one asap and I absolutely hate that. You just gotta shut out those people and do what makes you happy :)

Corrine - posted on 11/08/2010




Hi Rhianwen~ I am a mom of 5 with one on the way & I hear those comments all the time. It has gotten offensive at one point but now I just say well out of the 6 they should all be able to pitch in & take care of their dad & i when we get old. lol

Theresa - posted on 06/09/2010




When we told my MIL that we were expecting #3 her first comment was "You're going to get something permenant done now aren't you?" Not kidding, the first comment with news of going to be a grandma again. She was really floored when we announced #4 to her. As long as the kids are taken care of, loved and behave well then it's no one's business how many a couple chooses to have.

Rachel - posted on 06/09/2010




I'm the oldest of ten children and currently have six myself. I've heard some rude comments over the years. but mostly people are fine with it. Often, older people will say they wish they had had more children. It is a different lifestyle but loads of fun. you should see Christmas at our house! We don't go on fancy vacations or have brand new cars. Life is simpler but at the same time crazy. If you want more kids I wouldn't let other people's comments bother you. Personally, I wouldn't trade my huge family for anything.

Stina - posted on 06/08/2010




We were going to wait 4-5 years and have #3 and 4 when we were more financially stable but were surprised by #3. So, we're stopping at 3 because of finances and we don't want a large gap between the first kids and the last. Our baby is 13 months right now and I'm returning to school.

I've had people ask me when we are going to have another.

Honestly, I think it is rude for people to comment on the size of someones family or to ask when the next one will be coming.

If you want a large family and are able to support them- go right ahead. Ignore the rude comments. I envy large families since it is a dream that I have had to give up.

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