milk "coming in"

Katie - posted on 03/06/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hi there,
I am hoping that someone who has nursed while pregnant might be able to answer a question for me.
First heres a little run down on the situation. I am currently a few days shy of 20 weeks pregnant with my second. My son will be 15 months old in a few days. I had every intention of tandem nursing (if my body and kids agreed to it) but due to some early labour concerns my doctor has strongly suggested that I wean my son. I am not totally comfortable with weaning, but I am less comfortable with the severe braxton hicks I get every time I nurse. So anyways we are down to between 1 and 3 feedings a day. I am wondering if I keep nursing him once or twice a day until the new baby is born will my milk "come in" like it did with my first? I can't seem to find anyone who can share any experiences because anyone I talk to thinks that tandem nursing is crazy, whereas I think it sounds quite lovely. So can anyone share their experience with me? If I keep nursing will I still have gigantic, swollen, angry boobs for a few days when my milk comes in, or will it be way more bearable because it's already "In?" Any help would be great!


Penny - posted on 03/06/2011




hmmm very interesting question. i have no experience and no advice sorry, but i did just want to say that it is a very lovely thing you plan to do. i didnt sucessfully breast feed my 1st son he is 2 but i have managed to this time my second is 10wks. and i really feel a sense of guilt as if im treating my second better and really wish it could be equal and could breast feed my 1st son still, as he has shown an interest xx


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Pick up the book, "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" by Hilary Flower. It has tons of great info on nursing through pregnancy and beyond. I always recommend it to mom's who are nursing during pregnancy. I'm currently 21 weeks pregnant and nursing my 22 month old. My OB said that the farther along you get in your pregnancy you may feel crampy while breastfeeding and that's normal. I'm not sure if that's what you're feeling or if you're actually having preterm labor. That's something your doctor will have to decide. If you keep nursing your milk will gradually change back to colostrum. Your toddler can have colostrum (if they're ok with the taste). It doesn't hurt them, but it may cause slightly looser BM's because it has a laxative effect to help newborns pass the meconium. Your milk will come in a few days after the birth. I've heard lots of moms say nursing a toddler really helped relieve engorgement. I'm almost done with the tandem nursing book. It's been so helpful to me. Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 03/06/2011




i can't speak from personal experience but i do know that at some point (exactly when is different for all women) your milk will turn from milk, back into colostrum and it wont turn back into milk again until a couple days after you deliver. this happens for the majority of women whether they are still nursing an older babe or not. even if you do need to wean your son, he may take an interest in nursing again once your new baby arrives which will certainly help prevent engorgement when your milk comes back in.

good luck :)

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