My 10 week baby nurses every two hours and i get comments that i feed him to much?

La Rae - posted on 10/17/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )

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My son sleeps all night and during the day he eats every two hours except when he takes his 3 hour nap. I have two certain family member I hate being around because she has to make comments like he just ate or theres no way he can be hungry already even though he's screaming his head off and showing signs that he's ready to eat. Theres times he'll be crying because he's hungry and she'll say he just has gas pains or a belly ache. It just makes me so mad and frustrated because I tell her its because he's hungry and she gets all rude that i want to feed him so soon. I feel bad because its my husbands mom and the comments she makes about me feeding him makes me not even want to ever be around her and i dont know what to do about it?

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Jennifer - posted on 10/26/2010

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I eat every 2- hours even when I am not pregnant. that poor little baby has a stomach the size of a walnut, how much liquid can fit in there and how long could it possibly last?

It is pretty non-confrontational, to remind the MIL that he maybe going through a growth spurt and it won't last long.

Jennifer - posted on 10/19/2010

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Hi there, my name is Jennifer & my daughter is Saoirse (Seer-sha) and we live in Australia. My best friend is a Paediatrician and suggested that this is quite normal. We too have been feeding every couple of hours. Breast milk has a higher sugar content than formula. Its perfectly normal for the baby to be hungry around this timeframe. The only way you could stretch it out is to give a bottle of an evening throughout the night time feeds which would give you a longer period between feeds.

I figure they're so little for such a short time and Im happy to persist. Saorise is now 10 weeks old too and beginning to stretch her feeds out slightly and sleep longer by her own accord.

There is no real rule of thumb - all babies are different.

Whilst well meaning friends and family like to share their thoughts, comments and experiences - blow it a silent kiss and let it go. You know what's best for your bubba. Trust your inner insticts!

All the best,
Jenx

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I hate to say it, but she probably never breastfed and doesn't know that breast milk is easy to digest for babies. Most formula fed babies eat every 4 hours since it's harder for them to digest.

Michelle - posted on 10/18/2010

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Congrats on being a new mom! You are meeting baby's need and following your instincts... good girl!!

I encountered many of these same frustrations. To combat the overly vocal family/friends, I began a to educate them. Get your husband on board too, as your breastfeeding advocate. It's best for baby, and yet, society, family & friends seem to question rather than help or encourage breastfeeding moms. Do yourself a favor and begin educating the people who surround you and don't support you. It's natural; it's best... and it's your choice.

At times, I was rather abrupt and others much calmer, but effectively saying, "Well, you happen to be misinformed. I'm happy to educate you on breastfeeding/breastfeeding myths." kellymom.com is a great resource.

Your baby's cry is his way to communicate. Babies often nurse for comfort, not just food... it's a wonderful part about the bond breastfeeding creates between mother & baby. My daughter has never nursed for more than 12 minutes at a time... I felt like I was always nursing, but I got a sling and learned to nurse her on the move. I nursed a couple times an hour & family/friends ALWAYS had something to say... after I began educating, they have become both more supportive and have just learned how un-welcomed their comments are... (and yes, I did say that to them politely, so has hubby).

You are doing what you feel baby's needs... keep responding to your instincts; you are doing fantastic!

If your happy, and he's happy, that's all that matters. Good Luck!

Sarah - posted on 10/17/2010

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I got simular comments. Things will get better. Just try to ignore the person; you know what your baby needs. If they need a little info, consider telling them that breastmilk is digested far more quickly than formula--in about 1 1/2 hours or so. Also, a friend of mine said that it's not totally out of the question that babies need to eat "all the time" because grown ups eat every 2 1/2 ish hours; a baby's stomach is so much smaller than an adults. It just makes sence.

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Good for you for following your instincts! This is perfectly normal! You know what your baby is doing? He's just keeping your supply at the right level for him! Pretty smart, eh? Tell that to this person next time she makes any of her comments!

Michelle - posted on 10/31/2010

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Tell her to f off, its your child and you know wat he wantsif she wants to mother a child tell her to go have one. I had my daughter constantly try feed so i started to schedule it, evry 3 hours i feed her. My mother in law didnt like that and made comments or shed tell me wat my daughter wanted i ended up getting my partner to say something nicely b4 i blew it and went right off. i still hate being around her but the comments have dulled down dramaticly

Amelia - posted on 10/26/2010

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Two hours is a long time for a baby that age to go between feedings! I think the first time my daughter went that long (day or night) was around 6 months. Maybe print off some info from kellymom.com for them to read about cluster feeding and normal infant nursing habits.

Deanna - posted on 10/26/2010

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Every 2 hours is NORMAL. explain to them that breastmilk is easier digested and is digested quicker so babies are hungier more often. Maybe bring some pamplets from your local health center backing you up

Lise - posted on 10/26/2010

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You can also ask HER to provide research. I've said things like, "I've done my research. If you'd like to provide PEER REVIEWED research, I'd be glad to take a look at it."

La Rae - posted on 10/26/2010

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Thanks so much to everyone for all the helpful advice! But of course when I printed off info for her to get educated on breastfeeding she didnt even bother to read it.Shes been a mom so she of course knows it all?

Lise - posted on 10/19/2010

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WOW! My lo ate every 2 hours at that age, except at night where it was constant. You're doing great!

Brittany - posted on 10/19/2010

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EVERYONE I knew said this to me when my daughter was born. "you feed her way too much!", "she's going to be obese/HUGE!", "you can't just feed her every time she cries!". I know how infuriating it is to have people say that. Mostly it comes from the formula-feeding crowd who don't understand the HUGE differences in the milk. I have no idea how you can be polite about it but just ignore anyone who says that. Maybe print out a study for her that says that breastfed babies should be fed every 2-3 hours because that's what most of them say or you could tell her that's what the doctor and hospital told you to do. Try to explain that breastmilk is easier to digest so it's metabolized much faster than formula so the baby needs to eat LESS milk, MORE often. Other than that, you just have to ignore it until they stop nagging or the baby grows out of eating so often. Whichever comes first. =)
Good luck and you are doing GREAT!!

Lydia - posted on 10/19/2010

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it is totally normal for such a young baby to eat every 2 hours, especially if she sleeps through the night. my girl, now 6 1/2 months was like that. now that she started some solids, she eats like every 3 hours. i also have a mother in law who got on my nerves, because she wanted to spend time with my daughter... she keeps talking about when she'll finally be weaned and independent so she can spend a weekend with grandma. honestly, grandma's can be very demanding and annoying. (even though i am grateful for the help she offers). just do what you're doing, if she thinks she knows better ignore it and feed your baby.

Danielle - posted on 10/19/2010

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My daughter is 8 weeks and I get the same response. They just don't like the fact that they can't hold them right when they want too. It's also my husband mom. I really want to tell her about it sometimes but he asks me not too. I feel your pain. Just know your not alone. :(

Tara Lee - posted on 10/19/2010

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You're doing great! I agree with the other ladies, try to ignore. If that doesn't work, try to educate. My daughter fed every 2 hours for the first YEAR, during the day and once at night. If you and your child are happy and healthy, just keep doing what you're doing. Good Luck!

Tawny - posted on 10/19/2010

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my daughter was the same way she ate ever hour and a half to two hours and when they are 2 months they qo threw growth spurts! its normal for the baby to be hungry every two hours feed him your the mom not her just explain to her this is my son and i know when he is hungry my daugter was the same lke i said; hope i helped :)

Jodi - posted on 10/18/2010

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My daughter ate about hour and a half, growth spurts...about every 45 minutes! Breastmilk is digested easier than formula, therefore, it goes through their system a lot faster than formula. It is completely, totally, 100% normal for your child to be eating every 2 hours. Has she ever breastfed? I'm guessing not, if I were you, I would just make it clear that it's your child and you know your child better than she does. I would also tell her that your pediatrician says it's normal for your child to eat that often, even if you've never brought it up with your doc! A little white lie to get her to back off and give you some peace is worth it in the end if you ask me! Best of luck!

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My eats every two hours as well and 1 hour when she goes through growth spurts l. people forget that every baby is different, not every baby is the same especially formula fed babies. Your the mom and knows what your baby needs not everyone else. So what to do it about feed your baby when she wants to be fed and ignore your ml go proviatly in another room, nod/smile. i had to go through the same thing only i had difficulty bf so her saying was just give her the bottle. She to formula fed all her children.....

Amanda - posted on 10/18/2010

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You are doing exactly what your baby needs!! My little man is almost 4.5 months old and he still eats almost every hour! I wish people were more informed about breastfeeding, but so many people refuse to give it a chance. Just keep doing what you're doing, babies know when they're hungry, we don't!

Jenny - posted on 10/17/2010

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You are sooooo lucky he sleeps through the night at 10 weeks. Sounds like you know what you are doing with the nursing. I know it is hard but try to ignore the comments. She probably means well but does not know that what she is saying bothers you. I have had some people make stupid comments to me. If your baby is happy and you are happy, you are on the right track!

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Welcome to the club! There'll always be people who don't know much about breastfeeding but are ever so happy to criticise. My 13 months old didn't get off my breast for the first months or so - not daytime, nighttime, naptime - not EVER. I got stupid comments too and it really undermined my confidence at the time, although I knew I was doing the right thing. Just stick to your guns and try to ignore her, as hard as that may be. You are doing great!

Erin - posted on 10/17/2010

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You should just trust your instinct there Mom, my 18 week old also feeds about every 2 hours during the day/evening and 3-5hours at night. Its funny because I have the reverse issue with my MIL who only formula fed her kids and doesn't understand bf'ing at all and every time my son squeaks he must be hungry even if he ate half an hour before! LOL

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