my 14 month old isrefusing the breast do i need to wean?

Tracey - posted on 02/18/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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i was just bf my lo once at night, but lately the last 3 days he doesnt want it. My breast is a bit soar and i was just wondering do i need to wean or drain my breasts?

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Lori - posted on 02/18/2013

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If you're feeling engorged, you might want to pump or hand express until you're comfortable again.

Weaning is up to you. Generally, babies don't self wean before the age of 2 1/2. If YOU want to continue to breastfeed your LO a while longer, just keep offering. It could be he's teething or there is something else making him uncomfortable. Once that passes, he'll likely go back to nursing. (look up Kelly Mom & nursing strike). BUT.. if you're ready to wean this may be an easy time to do it. You'll just want to make sure you don't develop an infection from too much engorgement. Which goes back to my comment about expressing a little bit of milk. If you're going to wean, you want to only express as much as it takes to be comfortable again. If you're going to continue to nurse, you can empty the breast with the pump to keep your supply.

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Lori - posted on 02/18/2013

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It is really hard to continue when you have no support. But ultimately.. this is YOUR baby. You are the Mom, and you get to decide what is best for your baby. If you want to continue to nurse, the research is behind you on it being the best thing for your baby. The WHO recommends AT LEAST 2 years of breastfeeding. There are numerous benefits to both you and your LO if you do want to continue.

Now... not knowing what your medical conditions are - my only concern is if delaying treatment for you will affect your longevity. You do have to balance your health into the factor. However, if waiting on your treatment won't affect your long term health... then waiting a while longer while you continue to give your baby your breastmilk might make good sense for you.

I found that I had decent support for breastfeeding when my baby was little, but as she got older the support just slowly dropped away. I breastfed my first until she was almost 2 years old. I'm currently breastfeeding my 27 month old - with no end in sight. There are very few who offer much support, but I've learned to be matter of fact about what I'm doing, and since I'm confident in my decision I don't get too many people suggesting that I do otherwise. My mom has really been the only one to question my decision to my face. She was happy that I breastfed for the first 9 months. After that, she was ready for me to wean. With my first, I didn't really know how to respond. This time around I've told her about the benefits of continuing to nurse. And she hasn't brought it up again.

Tracey - posted on 02/18/2013

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I dont want to stop, I am feeling pressured to stop and with no support it makes it easier to just say, nows as good a time as any, as i have medical conditions that require treatment, that i would not be allowed whilst nursing, I have been advised by doctors to considered weaning??

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