My 16 month old does not sleep by her self or sleep through the night, help!

User - posted on 01/04/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I have a 16 month old girl and she doesnt sleep by herself nor does she sleep through the night. We have been following an evening routine for months now, but it is not helping. I used to be able to nurse her to sleep until about a month ago - which would take about an hour. And I got tired, and my husband then started to walk with her to make her asleep, and now she only sleeps that way. She nurses, but then stands up and runs around everywhere.

She also wakes up every 3 hours in the night to feed. We are co-sleeping since the beginning, since she hated the crib (she was waking up more often in the crib) and I work full time, so I wanted to feed her and go right back to sleep.

But after 16 months of doing this, it is now getting extremely exausting. How can I make her sleep by herself and/or make her sleep through the night?

Thanks
Neelima

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User - posted on 01/05/2012

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No, I was never waking her up in the morning, since she was sleeping even worse than now in the night before. So I was wanting her to get some sleep. But in the last 2-3 days, I am not particular about keeping it totally quite after 8 am, and even a single noise wakes her up. But I guess I will try waking her up even earlier around 7 am, so she sleeps earlier and all the family can get to work in time.
Thanks for the advice :)

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Do you wake her in the morning? Maybe you could try that. Wake her everyday at 7am (in a gentle way like opening the curtains, touching her face, etc.). Hopefully she will start to get tired by 8pm, since she's been up since 7am.

Maybe it's just a phase. :(

User - posted on 01/05/2012

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For the last 2 months I am trying to put her to sleep starting at 8:15 - 8:30pm. If she stays awake until after 9 pm, then she wakes up in the morning after 8:30 am - and I am too late for work. Ideally I want her to wake up at 7 am, which makes me believe that I should put her to sleep by 7:30-8pm, but that is not happening :(

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Maybe her bedtime is just too early. Not all babies are "textbook." My son is 16mo and hasn't slept the textbook 12 hours a night since he was a newborn. For most of his life, he has only needed 10-11 hours at night. That means if he goes to bed at 7pm, he either wakes at 5am for the day, wakes around 10pm or 2am for AN HOUR, or is restless all night. He does much better with a bedtime between 8:30-9:30.



I basically let him go to bed when he's sleepy. We rarely have bedtime battles. He goes to bed happily. After his bath, he cuddles or plays quietly with his father and then when he's ready, he says "nigh nigh." Sometimes this is at 8:30, other times 9:00.



But I believe kids should follow their natural sleep patterns and be taught to recognize their own tired feelings, rather than arbitrarily be sent to bed at a set time.



Some days get a bit wonky, but most babies have a rhythm that works for them. (Babies that are more irregular in their patterns need a little help.)



P.S. He nurses in the night.

Amy - posted on 01/05/2012

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I would probably do dinner first, bath, then maybe a quick snack, a story and then a feed. I would put her in the crib and let her cry for a few minutes, then go back in and comfort her. You can try rocking her for a few minutes or try and get her to lay down and rub her back while she is in the crib.

The other thing you can do is try and get her to spend some time in the crib when it's not bedtime. So you could put her in it with some toys while you are putting some clothes away. Try to do a few minutes at a time not during bedtime to make it more positive. Good luck.

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She does nap during the day, but at the day care. Starting only 3 weeks ago she started to nap in the crip at her day care, before that she was always sleeping in the swing.
At her day care, they put her in the crip and close the door and she sleeps - which tells me she is able to sleep by herself. But at home she absolutely doesnt want. Its the same problem with her eating, there she eats a LOT. But at home, I take 1 hour each meal to give her half of what she eats at day care :(

I put her to bed exactly at the same time everynight. I was giving her bath in the morning until now, but I want to try to give her bath in the evening to see if that does the trick. But I cant seem to decide on a schedule. I pick her up at 6pm, then we come home and do I give her a bath first or dinner first?

Amy - posted on 01/05/2012

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Earplugs, really?!?? First of all does she nap during the day, if so what does that routine look like, can you incorporate it into your nighttime routine? Do you put her down at the same time every night?

My routine is I change my daughter and then feed her. Usually she wants me to tickle her while we sing a couple songs. I then rock her for a little bit and out her in the crib. Sometimes she goes to sleep other times she may cry. If she crys for more then a few minutes I go back in and rock her a little longer. If she naps in a crib during the day I would think it would be easier for her to transition into a crib at night. Otherwise you can check out kelly's moms for nighttime weaning tips!

http://www.kellymom.com/bf/weaning/weani...

Cindy - posted on 01/05/2012

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Hi Neelima
You need to be firm about this. you do your child no favors by pandering to her. Just put her in her crib and let her cry it out. She will get used to it sooner than you think.Ive found earplugs helped me alot. now my boyfriend and I can sleep and are better prepared to deal with my babys real needs because i am rested. I know it sounds harsh but its not at all. Just be consistant

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