My 20 month old is still breastfed to sleep, Will I have to break the habit or will he stop himself?

Sally - posted on 12/05/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )

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S still Falls asleep on the breast for his day & night sleep, will he stop this in time, is it bad for me to continue??

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Sammie - posted on 12/12/2010

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My son will be 4yrs old next month and he still nurses to sleep most of the time. It makes it a lot easier on me. There is nothing wrong with continuing. My daughter nursed until she was nearly 5yrs old and she almost always nursed to sleep. She is now a very healthy 9yr old who has no problem what so ever going to sleep all by herself.

Merry - posted on 12/13/2010

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I second that! I've looked into it a ton and I see that breastfeeding does NOt cause teeth decay, this would be evolutionary suicide!
Decay is from all the processed, sugary, fake ingredients we use.
Dentists do NOT know much about breastmilk and are usually very confused.

Aleks - posted on 12/12/2010

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my 22 mth old does the same!
don't worry, your child won't be needing this when s/he is 20years old... am sure nature will take over way before then ... don't stress.
LOL and I second what the other ladies above me said :-)
My LO will too fall asleep next to dad if I'm (on the very rare occassion) not there.
My LO still feeds like 2-4 times a night!!!
But its all part and parcel of bf a toddler. And I am happy about it :-)

Becky - posted on 12/11/2010

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my son is 26 months and he still nurses to sleep. sometimes he nurses very briefly and then rolls over and goes to sleep. I don't mind since it's a guaranteed tantrum free way to put him to sleep even when he resists initially. I figure when he's ready that he will quit. I would say as long as it doesn't bother you and it works that the benefits may outweigh the negatives.

Cat - posted on 12/13/2010

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Yes, he will stop this in time. Just be patient. There's nothing negative about breastfeeding to sleep. The only possible risk would be if he's prone to cavities, having the milk right before sleeping without brushing could add to that issue, but that's pretty rare. I've noticed that when my daughter nurses to sleep, she seems to sleep much better than if Daddy puts her to bed. :)

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Lisa - posted on 12/13/2010

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well my daughter still has never had juice or soda she is 2 and at her last dental visit the dentist informed me that the breastmilk that rests on the teeth at night can cuase cavities. anything that sits there for too long can cause problems. guess it all depends on the type of teeth your kiddo has. Mine get them very earlyt and they are very close together.=)

Becky - posted on 12/13/2010

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we brush my son's teeth very well right before bedtime and don't worry too much about cavities from breastmilk. i think it matters more what he eats during the day...so he doesn't get sweets and he doesn't drink any juice or sodas...water and milk only. he used to eat plain yogurt daily but is so picky now that he won't eat it but he eats some cheese which is better for his teeth. like other's have posted i also read that breastmilk has enzymes to prevent cavities.

Sammie - posted on 12/13/2010

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Breastfeeding/breastmilk will not cause cavities. In fact breastmilk has properties in it that help protect teeth from decay.

Lisa - posted on 12/13/2010

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Nice to hear I am not alone. My daughter turned 2 last week and still nurses to sleep when I am there(she will let daddy put her down sometimes too) She also wakes frequently to nurse at night wich my dentist said had to stop unless I wante dto brush her teeth at 1am. she has a cavitiy from bf at night! So we have tried to nix that but she still nurses for a nap and at night. I would like to stop, but she is not ready.

Christie - posted on 12/13/2010

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Yes he will stop (I don't know any adults who need a breastfeed to sleep :P), and as long as you are both happy it isn't bad at all. It's nature working at it's best. Good on you mama!

Laila - posted on 12/12/2010

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My daughter nursed herself to sleep until she was 25 months old; I had to wean her because I was 3 months pregnant, but I was trying for a year with no luck. Finally I tried something called numzit on my nipples and she stopped cold turkey.

Sally - posted on 12/12/2010

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Thanks everyone for you coments, is so nice to know I'm not alone on this subject. I do want him to self wean & eventually fall asleep by himself :)

Melissa - posted on 12/12/2010

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@ Sarah Venn- my mother makes me feel the same way about nursing my son. She doesn't agree with it AT ALL. I think way too many people associate the breast with something sexual, and don't believe that a older "baby" still needs to nurse. Know that your child is still getting all of the nutrients, antibodies, and comfort from nursing that she did as an infant. You are not alone in nursing a toddler. Don't feel embarrassed! There are A LOT OF US !! :)

Melissa - posted on 12/12/2010

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My son is 28 months old and still nurses to sleep at night, and BF quite a bit still during the day. He LOVES his boo boo. I do not see a problem with nursing to sleep and nursing at all at this age. I intend to allow him to self wean....I am not a believer in the cry it out method. However, I do STRONGLY recommend that you brush his teeth very well, especially behind the bottom front teeth.

Sarah - posted on 12/12/2010

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I'm so glad I've read this and am not the only one! My daughter is almost 23 months and still bf! When my mum & friends ask if she is still bf I've been feeling soo embarrassed! My daughter will fall asleep in car or stroller too but in the evening just wants me! and thro the night too!! It is also the only thing that calms her down if she is really upset!! I hope she does just grows out of it I tell her she is a big girl now & doesn't need mummy but she's having none of that at the mo!

Jayde - posted on 12/12/2010

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My bub is the same as Vikki's. When i'm around its boob to bed if not in the stroller or car. I love that my nearly 20month old bf's herself to sleep- i've never had a problem with sleep times this way if it makes you feel better i'll be doing it until she's at least 2. So easy to put them to sleep that way.

Sally - posted on 12/12/2010

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EVery baby will stop when they are ready if their mom lets them. My current baby stopped nursing to sleep at 9 months. That came as a complete shock to me because her big sister didn't do that until she was about 3 1/2 years. Enjoy it while it lasts.

Tanya - posted on 12/11/2010

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My son was 26 months when he stopped nursing to fall asleep and 27 months when he weaned himself. If he wants too and you are ok with it, let him continue, it is not a bad thing

Tarryn - posted on 12/11/2010

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My lb will be 2 next month and he still does. Some times he's fine to go to sleep on his own and other times he won't. I believe in letting them self wean, which is when he decides to stop.

Merry - posted on 12/06/2010

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He will stop when he grows out of the need! My son is also 20 months and also bf to sleep.
I'm due with baby two in may so that might make it tricky, but I won't deny him this!
It's the natural way babies and toddlers should fall asleep so I want to let him do as he needs.Some naps he will fall asleep without it so I know he will one day stop on his own. If I start pushing him to stop it will backfire and mess up his trust in me.
So I will just try to make it work with the new baby and try to not short change Eric on his time with the boobies!

So yes he will stop on his own,
No it is not bad to continue

And I would say it could be bad to stop him! Build his trust, let him count on you, it will make him all the more kind and loving and trusting to you.

Vicki - posted on 12/06/2010

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He will stop it in time, but it may be awhile! If it's ok with you then there's nothing wrong with it at all. If you do want to change I recommend no cry sleep solution. My boy can go to sleep in the car or stroller. He will also fall asleep lying next to his dad if I'm not there. If I'm around he just wants boob! I gently take him off the boob before he's completely asleep, if he wakes up I give it back to him then try again in a few seconds. Usually now he just rolls away from me and goes to sleep.

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