My baby is 5m old.. i am nursing full time, and now deciding its time to wean,but having a hard time

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Merry - posted on 11/14/2010

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If your dr is saying you are too underweight to breastfeed, then maybe you can get ideas from him/her as to how to wean!
I lost alot of weight too while breastfeeding but I'm not malnourished so I'm not thinking about weaning. I just am eating and drinking more!
But by all means, if your dr says you must, then your health might be priority over your babies health.
I think when a woman gets too underweight to breastfeed her milk will dry up completely so odds are you won't have to do anything to wean, it will just dry up and you can start replacing breastfeeds with bottle-feeds.

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Your baby won't starve herself. Try leaving her with someone else for several hours and have them bottle feed her. When she realizes it is easier to drink from a bottle she may not want to nurse a lot. But also only cut out one feeding at a time every few days or you will find yourself very uncomfortable and possibly get plugged ducts. Check out this link from kellymom

http://www.kellymom.com/bf/weaning/

Merry - posted on 11/16/2010

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Usually mother nature tends to work things out, I'm guessing you are about 5'3 like me cuz I'm also supposed to be 125-130 but I was 107 when I got pregnant and was still bf my toddler.
It was scary, I didn't want to hurt my tiny baby by not gaining weight! But I knew my son needed to bf so I stuck it out and got tips on gaining weight and finally I'm now 116! I'm so happy I didn't give up on bf him cuz I would regret it forever.
Have you been to a la leche league meeting? They are bf support and so helpful! You could get weaning advise if you are set on it, or you could get advise as to get to a healthier weight without weaning.
The web site is llli.org then select country, state, city etc to find a meeting by you!
They will respect your decision if you really must wean, but will also help you any way they can. It's lovely to have other moms going through the same thing,and face to face is alot more fun then online :)

Amanda - posted on 11/15/2010

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i have tried leaving and havin someone else ie: her father n my bff try to bottle feed her.. and she wouldnt take to it :( just got really PO'd :(

Amanda - posted on 11/15/2010

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in all honesty i really dont need my dr to tell me im too underweight.. for my age and height i shou.ld be 125-130 im 97-99.... 100 on a good day no matter how much i eat i am healthy but just not heavy enough lol

Merry - posted on 11/15/2010

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Ya my friends think I'm lucky to lose so much weight, but I'm now at 19 bmi and 18.5 is the limit for being underweight!
And to top it off I'm now pregnant and still breastfeeding! My dr was worried but I know Eric needs to not be weaned before two years so I told my dr I wouldn't wean him early, and now I'm just working on gaining weight for this pregnancy and it's slowly working. I've gained about three pounds in the last few weeks so I'm now on track!
And Eric is breastfeeding at least 6 times a day so I have to eat a ton, and I have no appetite usually, but it's worth it for me to force the food in so I don't have to wean him. But if I was actually malnourished I'd have to think about my options, no one benefits from a sick mommy!

Lydia - posted on 11/15/2010

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bottle: let somebody else try to give a bottle and you should be out of sight... your baby doesn't want a bottle from you because you have the "real thing" right there...



maybe you can partly continue to breastfeed, the benefits are worth it.



by the way: you are probably feeling like a nursing machine right now. most babies have a growth spurt around that age (5-6 months) and for me this was the hardest one so far... the growth spurts before that were nothing compared to this one... somedays i wanted to hide and run away because i was just so tired of nursing every 2 hours day and night. it lasted 2-3 weeks, and now we are more relaxed than ever. she's eating some solids and is still bfing every 3 hours, but eating short time only, except for the evening feed which is ok to be long.

Lydia - posted on 11/15/2010

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i guess there are some moms out there who would be jealous because they don't loose weight... but i know what you're talking about. i was always slightly underweight, couldn't gain no matter how much i ate. but since i am totally healthy i don't care. after birth i got back into my pre-pregnancy clothes within 3 months, still weighed 3 kilo's more than before. but that's gone now too. (i had hoped it will stay!) i'm still breastfeeding and i eat more than ever in my life, but loose weight. it's freaky. but again i am well so i don't worry. i just keep eating good and regularly. about the freedom, i know what you're saying and it's ok to feel like this. there are times were you just want a little distance, no matter how beautiful the bond is. hang in there and eat!

Amanda - posted on 11/14/2010

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i want to weannow becaus i have lost far too much weight, n haver always had a hard time gaining and with me losing this much it will take me months maybe even yrs to gain it back..... i have already started her on cereal 2 weeks b4 4 months and im now introducing veggies... i love the bond but i can do with out feeling attatched and not being able to do out n do my own thing for an just an hr ... she is still eatting every 2-4 hrs off me and i am also having a hard time gettin her to even take to a bottle.. now im not sayin i dont love her but i can really use some "freedom"

Brooke - posted on 11/14/2010

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Just wondering why you feel you want to wean at such a young age? My daughter is 7 months and I am still nursing as well as feeding her solids and I love the bond I get with your baby I nurse. But it is hard to have to be there to feed her but when they start fruits and rice cereal that gives you a little break so you can go do mom stuff and someone else can feed her.

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