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My baby is used to breastfeeding and cries when we give her a bottle. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make her like the bottle?

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Marifei - posted on 03/31/2009

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We introduced the bottle gradually (with expressed breastmilk) when my son was about 8 eights because I knew I was going back to work.  According to my lactation consultant, let "Dad" give him the bottle at first.  Not only that my husband got more involved and bonded with our son, it  would be easier and more accepting of our son to take milk from a bottle.  I'm a first time mom, and I had to show my husband how to introduce a bottle.  Oh, it was a struggle at first.  Both my son and my husband got very fraustrated.  During this "bottle feeding session,"  my son cried a lot and constantly pushed the nipple out with his tongue (not used to the silicon nipple).  And my husband thought that was a signal that my son had enough to eat.  I knew that that was not the case.  Therefore, I made sure he had a good feeding before and after introducing the bottle to ensure sufficient milk intake daily.  My husband would give my son a bottle once or twice a day at first until they both got the hang of it.  I had to leave the room most of the time when my husband gives him a bottle; otherwise, he would not eat.  When my son turned 3 months old, I returned to work full-time, and he had no problems with the bottle.  He is now 6 months old, exclusively breastfed, and I'm still working full-time.  Just be patient and persistent.  It takes time for a baby to get use to taking milk from a bottle.  Hope it works out for you.   

Lise - posted on 03/29/2009

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I don't understand the suggestion to mix breast milk with formula - the question isn't how to get a baby to accept formula in a bottle - its how to get her to accept a bottle period. Sometimes (not very often) a baby will only accept a bottle with formula, in which case formula may be necessary. But usually, if a baby will accept a bottle at all, it is with breast milk. If she is accepting the bottle with breast milk, why would she need to switch the baby to formula?

Jessica - posted on 03/28/2009

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We had this problem a time or two when my boys were still bfing. My hubby had to try to feed them MY milk from a bottle (forget which one it was, but will ask him). I had to be OUT of the room, and it took awhile of getting used to, but it finally worked. I want to say it was a Playtex Nurser nipple/bottle. Does that sound right? It was awhile ago.

Ghada - posted on 04/01/2009

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hmmmm, may be she is refusing the milk itself, or may be she is refusing the bottle, try to pump up some milk and feed her with a bottle to see her reaction, well i guess breastfeeding is sweet but needs some patience;)

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Tamara - posted on 03/30/2009

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Quoting Kim:



I will continue to beastfeed when I am with her but while I am at work I obviously cannot.  My daugheter is only a month old and I feel really bad that I cannot stay home with her.  I do not want her to have a hard time taking the bottle but I really have  no choice.





Have you tried using an open cup or a straw cup?  I found my daughter made the transition easier with a straw since it used similar motions to drawing out the milk from my breast.



 



http://www.kellymom.com/bf/pumping/alter... has lots of information on feeding that doesn't require a bottle.

Kim - posted on 03/29/2009

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I want to thank everyone for their comments.  There has been some very useful information and I will make sure to try anything.  I do not feed her the bottle at all.  My mom will be watching her so I have given her all the advice that you have given to me.  This is my first child and I just want her to be happy!

Laura - posted on 03/29/2009

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Good luck.  Mixing breastmilk with formula to fully transition to formula is a great idea.  You will need to entrust the person feeding your baby to be very patient.  She'll eventually take to a bottle over time.

Brandi - posted on 03/29/2009

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Quoting Kim:

My baby is used to breastfeeding and cries when we give her a bottle. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make her like the bottle?




You cannot alwys do what the baby wants. My youngest was the same. I tried a few tricks that seemed to work. I tried a million diffrent nipplews until I found one that he prefered with breastmilk in the bottle. I did not pum for very long just until he was used to the bottle and I started adding formula to the brest milk so that the tast of both was familiar. Then he finally took the formula. I did not like pumping an both times my milk just got to know my schedule. I breat feed my oldest son until 4 and my youngest about the same,



There are other things to try like the bag bottle that is supposed to be more like a breat and the bottles taht come wih the human milker seemed to be the ones that he went for. Do not worry about the people that say things like te first post, they are not you. I wonder if they breat feed their children as long as me because of course I could say that is what is best right? wrong? what ever. Just keep trying and you know that if every time the child crys and you give in that will just keep th child crying for what they want. You are doing a great job I am sure just breatfeeding your child has given you a special closeness that you will always cherish.

Lise - posted on 03/28/2009

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A lot of great suggestions above about trial and error, and throwing in as many pumping sessions as you can to build up both supplies (freezer and breasts). I would add that you want to make sure to use a stage 1 nipple to keep the flow slow.



My own bias is that breast milk is best, so I would suggest trying out a huge array of nipples and cups before trying out formula. Of course, if nothing but formula works, that's what works, and making sure a baby is fed hardly makes anyone a bad mother.

Amber - posted on 03/28/2009

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I was breast feeding exclusivly up untill a couple of weeks ago and decided to throw a bottle in their along with the boob as the last feeding before bed..just to help fill her up and sleep through the night..which hasn't helped..anywho...it took several nipple types for her to take to it..she like the PLAYTEX FAST FLOW LATEX SOOTHER NIPPLE..it is discontinued at the walmart stores and can only be purchased in the playtex drop ins boxed gift set..for 16$..needless to say we have one nipple...which is not a huge deal b/c she only gets on bottle a day...she is 5.5months old..and we went that long without a bottle..keep on the boob for as long as you can...but if you can't and know you cant..its ok...

Rachel - posted on 03/28/2009

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When I had to return to work, my little guy didn't want to take the bottle either because he wanted to nurse :) He was inconsolable about it if I was anywhere nearby so hubby was in charge of getting him to take a bottle--I either had to be on the other side of the house or out of it completely! Hubby would take off his shirt so they could have some skin to skin, just as I would have had with babe, and he'd have one of my shirts for babe to hold onto and smell. It wasn't easy and to tell you the truth my son never liked the bottle. But he would take it while I was gone and eat just enough to get by and then nursed like crazy when I was at home :) I pumped at work so he always got breastmilk.

Margaret - posted on 03/28/2009

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i work so my son needs to have a bottle every once in awhile we made my schedule as close to not needing a bottle as possilble but he was still hungry my husband was the one that found out that he did not like to be held while bottle feeding he puts him on the boppy to feed i understand if you were used to the closeness of breastfeeding you would not want people to try to cuddle with you either so maybe put the baby on a pillow and see what happens

Amanda - posted on 03/27/2009

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well my daughter is 5months old im a stay at mom n breastfeed full time. i also use a nipple shield cause she was not latchin right at first and now were both atatched to it n i have used it ever since. i have pumped a couple of times to give a bottle when travelin to make it easier but didnt work so well i have the playtex drop ins and she didnt take it but ive only tried twice. when she was 2months old tho she did take a glass evenflo bottle for the night by my mother so i could go out for a night and did great but it comes with trial n error and findin the right bottle for your baby so dont give up but i agree for u to pump as much as possiable before any formula it is supply on demand dont be down on ur self everyone is different with different babys...i am also slowin pumpin everyday n freezing it so i can go out for a night for my b-day in april so i will also be tryin to give her a bottle every other day so she can get use to it a bit...good luck hope all is well

Jennifer - posted on 03/27/2009

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My son is 3 months old and he will not take a bottle from me either. My hubby got himto take the bottle, but we use the playtex ones and if for some reason my son won't take it from him, we spray a bit into his mouth by squeesing the bag and that usually gets him to latch on to the bottle. We use the slow flow nipples too.

Gretchen - posted on 03/27/2009

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Hello,



I am a first time new mom myself.  I am heading back to work in one week :(  There is absolutely nothing wrong with giving your baby a bottle.  you might have to try a variety until you have found the nipple of choice.  My lactation specialist suggested playtex drop-ip slow flow nipple.  The slow flow makes them work harder for the milk (like a breast) where as most nipples flow fast causing gulping and gas.  I do pump feresh or freeze and thaw.  Also when you bottle feed intially have your partner or someone other then you feed the bottle.  they associate you with the breast.  Also, turn the baby fadce out for bottle.  Its all worth a shot.  Do not ever be ashamed!  It is your baby and you do what is best for you and your baby.  Mother knows best :) Different strokes for different folks. Good luck to you!

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yeah dont give her a bottle. If you decided to breastfeed then do it, dont tease and give it to her for a few months and then take it away. My son never liked bottles my mom only got him to take about 4 oz while i was gone for 8 hours at work.

Itsamystery - posted on 03/27/2009

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Just wanted to clarify:

Firstly about needing to supplement, I meant: at first you will be able to pump enough milk at work for whoever is caring for her to feed to her exclusively with your milk while you're away, but it might be difficult for you to keep your supply high, or to increase it as your baby grows. Thus, you may need to supplement down the track. If this happens you shouldn't feel bad about it.

About pumping at work on your breaks, I meant you should do this in order to collect your milk so that whoever is caring for her can give her your milk while you're not there. A side benefit will be that you'll continue to produce milk throughout the day, so any time you have a day off you can nurse her.

Sorry if my previous post was confusing.

Itsamystery - posted on 03/27/2009

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You could try giving her milk from a medicine dropper or a spoon. I agree with Kristen, it's probably better to get someone else to try giving it to her because when she's with you she'll want the real deal. I would avoid using a bottle for at least another month if you can so that she doesn't start preferring the bottle over the breast.

I agree with Kristen, if you have no choice but to return to work you shouldn't feel bad about giving her some formula ( I think whatever you do, you'll probably have to supplement with formula because your milk supply just wont be high enough this early in the breastfeeding relationship). BUT, it's best for her to have as much of your milk as possible for the first 6 months, especially if she's going to childcare where there's lots of illness being passed around. So I think you should try to give her as much of your milk as possible. You can pump for 5-10 minutes after each feed or pump on the opposite side while she's feeding. You wont get much at first but it will increase after a few days. You'll have to keep pumping at work on your breaks. If you do this you'll keep your milk supply and you can nurse her full time on your days off.

Good on you for choosing the best nutrition for your daughter for this first month and for your plans continue to breastfeed in the evenings.

Amanda - posted on 03/27/2009

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i am going back to work in 2 months and my daughter is 4 months now i give her a bottle of expressed milk every day only about 30 mls so when i do go back to work it wont be as hard for her to get used to it. she used to cry and cry but she eventually took it after trying and wasting milk for about a month.

Itsamystery - posted on 03/27/2009

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It's a shame that you have to go back to work so early. Will you be working full time? Because your daughter is only 4 weeks old your milk supply won't be fully established. Is there any way that you could postpone returning to work, even just for another few weeks? This is such an important time for you and her to be together. Introducing a bottle this early could give her nipple confusion because the milk comes out of the bottle much faster. Once baby gets used to the bottle she might kind of 'forget' how to get milk out of your breast because it requires a whole different mouth action.

Diane - posted on 03/27/2009

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I went to a a sippy cup because mine didnt like the bottle there is ones you can get for little one know at walmart for $3 everyone is different o lisen to then if you want the baby off then that is up to you try the cup it worked for me

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Kim, who is the one offering her the bottle? Sometimes when they are still very young, they will not take the bottle from mom, but will take the bottle from someone else.Have you tried that? also, I hate to encourage a breastfeeding mom to use formula, but sometimes a baby will not take breastmilk from a bottle at all either, but will take formula from a bottle. Despite what many people say, you can still breastfeed when you are home and let your baby have formula when you are away. Hang in there! And ignore anyone who is close-minded and tries to make you feel bad. Not everyone is blessed to be able to stay home full time with their babies.

Tia - posted on 03/27/2009

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I am not 100% sure if this works, I am only going by what my friends have mentioned.  I know a couple of my friends have mentioned the nipple shield? They said when they were ready to make an easier transaction they got that.  That way their baby still had the security of their mother, but at the same time was getting used to something that wasn't "their nipple" .  They said when they did switch to the bottle with their children they had no problems.  You might want to look into that.  Sorry I can't give advice from personal experience...I still have about 6 weeks till my son is here, but wanted to try to help.  Hope everything works out for you.  Good luck. 

Kim - posted on 03/27/2009

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I will continue to beastfeed when I am with her but while I am at work I obviously cannot.  My daugheter is only a month old and I feel really bad that I cannot stay home with her.  I do not want her to have a hard time taking the bottle but I really have  no choice.

Kim - posted on 03/27/2009

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We give her a bottle because I will be going back to work in 3 days and she will not be able to have to boob.  So I have been trying to give her a bottle during the times I will not be able to breastfeed. 

Itsamystery - posted on 03/27/2009

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That's a bit harsh Katherine, without knowing her situation or why she needs to use a bottle. I agree with you that breastfeeding is best and babies MUCH prefer it, but sometimes a bottle is necessary. Convenience isn't the only reason mothers want to use bottles.

Kim do you mind sharing some more information like why you need to use a bottle and how old your baby is? Some of us are reluctant to give advice to wean from breastfeeding early, but if we know more about your situation, how old your baby is, etc. then we can give more appropriate advice.

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Wow....ok, no need to be harsh, Katherine......there is nothing wrong with needing/wanting to give your baby a bottle (you can always pump and give her your milk!) My son is a year old and still breastfeeds twice a day at nap time and takes a sippy cup aside from that, thank you very much.

Many breastfed babies will not take a bottle, but will take a sippy cup. Gerber makes a sippy cup with a soft spout that is very easy for babies to transition to from the breast. You may need to just try different ones to find which one is right for your baby.

Motherhood is trial and error, so don't let anyone make you feel bad for not doing things the way they would!!! The main thing is that you are trying your best to do what it right for you and your daughter!!! Hang in there!

Amy - posted on 03/27/2009

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Why are you trying to give her a bottle? Is it just out of convenience? If so, I wouldn't do it. Continue to breastfeed her. Yes, it's tough sometimes but well worth it.

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Dont give her a bottle. She hates it. She wants you. Breastfeed her. No one said mothering was easy or convenient. She may never like a bottle no matter what you do, so just keep her on the boob :)

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