My daughter is a very hard eater she cries everytime I try and feed her baby food we are way under weight amy suggestions?

Jill - posted on 01/03/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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We have been going to a pediatric GI specialist but so far no luck. She eats table food ok but not enough. Everytime I get baby food near her she just starts screaming and crying we have to force feed her. She is way under weight . Can anyone help?

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Chassidy - posted on 04/09/2013

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My daughter will be a year old on the 11th. She does the same thing. Everytime i try to feed her any kind of baby food she screams bloody murder but if i put table food in front of her shes perfectly fine. Its like she wants to feed herself. she dont want me to feed her. but i cant let her feed herself with the baby food. And theres not many table foods that she can eat cuz she only has 2 teeth. I'm just so stressed out cuz im afraid she gonna starve...

Emily - posted on 01/06/2009

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Is she teething? My third cut her first teeth at 4 months and each of my kids have gone through brief nursing strikes at various times, usually related to gum pain.

Also, my kids are all on the "small" side... actually, most of the charts in doctor's offices are based on formula fed baby growth, and are not always consistent with breastfed babies. My kids have never been above the 25th %, and my first dropped into the 5th %, then off the charts for a while. She continued to gain weight, she was not dehydrated and she met all of her developmental milestones fairly early... She was just a slow gainer. She's now a perfectly average (still 25 %) 3 1/2 year old, and very bright I might add. :)

Melissa - posted on 01/06/2009

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I don't have anything much for advice, I just have to say that I understand and I am in the same boat with my nine month old daughter, she is in the 3% and she doesn't like to eat, only picks at foods on her tray and turns away from the spoon, force feeding is a habit with us as well, she will opnly breastfeed for four minutes at a time and even then gets fussy about it, so I know where your coming from, I just wanted you to know that your not alone!

Heidi - posted on 01/06/2009

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My first baby didn't gain weight till the MD. suggested enfamil AR (it has rice added). This cleared up the weight issue. I ended up breast feeding maybe once a day until he completely refused the breast.

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How old is she? I t is very common for babies to go on "nursing strike" for a bit of time...Some babies just have better things to do with their time...eating disrupts what they want to do. I really hope things get better for you. It is so hard when you are worrying about your little one; not knowing if anything is wrong or not. Good luck.

Jill - posted on 01/05/2009

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I guess I should have mentioned she doesnt like to nurse it has been a struggle since 4 months old. She is pretty much refusing it now. We have reciently just moved up to the 3% before we were off the charts but since she has been eating table food more it has gotten better but we are still not where we should be and she still hates baby food.

Alicia - posted on 01/05/2009

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My older daughter (now 2 1/2) also cried when we tried to give her solids, she just wanted the breastmilk. She was also around 9th percentile (small). So we just gave her what she wanted (the breastmilk) and only tried to give her solids every once in a while until she started to take to it. She was probably 10 or 11 months old before she she was getting solid food more regularly. She is now in the 7th percentile for weight and 75th percentile for height and still not a very good eater, but she is healthy. Good luck.

Amy - posted on 01/05/2009

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ok have to put my 2 cents in too As long as she is staying in the same percentile then she will be fine as long as she is still bf she is getting all the nutriants she needs so dont worry about that either if she is taking table foods that is great she will eat what she wants both my kids hated baby food once they started table foods and would not touch them and they are just fine if you are really worried about her weight which I would not be try to increase the fat in your milk i was told to do that have a half cup of full fat ice cream before bed every night or at about the same time everyday I picked before bed to enjoy after kids went to bed or if she drinks formula try making it a little thicker by adding 1 extra scoop to an 8oz bottle I dont know if she takes formula or not i would not worry about her size like was said as long as she is staying about the same place on the chart she will be fine as long as she is growing I hope I helped Good luck she will get the hang of foods soon enough

Debbie - posted on 01/05/2009

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I too have "slow gaining" babies. With my now six year old son the doctor told me as long as they are staying on the same growth curve they are fine.

Stacy - posted on 01/05/2009

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I'm new here but thought I would give my 2 cents on this. I have a very small baby. She was almost 9 lbs. at birth but now at nearly 10 months she's only 15 lbs. She has stayed on her own growth curve though. For awhile there, she dropped down from 50% to the 10% and has stayed at less than 10% for months now, but is perfectly healthy! Is it possible that she has texture issues? Some babies don't like how food feels in their mouths, she could be one of them. You might try different textures...watering it down, softening it up, adding cereal to it to make it more clumpy. How old is she? What is her weight? What was she at birth? You sort of have to put the pieces together. Breastmilk is really all they NEED in the first year of life so I wouldn't be pushing solids if she's under a year.

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The other moms are right, it is not about weight or even percentiles. It is about growth. Is your baby staying close to the same percentile? If so then she is growing and just happens to be little. If she was in, for example, the 50% and then a month or two later was in the 20% then you need to evaluate what is up. Breastmilk provides all the nutrients your baby needs.



Genetics play a huge role in baby's size. Maybe she will destined to be tiny or maybe she is a "late bloomer."



She may just not want big people food. Breastfeeding is comforting and she may be perfectly happy with it right now.



Also, have you looked into food allergies or even celiac disease. My son was not gaining weight because he has celiac. My daughter has a ridiculous number of allergies and can literally eat fruits, veggies, meat, water and breastmilk. Nothing else--no grains, no soy....She too is very tiny (she is 2 and barely 21 pounds) but has stayed in the same percentile range so I know she is growing and developing fine.



Good luck.

Jana - posted on 01/03/2009

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Ok momma...here is my 2 cents( for what it is worth). As a pp stated maybe your lo is just on the smaller side. Does she seem hungry or unsatisfied after nursing ? Also as stated by pp try nursing first before feeding and other foods. and then breathe deeply before attempting the solids. She may be feeling your anxiety about the food situation and this is turning her off. You know, how our lo's are so in tune with mommy and tey pick up our anxiety...side story:

With my DS#1 I began Bf'ing and was so super nervous as I could not judge how much he was taking in, if he was getting enough ( you know ll the first time nursing anxiety cam into play. I noticed that he was not gaining weight as rapidly as other babys in my bf suport group and it sis not help that the MD was telling me how he was under the 25th percentile ( WHATEVER!). So I stressed some more..until I finally decided that I was not buying into the societal panic about feeing and and that I was goingto trust my body etc and let my baby tell me if he was satisfied or not). Once I let go and relaxed into it he piked up weight like you would not believe....

OK the moral of my long drawn out story is...trust that your baby will take in all that she needs. You are making everything that she needs available to her. keep in mind that before a year that solids are for play anyway as their bodies canot process the foods for nutrients anyway. Try as you can to take the anxiety out of the food and feeding. Offer the foods and be light hearted about it, make it fun. If you have had to try to force feed, this may take some time for her to get into it but she will no doubt . When she decides she has had enough so be it and move on with your day! try some yogurts that are always tasty, some finger foods that she can feed herself ( sweet potato, green beans, peas, cooked apples, soft pears. She may just want to feed herself and not be fed ...you know how us ladies can get sometimes :) . You are providing the best in the world for your baby just trust momma! She will continue to thrive! HTH! Take care

Jennifer - posted on 01/03/2009

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Have you tried making your own baby food? I've been making my own baby food and my son loves all of it because it's fresh and just tastes better. It might be worth the try. She should really be getting most of her nutrients from breast milk or formula...so dont' worry too much about the baby food.

Kendra - posted on 01/03/2009

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Make sure you nurse BEFORE solids each time! Just because she is small, does NOT mean she is underweight. Some babies are just small... she may be one of them! I would just stick with table food after nursing. My daughter only ate table foods and refused any form of baby food... I made my own too! I would just nurse THEN solids and she should do fine.

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