my husband gets mad whenever i pop a boob out to breastfeed what do i do?


Lori - posted on 02/21/2012




My husband gets more concerned about other peoples reaction to me breastfeeding too. I would be a bit more careful about using a nursing cover or a blanket when I was out with him just because I knew how uncomfortable he was with the idea that someone might see me feeding our baby. Luckily it wasn't an issue very often. My husband is in general pretty supportive of me breast feeding, and has never suggested that I do otherwise. But breast feeding in public makes him nervous. Oh well - I just deal with it, and still feed the baby when the baby needs fed.

If your husband has other issues with breastfeeding, maybe try to sneak in some education for him. Let him know the health benefits for both you and your baby. Print off some info for him and leave it for him to find and read, or just randomly throw it into conversation..... "honey did you know that breastfed babies have fewer ear infections than formula fed babies".

Vanessa - posted on 02/22/2012




Another idea (kind of a compromise) is you could pump enough for one feeding while your out. If that does not satisfy babies hunger then you pop it out. You can only do so much to help hubby feel better. But you pumping might make him feel like his feelings are important to you, and in return he may be more supportive. I've read/heard that the most telling factor in a woman successfully breastfeeding is her husbands support. I know for me in the beginning my hubby cheering me on and his willingness to facilitate my efforts made all the difference.

Karen - posted on 02/21/2012




Your not doing anything wrong. If ur child is hungry while ur out in public then you shouldn't feel or be made to feel like ur doing something wrong. It really is the best thing for bubby and you too, some of my family (men mainly) are a little off-put when i pop it out, but i say who cares. Its only for a few seconds its out on display anyways. I agree with Krissy, let him know you'd like his support. Us breastfeeding mums cop enough slack, we don't need it from our husbands/partners too.


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Sarah - posted on 02/26/2012




Honestly, you don't have to do anything but feed your baby; however, here is what we did. We would plan all outings around our daughter's feeding schedule. The last thing we did before leaving the house was to make sure she was fed. Know what you're going out for and if it's multiple stops, opt to feed baby in the car, if baby is hungry or getting there (weather permitting--we have HOT summers) BEFORE going into the next store. When spending time @ another person's house, make sure baby is fed before you leave the house. Having a happy baby in tow is better than walking in w/ an unhappy one. If baby is hungry, feed it. You can ask your host for a quiet spot if it's around someone you don't want to flash. For feeding in public: practice at home. Get yourself ready under a receiving blanket, move baby into position, latch under blanket, then remove (if baby doesn't like to be covered like mine was). Jack didn't like being on the defensive, and I didn't like putting him in that position either.

Sheena - posted on 02/25/2012




Out in the open breastfeeding is perfectly natural. I wouldn't advise popping your boob out without a cover though. Just make sure you cover yourself when feeding or be discrete when feeding in public

Danielle - posted on 02/21/2012




5:he doesn't want this in public because it makes him uncomfortable because he worries what other people think.

its irritable cause now i feel like im doing something wrong. blahh.

Krissy - posted on 02/21/2012




Does it bother him because of public places, or does it bother him even at home in private? Have you figured out what bugs him about it?


1... he's feeling left out

2... he's feeling jealous

3... he was raised by a mom that was more of a 'discreet' type woman and he just wasn't ever exposed to this.

4... he disagrees and wants you to bottle feed?

5... he doesn't want this in public because it makes him uncomfortable because he worries what other people think.

I dunno, but without knowing why he feels as he does, it's hard to give advice.

Just keep sharing with him that you are doing your best and would like his support.

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