My patience is running low..

Jessica - posted on 09/29/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




From Day 1 (July 25th) I've had problems BFing. My daughter was in Peds because of jaundice and I couldn't stay the night there, my milk took 7 days to come in, I had really high blood pressure after delivery and really bad headaches (could barely get out of bed) then my daughter didn't want to latch right, blanching/vasospams with my nipples, her gumming my nipple, etc..

So I started to EP/supplement with formula. I'd pump every 2-3 hours. I would barely get an oz, sometimes I'd get lucky and get 2oz. Now I get drops.. Like I'm drying up. She is getting probably 85% formula and 15% breastmilk. So I'm trying to go back to BFing only. I need some advice. My patience is really low.. My daughter cries and is fussy 95% of the time at breast. She latches and then pulls on my nipple.. But I know there is milk in there, I take her off the breast and when I squeeze it shoots out. I try to sit with her as long as possible and be patient but I am just not good at it. Her crying really loud just makes me want to give up and just do formula only..

I've been seeing an LC since her birth and every time we are there I do a weighed feeding and its always a different amount she takes in. But its getting less and less that she eats. She had given me a SNS thing and I do use it most of the time (mostly with formula unless I have 2oz of breastmilk stored.), but my daughter does not like it. It takes almost 20mins of latching/relatching just to sneak the tube in.. And even after that feeding I'll go and pump 15 minutes.

What else can I do? How can I calm her at breast? She literally screams and gets so frustrated her face turns the darkest red possible.. How can I help my milk supply?

Any advice you mamas could give me would be wonderful. I can't be the only one going through this.. I know about Kellymom but I need to hear from people who have been through this before..


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Mary - posted on 10/06/2012




Have you looked into the possibility that you have oversupply or overactive let-down? Her behavior of being fussy at the breast and pulling on the nipple can be a result of that. If it shoots out when you squeeze the breast, you may have more milk than she is able to handle easily. Kellymom should have some information to help with that if that's the problem.

Laura - posted on 10/06/2012




Hi Jessica,

Like you I have been struggling with breastfeeding since 26th of June this year. It took me a while to find an awesome lactation consultant, but now I have and things have been improving. Where abouts are you? I'm happy to recommend if you are close by! (i'm in Melbourne Australia).

She diagnosed that my daughter has a high palate and short tongue (the last two lactation consultants had not noticed this). She has me feeding with a nipple shield and using madela bottles with narrow teets and a slow flow. This is all in an attempt to reshape her mouth so she sucks better and eventually hopefully will go to only breastfeeding.

I'm having to include motillium (perscribed medication - two tablets 4 times a day), three fenugreek tablets twice a day, specially homemade boobie bickies, a mug of activite, a tsp of whole cummin seeds (swallowed with water), an ultra light beer (found in the softdrink isle at the supermarket).

I have seen a massive increase in my supply and although some feeds still aren't good, I am getting a good latch and feed at most times which is much better than I was getting before.

Hope some of this is helpful, I never thought it would be this difficult to breastfeed - people just don't tend to talk about it that much until you mention the problems!! :)

Bobbie - posted on 09/29/2012




the first thing I thought of was to check which nipple size hole she is using when formula is used. If the hole is the smallest one it will make her work to pull the formula at the rate she wants it. This could help her get use to the breast's slower flow.

I had an infection and couldn't feed my son for a month. Then when I could go back to breast feeding he just had a fit. Since he seemed to like the bottle nipple more than the breast I would wet the inside of a clean nipple and place it over mine to feed him. The water helped it to suction against the skin and hold it into place. When he sucked on the rubber nipple it allowed him to stay calm while the flow of milk was "letting down". When he was burped at about 10 minutes I would put him back to the breast without the rubber nipple.

I had to work up to full breast feedings. By that I mean that I made a 4 oz bottle and fed him 2 ounces, burped him then put him on the breast with the rubber nipple for a few minutes, burp him again, then finally onto the bare breast. When I switched sides I would give him the other 2 ounces of formula and the put him on the breast again. This way he was at the breast for every feeding and I knew for certain that he got at least 4 - 6 ounces. If he was really upset and crying I didn't try to feed him. I would offer him a pacifier until I comforted and calmed him. I learned to feed him before he showed sign of getting worked up. That helps a lot with not pulling at the breast.

I also moved away from the nipples he preferred for his formula feeding. Changing to the warped looking ones that are meant to mimic the breast when it is in the baby's mouth. The nuk brand is like that. The nipples are clear and kind of firm, just like the breast. This made him get use to the breast shape and feed easier as the weeks went by. I have to tell you though that he was what the doctor called a "lazy eater" he wanted it to pour into his mouth fast and he didn't want to work for it. I ended up going to formula 100% of the time by 6 months old. But then my son was a 10 lb baby and a huge eater :)

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