My son is 17 months and I had been nursing him only in the morning for a while now, but lately he's been wanting to nurse more often, and I'm trying to figure out why. I think he's cutting his molars and needs comfort. Did other moms here have this experience too?

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Lori - posted on 07/06/2011

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I think you're on the right track, and have gotten some good advice from other mommas. I nursed my older daughter until 23 months old. Whenever she was sick or teething shed start nursing much more frequently, when she felt better she'd go back to less often. If your LO is 17 months old and you're looking at stopping at 2 years old you still have more than half a year to worry about weaning. Since his "normal" schedule is only once a day you'll be in good shape to wean when the time comes.

I also really like what I read somewhere." If you meet the child's need, then the need will go away.". I've found that to be true all to often. My friends used to tell me I shouldn't be nursing my little one at night any more cause then she'd never stop. But at 17 months old she started sleeping through the night on her own. Up till then I always offered the breast if she woke during the night. And actually even after that there were a few nights here and there that she woke, and I would nurse her, but that didn't set up a new habit of waking to nurse. Since weaning her we do a lot of hugs and cuddles instead of nursing, and momma hugs comfort her quite well now.

Sally - posted on 07/02/2011

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Nursing is a .LOT healthier for him than Tylenol. When he doesn't need it anymore, he'll stop asking.

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Lori - posted on 07/06/2011

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I just love hearing stories like that. They can be so smart, and figure out how to let you know what they want before they can tell you with words.

Lisa - posted on 07/06/2011

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I feel like lately morning and night seem like the new normal for our nursing times, especially since my son has really become attached to certain associations based on where I've nursed him, and now he puts me in a spot and he'll say Booby (or it actually sounds like Beeby). The funniest thing happened a week or two ago. Usually my son loves playing with my husband and taking a bath with him, but I think with his molars coming in, he was looking to me more for comfort lately and only wanted to be with me. So, one night, I was getting ready to read books to him on the livingroom floor before bedtime and my husband is on the couch sitting on a towel, typing on his laptop. My son takes his hand to get off the couch, and my husband is really happy because it means my son finally wants him. Then my son takes the towel off the couch too. Then he takes my hand and pushes me to sit on the couch. Then he points to me and says Booby! I thought it was so funny! I was so amazed at his ability to manipulate the situation.

Catherine - posted on 07/06/2011

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I've got the same thing happening! My 21-mo-old was down to three nursings a day (waking, naptime, and bedtime) and now wants to nurse more often, two or three extra times a day, usually in the morning. I also suspect those darn second molars are the cause. Just remember, this too shall pass! :)

Lisa - posted on 07/05/2011

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I think you're right that they're really soft poops. I think today they got a little harder and his rash looked a little better, so I'm hoping we're on the way back to normal. Lastnight my son ended up waking up at 5:45 screaming. I tried to give him Tylenol, but he wouldn't take it unless I nursed, but then I changed his diaper because he had a lot of pee, and I just couldn't put him to bed - he was too cute, trying to talk to me, and light was starting to seep into the room. It's so hard to be mad at the baby when he's being cute. As for the weaning, thanks for the encouragement - I read somewhere else that something that worked for someone else was to do a "pretend nursing" and say that outloud to the child and over the mom's shirt the mom put the baby on top of the breast and it worked - I guess that's the same as a cuddle. Lately when he's in pain, he really needs it, so I don't know if a cuddle will be enough. Although the other day, my son hurt his toe when a wooden toy fell on his foot and he was hysterical. I put him on the breast and was surprised to find it didn't work. So, I gave him one of his favorite foods - challah bread, and he was very happy with that, screaming challah! :)

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Lisa, I was at a breastfeeding (ABA) meeting this morning and one Mum mentioned that after her children weaned, cuddles worked well too, for comfort and pain and such. So there is hope after weaning! I thought that was very encouraging, for when the time comes. I'm sure you'll find the right thing to help. Just wondering, are you definitely sure your son has diarrhea or is it just really soft poos? My daughter has really soft poos, and her bottom gets quite red and almost has a constant rash from teething. Just wondering is all! Hope you can get those problems out of the way soon though.

Lisa - posted on 07/04/2011

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Luckily my son seems to be sleeping through the night again, although I did notice he woke up briefly screaming and then fell back asleep - shows me to wait a couple of minutes before I intervene. He must be in pain in his sleep or something, or maybe it's a nightmare. Right now I'm trying to get rid of this chronic diarrhea, no matter what I feed him, and it's giving him a bad diaper rash. Frustrating. The breastfeeding is helpful, but given that he's now 17 months, I was planning on weaning at around 2 years, and this is getting me worried about how that will be possible - what I'll be able to offer him in times of pain.

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My daughter did the same at that age, she is 20 months now. She was cutting her cainine teeth and was nursing up to 4 times a day, for a couple of days, even though she cut back to only once a day. I've also fed her during the night, off and on, when she's needed it, or put her to sleep by laying my hand on her and staying till she falls asleep, and it hasn't become a 'habit' or anything. I figure it's her way of saying she just needs a bit of extra comfort and help falling sleep. Doesn't seem to last though and she'll be fine after a couple of 'off' days. She had one tonight and we had to help her fall asleep when she normally just gets put in her bed and she falls asleep by herself. I'm guessing she's cutting another tooth! Trust it doesn't last too long for you but know that you are doing the best for you child if you can comfort them easily with a breastfeed!

Lisa - posted on 07/02/2011

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I while back my son had a bad stomach bug, vomiting and diarrhea, and if it wasn't for my nursing, I think he would've really dehydrated. Anyway, my son has been having bad diarrhea and now he has a diaper rash that is really upsetting him - he cried hysterically when I put the diaper cream on him today, even though I let him air out today for a while. My husband thinks he's been having bad stomach aches. It's so frustrating trying to figure out what's wrong. Lately he's been eating a lot of blueberries and it all comes out into dark diarrhea, uch. Maybe I shouldn't give him that anymore. Also, two nights ago, I gave him ibuprofin before bed and it worked well thoughout the whole night, and then lastnight we didn't give him medicine before bed and he woke up a few times screaming, and we gave him the medicine the first time he woke up, but it didn't help with the rest of the night, so I really do feel clueless now. I didn't give him any medicine tonight... I'm hoping it'll go more smoothly tonight.

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Yeah, I know people say that. I nursed my daughter at night until 18 months. It was so easy to stop it because she was ready to stop. My daughter got a tummy bug at 16 months and refused everything, even water. I was so relieved we were still nursing because that's all she'd take. She's still nursing at 2, but doesn't nurse to sleep or at night. Even though it seems like it sometimes, they won't do it forever :)

Ania - posted on 06/29/2011

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Babies are misterious. I usually just nurse my boy more if he wants it. I always tell myslef there has to be a reason why. Plus every baby is unique and may respond to different situations differently. good luck woth those molars

Lisa - posted on 06/29/2011

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I hear what you're saying. I've just heard that nursing in the middle of the night is a no-no because then they expect it, but I think I'll know when this phase is over and then I'll be more strict. Lately he's not eating very much, which isn't usual for him. I think it's because of the teething. He's also had a lot of diarrhea, which I read that some doctors see a connection between that and teething and others don't.

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I go by the philosophy of "do what works." I learned the hard way that worrying about future issues only made us more miserable at the moment. When his pain goes away he will probably sleep better. Teething is no fun. I'm waiting for my daughter's 2 year molars to come and I'm not looking forward to it lol.

Lisa - posted on 06/29/2011

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Thanks. He's also been waking up around 5:30 am, when he normally wakes up a bit after 7, and he wakes up crying Mama, Mama... and then he wants to nurse. I usually don't like to nurse him in the middle of the night. I considered giving him Tylenol, but I nursed him and put him back to bed. He wasn't happy, but he fell back asleep and woke up at 8 am. I just hope I'm not setting up a bad routine.

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Yes. My daughter cut her first set of molars at that age too. It was very painful for her. She wanted to nurse all the time. Those are some huge teeth so I can imagine that it's uncomfortable. Once they broke through she felt better and slowly went back to her regular nursing routine. It will pass.

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