Need some encouragement....

Renee - posted on 07/22/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )




My daughter will be 7 months next week and up until now she has been BF.... Now due to new medication my Dr needs to put me on I have to wean her :(
I am planning on starting next week, but everytime I look at the bottles and the formula in the cupboard I get all upset... I feel like a failure:(
I would love some tips on making the whole "weaning" thing easier and any advice would be appreciated:)


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Renee, you're definitely not a failure! The grieving process is a really hard time. This page (from the Australian Breastfeeding Association) discusses weaning and has suggestions for when you need to wean quickly: The section headed "Planned weaning" will be useful.

These sites have some information on medications and breastfeeding:

It moight be useful to discuss your situation with a pharmacist as well as your doctor. There are new drugs coming out all the time.

If it's not possible, congratulate yourself on having done such a great job, and for being aware of your health and your baby's well-being. That's what good mums do!


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Julienne - posted on 07/26/2010




I know how you feel.. i am pregnant with our second child and at exactly 14 weeks pregnant my milk started drying up over the next couple of weeks. My daughter's nappies were not really very wet and despite being a very happy baby she was starting to get upset and going down for her naps.

One day I bought some formula and gave the bottle to my husband and he gave her a bottle - she has never taken a bottle in her life and refused for the previous 2 months even breastmilk. Anyway she took the bottle and hasn't looked back. She is again contented and growing and gaining weight. I know that despite losing a couple of tears and missing our BFing relationship, I have done the best thing for her. That's the only thing that has made it easier with weaning her slowly over a couple of weeks... Good luck

Jessica - posted on 07/25/2010




First off *hugs* You aren't a failure. You have done great! The easiest way to wean is to start with one session a day, usually one of the middle of the day ones are easiest, and replace that session with a bottle. If you need to because of engorgement, you can pump a little to relieve that full feeling. Slowly, over time, swap more and more feedings for a bottle until your baby is fully transitioned. And I agree with another poster, Kellymom is wonderful resource, it is my go-to site about nursing.

Renee - posted on 07/23/2010




Thanks for your help everyone:) I dont think there is a milk bank in my area, as we are pretty remote.. I wish there was... I am completly sure that this medication cannot be used whilst BFing.. I have talked to a couple of Dr's and they have said the same thing.. Thanks for your advice Kimberly I will give it a go.

Kimberly - posted on 07/23/2010




If you need to start weaning, perhaps start pumping and feeding her from a bottle or cup, then switch every other feeding to formula to get her used to it...

Mary - posted on 07/23/2010




If that's what you need to do, then do it. You've done a great job of BF'ing for 7 months--that's still longer than most people. However, are you completely sure your med is not compatible with BF'ing? There is a link at the beginning of this forum that you may want to check:

Julie - posted on 07/23/2010




i was in a similar situation recently but i also got a second opinion and was put on a safe med but the milk bank would be a great alternative for you

Mandy - posted on 07/23/2010




Have you tried looking into a getting some milk from a milk bank? I have donated lots of milk to one in my area already and I know there are alot out there...maybe this could be an option ?? My baby is also 7 months but I have a HUGE supply in my freezer if I choose to wean, which I don't plan on yet, but hate seeing milk get wasted thus the reason for being a donor now...Good luck and hope everything works out the way its meant to be :)

Renee - posted on 07/22/2010




Thanks ladies! I feel a bit better:)
My Dr is very supportive of BFing, as I was supposed to go on the medication 5 months ago! Sadly now we have no other choice. Thanks for sharing your personal experince Jodi:)

Jodi - posted on 07/22/2010




I don't know why you have to be put on medication (and I dont' need to know) but when my daughter was only a few months old, my doctor wanted to put me on some medication that would force me to wean. After getting a quick second opinion from a doctor who was supportive of breastfeeding, I found out there was another medication I could go on, that was safe for baby. This is something you could look into depending on your circumstances.

Otherwise, try not to get all upset! I can't offer tips on weaning, but if you have to take medication that is dangerous for your child then you're doing the safe, responsible, and best thing for your daughter by weaning and putting her on formula. Just remember, that ifyou didn't do this, she would be put in danger and her health could be compromised. Best of luck and big hugs.

Jessica - posted on 07/22/2010




I'm sorry! I don't have any advice on weaning her. Check out for tips on that. I always loved that website.

I just wanted to say you are NOT failure! You're the best mommy she could ever have. Your body made this amazing milk for her and you gave it to her for 7 months. That's awesome! So many people (for whatever reason) don't make it that long. You should be really proud of yourself. :)

Good luck. HUGS!!

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