need some support evryone wants me to wean.......

Julie - posted on 08/02/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




ok my son just turned six months old on the 28th is EBF and weighs 17.10 pounds and is 27 inches long....the problem im having is my mother sister MIL SIL and best freind all want me to put him on formula and are complaining that he will become mentally retarded if i dont start him on solids BF and sis and SIL all also had babies this past year one is now a year old one is 7 months and the other is 5 months old all girls all are bottle babies. my son weighs more than the girls including the one year old by 2 oz and has never been sick.
my mom and mil are always trying to feed my son solids and cookies and candy how can i stop this they are pressuring me to wean him because they think its nasty and the ped says he has no more need for it to put him on a bottle too!!!!!!! all 4 have same ped....

what can i do i have tryed telling them my wishes but they do what they want any way.... when we have familly functions they porpously embarass me about it if front of everyone.

how can i tell them to back off they know its hurtful and do it anyway?


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Kayla - posted on 08/02/2010




Wow! I'd tell them to screw off! Food before one is just for fun, and breastmilk is best!

Melissa - posted on 08/02/2010




First of all I know every one here has said it all ready, but please get a new pediatrician... I have a friend who had to switch for that reason, her daughter was 7 months old and eating solids just not enough to suit her ped and kept telling her to ween her daughter COMPLETELY and she said see you later. After she switched she continued to BF until her daughter was 3.

As for your family I agree with the other posters about telling them all the benefits of breastfeeding but I think you should also explain the emotional benifets of breastfeeding. The close connection you have with your son while he is eating, how it makes him feel safe and scure and how that will help him be more independent down the road, how it's very important for the both of you and it's strengthening your mother son bond so that it will last forever. When babies BF they are the most emotionally at peace and happy as anyone could ever be, and while he won't remember BF he will remember that feeling and will assosiate it with you even as an adult and will come to you for comfort and advice.

Good luck and hang in there, you are in the right!

If you ever need support please feel free to email me, I am a book worm and LOVE to research things so I know a lot about breast vs formula, co-sleeping, the horid cry-it-out method.... And it gos on forever so if there is anything else you need support on I would love to help there to :)

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Jessie - posted on 08/02/2010




Oh and make sure to point out # 7 on the list. It says "formula feeding lowers IQ" how's that for mental retardation? Hump!

Jessie - posted on 08/02/2010




Get a new doctor ASAP. You really need to keep them away from your child, Under NO circumstance is it ok to give a baby candy. My mother tries to do this crap all the time. And she is very against me nursing. I flat out told her that her grandma priveledges were going to be revoked if she continued to harass me about nursing my son. They are most likely jealous because you are a so much better mother than they ever were or will be. Bottle feeding is for lazy mothers plain and simple. I can assure you the my son is not mentally retarded and he is 12.5 months old and nursing. exactly where do they think babies throughout history have gotten their nutrients? The fricken milk fairy? I dont think so.
This is the link I sent my mother and I told her to read it and if she still had a problem with me choosing the best form of nutrition for my son to keep it to herself or we wouldnt be visiting her anymore. It was very helpful for me. I however am the type who follows through with my 'threats' I would not hesitate to stop going to her house until she wised up.
You have to know you are doing the best thing so don't let them persuade you otherwise. they are the ignorant morons in this situation you are a great mom.

Michelle - posted on 08/02/2010




I agree , change Peds and when looking for a new one ask about their views and education on BFing.
Mentally retarded? What the heck! It is clear how ignorant they are about child developement. And I am not being mean saying that, but seems they have NO idea what-so-ever about it.
I would most def request a bunch of FYI on breastfeeding and keep it with you for reference to show them.
Do you have a local breastfeeding support where you live? LLL or Lac consultant where you gave birth? They should be able to supply you with a tons of pamplets on BFing.
Ask them for info supporting what they are saying!
Keep your chin up and know you are doing a great job and what is best for your child.
I would suggest also to see if there are any community support groups you can find to be around other BF moms , or even try to start your own. Maybe a group that meets for tea or such so you can be around others BFing and have some gals to chat with and get/give tips and advice. Even if it is an online group you start for your area.
Good luck and remember ..... YOU are doing a GREAT job!

Gabriela - posted on 08/02/2010




First off, I suggest you change pediatrician. He's obviously not up-to-date. As for your family, get your hands on one of those brochures on the benefits of breastfeeding and give it to them (you can try the Australian Breastfeeding Association), and make it clear to them that you are doing it both for yourself and for your baby. Tell them to respect your wishes. Make it clear to them that you will not hang out with them if they continue with that attitude, and then follow through. I'm sure grandma will eventually give in. And you are doing great, keep breastfeeding for as long as you want. I do hope you have the support of your baby's father on this.

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