Need to vent!

Lori - posted on 04/08/2011 ( 19 moms have responded )

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My baby is 4 1/2 months old. She's getting a bit congested, which I'm pretty sure is what's causing this. She is normally a pretty happy baby. But the past few days, and especially today she won't sleep without being "attached".. ie: nursing. But she also doesn't want to start nursing. I try to offer, and she starts crying. She started wailing as soon as I laid her down in my bed to nurse her as usual. Usually we nurse like that, she falls asleep, and I can get up and go take care of my toddler or do other things. But as soon as I take the boob away, she's screaming. I managed to have a neighbor take my toddler to play for a little while this morning, and I sat in the rocking chair, and let her nurse and sleep for 45 minutes. Then she woke up screaming. Once she's awake she's her normal happy self, but since she's not getting enough napping in, she's not her happy self for very long. She's tired, I'm tired, I'm touched out, and this is one of those days where I wish my Mom lived closer (she's 2000 miles away).

I know she's just not feeling good, and needs the extra comfort, but I feel like crying right along with her.

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Kristi - posted on 04/12/2011

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My daughter was a constant crier for the first year. There was a technique that someone told me that will help babies, even if they are sick. 99% of the time, the vibrations of the car will make the baby go to sleep. However, here is a little trick. Put your baby in the carseat, then if there is room, put the car seat on top of the drier, and turn the drier on. My daughter fell asleep within 5-10 minutes, and I was able to get my naps in until the next feeding. Try that, it more than likely will work.

My daughter was always sick with a cold, and even ammonia. (but for some odd reason, she has never had a ear infection). When children are sick, they want that confort. Doing this type of technique, It has conforted many children who I have told their parents too. Try it and let me know how it went. :)

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Terri - posted on 04/12/2011

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I'm sure all will pan out for you and her. But do be careful to not allow the only sleeping/falling asleep while at the breast. My first son (now 9 yrs old) would not fall asleep without being attached and would only sleep for about 2 hours at a time without the comfort of the breast. I bf him for 12 months and just had to take it away (very stressful for both of us!) and he went days without drinking or sleeping before finally accepted the sippy cup! Hope all goes well for you!

Melissa - posted on 04/12/2011

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the dryer thing reminded me of what worked with my son, i would put him in his car seat, it's more pain on my arms, but also a little strength training too, but if your not at home and need your little one to sleep which i did if it was nap time and i couldn't get my son to sleep i would buckle him in his car seat and grasp the bar between my arms and swing it back and forth, make sure you have enough room to move the car seat, and move it like the baby swings. If your ever out anywhere or travelling, and don't have access to the dryer you can swing your baby in the car seat!

Brandy - posted on 04/12/2011

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I seem to face this problem with my little one all the time as a matter of fact we were just at the doctors today for the congestion junk. I usually run a vaporizer, rub her chest with vicks vapor rub for baby and give her some tylenol. I would check her temp and if she has one, I would go to the doctors just to check her ears. My daughter has had two double ear infections and she never pulled at her ears when she had them. I just took her to the doc because the congestion, fever and crying everytime I laid her down didn't go away after a few days and thats how I found out she had ear infections. My doc told us that some kids are sensitive to ear infections and will pull and tug at them, while other children aren't so sensative and may give you no clues that something is wrong. My daughter is 15 months old now but when she did have her ear infections I would let her sleep in her car seat right next to my bed, keeping her propped up in her car seat at night seemed to help with the congestion and the ear pain and she would sleep so much better.

Nicole - posted on 04/11/2011

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Have you had her ears checked? When my oldest was sick I only knew she had an earache bc when I laid her across me to nurse she would scream. I hope she is feeling better.

Ruby - posted on 04/11/2011

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Be thankful this is because she is congested (have you tried a vicks plug-in?) My youngest came out the womb clingy and although be hasn't been bf since he was 11 months he is still very clingy (and still cry quite a bit!). I ended up making my ipod my very best friend; I realized I was able to control the situation a lot better if I could not hear him cry. In turn he would calm down cause he could not sense any tension coming from me.

My moby wrap also helps me in times like these. The walking would ease him. (this would also help your baby girl not feel so congested because she wouldn't be lying down)

If the child's dad is in your life, do not hesitate to hand the baby to him and walk outside for a few minutes of fresh air.



I really hope this helps

Melissa - posted on 04/11/2011

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my doctor also recomended the saline mist instead of the drops and so did my aunt whose a doctor and i find it is a lot easier to administer they are the same thing as what Cynthia said just a spray instead of a drop incase you have a hard time doing the drop

Cynthia - posted on 04/11/2011

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I have been there a few times...cry its ok 2 feel tired..frustrated..tired..my 16 mo old is teething..all she wants some days is 2 nurse all day..its hard when other kids need attention also..breastmilk is good as saline drops for congestion n also for ear infections..your baby will feel much better real soon..God Bless..

Melissa - posted on 04/11/2011

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Have you tried putting a vaporizier in her room they make ones that are pretty quiet and using vapor baths? Also Try propping her mattress a bit too, you can do this by putting a pillow UNDER her mattress, I have done this with both my children. DO NOT put it above her mattress because of suffacation issues. However that can provide enough to help your little one sleep. I do it all the time only because every time i lower it my little ones always seemed to get sick again so i just did it all the time and it provides away for drainage while they sleep. THey also make little wedges you can buy too but i always had extra pillows around the house so i just did it that way. Parents would bring the wedges in when i worked in daycare because in daycare we weren't allowed to use pillows but we could use the wedges because they were made for the cribs and since they were made for the cribs state couldn't say anything to us, and we always told them it was recommended by the doctor because we supported the parents because we knew the reasoning behind it. It may provide you some peace of mind. They also make vapor rub that you can rub on your babies chestt to help open airways too! I hope it helps, also a nice steamy bathroom might help before bed!

Shannon - posted on 04/10/2011

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OH i understand u on that. my 4 mo old wont take them either. and shes teething already. maybe ur lil ones problem?

Lori - posted on 04/10/2011

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She HATES pacifiers. I've tried giving them as you suggested after falling asleep, I've tried when she's upset and crying, I've tried when she's just calm and happy. She does NOT want it. AND I've tried several different kinds. She pushed it out of her mouth and cries/screams if I try to give it back. She will not suck on it. She will suck on my hand or a finger, but she doesn't like the binky.

Shannon - posted on 04/10/2011

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have you tried a pacifier? it might help if u slip it in her mouth after she falls asleep from nursing

Lori - posted on 04/09/2011

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Thanks everyone, this is what I love about this site, post something and get suggestions for trying things that have worked for others. I put her in the bathroom with me this morning for a nice long hot shower. Don't know how much it did or didn't help her, but at least I got to take a nice hot shower without her crying. Course it helped that my husband is home today and could distract my toddler. I do have a vaporizer, and I'll make sure to get it out tonight for her. I also put a towel under her mattress so she was slightly upright. Seemed to help a bit. Today is already better than yesterday. She's still congested, but I seem to be better able to handle it all today. I know we all have them but yesterday was just one of THOSE DAYS. UGH!!!!!!!!

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Poor little thing!

You could try sitting her in the bathroom (bouncy chair, etc.) while you take a nice long hot shower. The steam may help her with her congestion.

Jenn - posted on 04/08/2011

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Hang in their hun, we have ALL been there...Try a baby sling/carrier..Does she have a fever or anything??? Just make sure to sleep when she does, do not try to cleran your house, do not try to cook a meal, even if you can only steal 10 minute naps at a time, do it!! Everything is so so much worse when you are exhausted... Before you know it she will be back to your content little bundle of joy:)

Carolyn - posted on 04/08/2011

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I love my vicks warm vapourizer when Logan is congested, He sleeps so much better with it. The Vicks inhalent in the vapour seems to really help him sleep.

I also noticed he would get congested when teething. When his 2 teeth cut, his nose ran like i have never seen it run.

Have you tried putting a little bit of ambesol or orajel to test whether or not it is her gums? I found if i couldnt figure out what was bothering him, a little rub of a numbing agent on his gums after he was fed, dry, burped, gassed etc, would settle him right down and I knew right then his gums were bothering him.

Lori - posted on 04/08/2011

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Thank you Lisa and Carolyn. It's sometimes helpful to just know someone hears you.

carolyn - I do use my Maya Sling daily, and baby and I both love it. But she usually doesn't like nursing in it. She has a few times, but I didn't even think of trying to nurse her in it today. I did get some pillows and prop her more upright and nurse in the rocking chair instead of laying down in bed. Tonight her misery has continued as it's 3 1/2 hours past bedtime, and she's been up several times already. I do think it's a stuffy nose as I can hear it, and I think she's having a hard time breathing clearly. Doesn't mean it isn't ALSO something else, but she's not tugging at her ears. I wouldn't know what other signs to look for for an ear infection as she hasn't had one, and my almost 3 year old never had one either. She could also be teething. We've been thinking she may be teething on and off for a few weeks now. I gave her a dose of tylenol, but it didn't really seem to help. I also got some saline drops for her nose, but those don't seem to be doing her any good either. I've got the nasal aspirator the hospital sent us home with and have used that some. It helps, but minimally.

Carolyn - posted on 04/08/2011

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have you considered baby wearing ? throw baby in a sling with access to the breast ?

I dont have any experience with ear infections, but i remember that laying down can be painful for a baby with an ear infection ? maybe the comfort of suckling is distracting her from the pain ? just a thought that crossed my mind.

could she be teething ?

have yourself a good cry, get the frustration out, you'll feel better afterwards im sure. Lord knows I have done it.

Minnie - posted on 04/08/2011

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Times like the one you're going in are really rough. I imagine you're feeling totally worn out and frustrated! It can be hard to realize it will settle down soon enough when you're in the thick of it, but it will :).

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