Not sleeping through the night

Clarissa - posted on 12/07/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )




My 11 month old daughter is not sleeping through the night; any suggestions on how to start?


Emily - posted on 12/10/2009




I won't use cry-it-out with my children. But I highly recommend the No-Cry Sleep Solution, or anything by Dr. Sears. Those books (especially the No-Cry Sleep Solution) have helped all 5 of my children become great sleepers.

However... around 11 months my children start waking more frequently during the night because of teething. They continue until they cut their molars (which for my kids is around 15 months), then start sleeping awesome again. My almost 2 year old is currently cutting her 2 year molars (two are in so she has 18 teeth right now), and that is disrupting her sleep again... but I know she'll sleep better once the last two teeth are in.

My twin boys are now 3 months old and fully breastfed, and they are currently sleeping 9 hour stretches at night (thank you No-Cry Sleep Solution!!!). I'm grateful for the sleep now, but I know it will not last forever... there are lots of things that can cause children to wake up during the night, and not all of them can be controlled.

One thing that did really help when our daughters were about a year and still nursing at night was to introduce a water bottle at night instead. Often they would just wake up thirsty, but not really need to nurse. A quick sip on a water bottle and they'd go right back to sleep. I still keep a water bottle by my bed at night so I can get a drink when I need... so I figured they would probably appreciate it too. Now my older 3 sleep curled up with their water-bottles (no-drip ones) and if they do wake in the middle of the night... I don't know it. :)

Crystal - posted on 12/09/2009




My baby is 7 1/2 mths and doesnt sleep though the night. I am currently reading Baby Sleep Book by Dr William Sears and Martha Sears. Finding it really great, normal advice.
I co-sleep and still breastfeed but the book has helped me realise babies only cry when they are needing something, maybe they are scared.And to think of it as Nighttime parenting. Makes i a lot less frustrating, but i love sleeping with my baby and being there when he needs me.
It also says there is research to say not to let them cry as it does psychological damage in the long run.
We agreed to the sleeping with baby thing and i cant just change my mind and force him out.
Afterall they are only dependent babies for such a short time! I am soaking it all up...good and bad.


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My twin girls slept 12 hour stretches on their own at 6 months... for about a month. They didn't sleep through the night again til 14 months (we started weaning at 13).

I just night weaned my son and he's almost 21 months old.... His nights are only 10-11 hours long. He was waking 2-3 times/night (occasionally more), but had slept 10 hour stretches occasionally.. so I knew he was capable... just needed a little 'push'. He is old enough to communicate and comprehend quite well, so I told him that 'baboo' needed to sleep all night. He still wakes (once a night) occasionally, but only cries a little and asks for 'baboo'. I rub his back and tell him he can have it in the morning. He goes back to sleep quite easily now.

I just wanted to share my story to give encouragement that it WILL happen. :)

Clarissa - posted on 12/16/2009




Thank you for all your help-- My daughter is only waking up once through the night and I am looking forward to the day that she will sleep 11 to 12 hour with out my help!!! I also hope that once she is weened that it will help:)

Erika - posted on 12/09/2009




My dd is 12 1/2 mnths and we broke her routine when we had family over and she had to sleep in our bed to make room for them. She since wakes about 1-2 times per night and then I get up, and like a robot take her into bed with me to bf. I don't mind it so much, but I'd like to know how I'd wean her from this habit in future. We are planning another baby real soon and I wouldn't want to push her out "because" of a new sibling. I'd like to get her in her own bed sleeping through before I fall pregnant again. Whether I'd be able to fall pregnant while still bf'ing, is another matter all together.

Stina - posted on 12/08/2009




How often is she waking? When my first baby was 7 mo, I realized that he was eating every 2 hours at night- so I picked a feeding and started delaying it until he was sleeping for a four hour stretch. I let him cry for 5-10 minutes. Broke my heart. But each night, he would eat a little later than the night before and eventually, he stopped waking to eat at all.

5 years later, I have a 7 mo now and she wakes up 1-2 times a night. She just finished a growth spurt. I don't let her cry, but I do give her the opportunity to go back to sleep without nursing. Either Dad or I go and rub her back if she needs help going back to sleep, but if she starts to get worked up, I feed her. I guage her need for waking to eat by how long she actually nurses at night. If she chows down, I know she's really hungry. But if she has several nights of hardly eating before she's passed back out, I know I can try to get her to go back to sleep without nursing the next night. But a 7 mo baby is different than an 11 mo and since my dd usually wakes once, I don't mind feeding her at night.

You might try having Dad go in to try and help her settle back to sleep since if you go in, she may expect milk. But at a nearly a year, she really should be able to sleep through the night.

April - posted on 12/08/2009




i don't like the cry it out method and i refuse to use it for my baby, who is also 11 months old. i will continue to night nurse him until he outgrows the need. currently, we wake up every 2 hours for a feed. it's not so bad. it is not the same as a newborn who doesn't sleep through the night. when newborns wake up, it could be for 3 or 4 hours, but at this stage they do go right back to sleep after you nurse. it takes some getting used to, but it's not horrible (my opinion).

Kim - posted on 12/08/2009




I talked To the Ped. when my son was 9 months old ( I was still breast feeding) and he had told me there was no reason he should be waking up and he was just doing it couse it was habit. He recommended that I just let him cry it out. It took 3 days but he did stop waking up and now he sleeps threw the night.

Janna - posted on 12/07/2009




We mostly used the Ferber Method in our house. You can find it in the Baby 411 book. Basicaly, It says that all babies wake up every 2hours or so at night but most of the time it is for a short period and they put themselves back to sleep. However, if they wake up and cry around the same time everynight then they think it is there schedule and they are supposed to be awake. I noticed this with my little guy a few months ago. It took me a couple of nights to realize that he was doing this. I let him work it out on his own and he stopped waking up the nights following that. The Ferber method says not to get up and go to them right away at night because some babies way of soothing themselves back to sleep is by crying. I would recommend reading about the Ferber method, it really helped us out!!!!

Sylvia - posted on 12/07/2009




I may not be the best person to answer this question ;^), since like Lisa I didn't see any signs of sleeping through the night till ... a lot later than 11 months, but have you read Elizabeth Pantley's book The No-Cry Sleep Solution? It has a lot of really helpful ideas, and best of all does NOT recommend any cry-it-out method.

Stacy - posted on 12/07/2009




Hi Clarissa. I love that name by the way. I started giving my son a 8oz. bottle just as I rocked him to sleep. Are you trying that or have you been doing that? She might just be at that age. Or does she not wake because she wants a bottle?

Minnie - posted on 12/07/2009




Sleeping through the night happens when the child is developmentally ready to. Some babies do from birth. Some do, and then don't a little while later. Some don't until three or four years old. This is all normal.

My own 13 month old wakes to nurse several times a night, typically every 1 1/2 hours, currently.

Of interest:

Many mothers find they get more sleep if they bring their babies into bed with them and sleep while nursing.

Kimberly - posted on 12/07/2009




If she is breast feed it will be really hard..I`m breast feeding my daughter and she wakes up almost every hour on the hour. I think its just cause im not there in the room with her. Put something there that would make her feel like you are there. like your shirt so then she can sense that you are there. I think that when she is ready to sleep through the night she will. My Son did

Alyssa - posted on 12/07/2009




My son did the same thing and I just had to let him cry it out. Once he realized that I wasn't coming in there to get him, he started sleeping through the night. By the time he got to the age when I did that, I knew what cries meant what. A majority of the time they were just cries for me to come get him but there were a few times that I had to go in there because he was sick or bad dream. Do what you feel would be right. I felt bad for letting him cry but that's the only way I could get him started on sleeping through the night. I hope this helps a little!! It's going to be rough but I am sure by now you know what cry means what :-)

Alyssa M.

Joynicole - posted on 12/07/2009




Well, my 3 month old isn't sleeping through the night, but we've recently started a schedule to help him sleep longer at night. I give him a very long feeding before bed, and I'm swaddling him to make sure he sleeps longer. I have 3 sisters, (ages 10, 9 and 8), and they were swaddled until they were 13 or 15 months. Have you tried that? It really helped them stay asleep longer. The middle sister is a light sleeper, so she got a machine that made white noise to keep her from hearing other sounds.

You have to look at the patterns before you can really look at a solution:

Is she waking up after so many hours? Does she seem hungry/thirsty/wet? Is the room too hot or cold? Does the family go to sleep or is she just asleep?

I hope you get some great responses! Good luck!

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