nursing baby to sleep

Erin - posted on 06/04/2010 ( 109 moms have responded )

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I nurse my 5 month old to sleep, and will continue to do so until she self-weans.



I am interested in hearing about other moms who nurse your little ones to sleep, or who have in the past. pros, cons, reasons behind doing so, etc. :)

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Karen - posted on 06/10/2010

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Nathaniel is 22 months and I still nurse him to sleep. we love the cuddle time together and I will stop when he is ready. I did the same with my daughter.

Ricki - posted on 06/10/2010

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As I write this I am nursing my 4 month old to sleep, lol
I've nursed all my children to sleep and the only 'con' I can think of is when I'm busting to go to the toilet and they are not quite fully asleep.
I can't imagine putting my baby to sleep any other way. It works like magic! Self soothing and settling is a skill that they learn and I personally don't feel forcing it on them is neccesary. I also co-sleep and breastfeed till at least 2yrs because this is what works for me and my children and its never caused a problem for us. My children have always been great sleepers because they just needed to have a feed and they'd fall asleep. And they've always been able to sleep for other people as long as they were in loving arms. In fact that always upset me that other people can get them to sleep when its meant to be my job, lol.
I don't really have any reasons for doing it like that aside from it was just a natural reaction to feed and comfort my baby. As they get older they've not always needed a feed to sleep and I've just followed their lead. By the time they are 2 they put themselves to bed. They'll give me a kiss goodnight and toddle off to bed and fall asleep and this was not something I taught them it just happened. It's great that they do this but it saddens me as I know they are growing up. My just turned 2 yr old has just started doing this in the last month :-(

Lauren - posted on 06/10/2010

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I have always nursed my daughter to sleep. For one thing, she's always been a little peanut and needs all the nursing she can get, and 2nd, it is often the only thing that will put her back to sleep once she wakes during the night. The only concern my doctor has expressed to me is her teeth, and that when they fall asleep at the breast (or bottle) the milk left in their mouth and on their teeth may lead to decay. He suggested keeping a wash cloth near the bed so that I can do a quick swipe of her teeth before putting her back down, but I have to admit I rarely do this (why would I wake her back up after I just got her back to sleep!!?) but I use a baby toothbrush and some water in the morning and give those two little chicklets a quick scrubbin' :)

Kitty - posted on 06/10/2010

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Well, I never nursed my son to specifically put him to sleep--but he put himself on a schedule in which he would nurse before naps and bedtime. We co-slept as well, so during the night I would just switch breasts and fall back to sleep with him. The pros of this pattern were that he had a pretty definitive schedule--with some shifts--and I did not suffer from sleep deprivation like many new parents. My body simply adjusted to the interrupted sleep pattern. Also, I did not get my period back for 1 1/2 years after his birth. Now that I am pregnant with the second one, I will continue this on demand schedule and hope for the best. The one issue with him falling asleep on the breast, was that he suffered from mild discoloration on his teeth (aka bottle rot). The dentist says this will not affect his permanent teeth so long as we continue to brush his teeth regularly. He nursed until he was 2, and pretty much always before nap and bedtime. I say so long as you are listening to what your child wants and needs, and not forcing her, then go for it.

Julie - posted on 06/10/2010

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I breastfeed all my kids till they were 18 months old, i would put them in bed and we both would fall asleep, i know alot of people think its bad but it was a bond you will never get, and personal i think it makes them feel secure...

Anita - posted on 06/10/2010

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My son is 8 months and I nurse him to sleep at night. He can take naps without being nursed, but at bedtime, I nurse him every night until he falls asleep. Sometimes, he will wake up during the transition from breast to crib, but he ends up falling asleep on his own once he is in the crib. I love this bonding time with him and hope that he weans himself when he is ready because I don't have to heart to take it away from him.

Mindee - posted on 06/10/2010

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I still nurse my 20 month old daughter to sleep. Occasionally she will still wake up and want to nurse if she's had a bad dream or something, but most of those times I'm able to just snuggle her and get her back to sleep. I don't really nurse her much during the day, (as I'm 7 months pregnant and there's really only room to nurse her if I lay on my side), but I'm SO grateful she's still nursing and that it's such a comfort to her. I love that she's never had to cry herself to sleep, and she KNOWS that mommy is always here for her. Thanks to this, she also has no unhealthy attachments to objects (pacifiers, stuffed animal, blanket, "luvie"), because she finds all the comfort she needs in her parents. I'm a huge advocate of self-weaning, and glad to hear you are too! =)

Susan - posted on 06/10/2010

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I am nursing my third child (first one I nursed 15 mos, second child 22 mos, and this one is 9 mos). I do not nurse to sleep for naps - I nurse as soon as they wake from naps. I put them down awake at naptime. I do nurse right before bedtime and if they fall asleep thats fine. All of mine slept through the night by 3-4 mos. I have nursed to sleep for naptime on occassion if we were at the movies or at some place where they were having a hard time going to sleep for some reason. I can't imagine how those of you do it who have toddlers still getting up to nurse at night.

Jenelle - posted on 06/10/2010

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When I am nursing I will only nurse my baby to sleep at night or nap time. Which I absolutely love doing. But the rest of the time I don't. I don't rock my babies to sleep either, not because I don't like it, but because I want to train them to fall asleep on their own as early on as possible. With six kids it is hard to get them all down as it is, but to have to sit and rock each one gets to be too much!!

Rachael - posted on 06/10/2010

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I want to say that it's so great to see so many moms in favor of this especially when I'm sure most if not all of us have been criticized for nursing our LOs to sleep. Good for all of you!! I also nurse my son to sleep for naps, bedtime and if he wakes up in the middle of the night. He's 11 months. I haven't found any cons to it at this point other than people giving me crap for it. I've been told he'll never fall asleep on his own and that I'm spoiling him. It makes me mad but I still do it because I want him to fall asleep peacefully not crying himself to sleep. We tried at about 6 months to let him put himself to sleep. We put him to bed drowsy but as soon as we left the room he would cry. We went in at intervals like they say to tell him goodnight and everything is ok but each time he would just get more and more upset rather than calm down. He was turning red and screaming. I just don't see the point in that. I felt like I was letting him down and that he was feeling like he couldn't rely on me. That is not what I want. If that works for others great but it definitely didn't work for us. I will say that my son is a very happy boy and I will nurse my next child to sleep as well as long as that's what works for him/her.

Rachel - posted on 06/10/2010

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I nurse my 5 month old to sleep too. My husband works nights and so she sleeps with me. She sleeps all night, she'll wake up maybe once to nurse but thats it. If Im not by her though she will wake up lol. I love co-sleeping though, it makes both of us feel safe! I dread having to wean her lol

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I've done this w/ all 4 of mine. The last two co-sleep, so nursing at night is as easy as rolling over and going back to sleep. :)

The only con is they get used to it, but around 1 year it seems to slack off. My 14 month old still nurses some, but I can now lay him in bed and he goes to sleep.

Why not take the time to cuddle and love on them? This is the only time that they never refuse it! :)

Sarah - posted on 06/10/2010

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I do the same thing with my little girl and as you said, will do so until she weans. I think that in the past six months I have only managed to get her to fall asleep twice without her feeding, and both times she woke up in a fit. Why do that to ourselves?

Kendra - posted on 06/10/2010

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It is a comforting feeling watching your little one fall asleep while nursing, however, in doing so I created problems for myself that I'm still dealing with today. I nursed my son to sleep during the nights out of necessity being the only parent while my husband was stationed elsewhere and having no help, nursing until we both feel asleep was the only way I found I could get that much needed rest. However, I'm pregnant now with my second son, and will nurse him as well, though I do plan to do things differently. I do recommend delatching and placing baby in his or her own bed as they start to drowse. My son is now nearly two and a half and still has a very strong attachment for the sucking motion to fall asleep from me nursing him to sleep throughout the nights, though he never took a paci and weaned himself from nursing at 10 months. He now will not sleep without shoving a large amount of the silk trim on a certain blanket into his mouth and sucking on it, which he's been doing since he was 4 months and sleeping through the night. We've tried to wean him from the blanket as you can imagine it can get pretty nasty from consistently sucking on it, though the attempt made him sick and out of control. His sucking on this old, stained, and smelly blanket that no longer comes clean no matter how much I wash it is something that does concern me a great deal, and I do blame myself for his attachment to it from my lack to control his necessity to nurse to fall asleep. So though it's harmless to nurse your baby to sleep, I would say just be careful not to make it a necessity for him or her.

Courtney - posted on 06/10/2010

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I nursed my little one to sleep for her nap and bed time until she was 12 months old, she just stopped falling asleep at the breast on her own (she still nurses before her bed times at 28months) and I have never had trouble putting her to bed now that she doesn't fall asleep.
It is so handy to use if she is grumpy/overtired/stressed and will always put her to bed happy, she only very rarely falls asleep at the breast now.
The only cons I came across were others opinions, but I was going to do what was best for me and mine ;)

Momof1 - posted on 06/10/2010

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Most nights I end up nursing my son to sleep, but occasionally he won't fall asleep at my breast and I'll put him down awake. Same for naps. My ped. says my son won't sleep through the night because I nurse him to sleep. (He wakes up once or twice between his 7-7 sleep schedule.) But since I don't always put him down asleep, I figure that if my son wakes up during the night, its because he is hungry.

Angie - posted on 06/10/2010

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I nursed my youngest daughter to 21months old in the end we both had a mutual sort of feeling to stop as the night time pacifying from me was well a bit draining physically and emotionally. When I look back we both felt it was the right time. Sometimes baby just does not want to feed any more and thats ok too but its better when it comes from both participants. Now she is 4 and we have such a strong bond and its impossible even for daddy to break. I would continue as long as you both feel necessary as breastfeeding releases a hormone called oxytocin the same hormone that makes you contract whilst in labour and its a happy hormone so continue to be happy. The downside of nursing her to sleep is probably that you may not get her into a routine if you are doing baby-led feeding as I did (feed as and when the baby wants it) but I feel they are only little once yeah don't let them walk all over you but at the same time how many years do people get of childhood ? Let them be little and go by your own instincts, mine served me well. Good luck with the feeding :)

MELISSA - posted on 06/10/2010

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Well as a mom of 2, this worked really well for my daughter (now almost 5) until she was 1 yr old, she weaned and I was ready, all was well. As for my son, he is now 28 months, still wants to nurse to sleep at night...I was ready a long time ago to quit...

Hannah - posted on 06/10/2010

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I have nursed my daughter back to sleep at night when she wakes (every 3 hours usually) I tried not to to stop it becoming a habit, but found that by the time I had gone in there, given her a cuddle, try to lay her back down, I may as well have just gone ahead and fed her!

But now she is almost one and I am back at work, I am trying to leave her to go back to sleep for at least one of the times she wakes up, as I am just so tired, which I am used to, but it doesn't gel well with trying to do my part time job, so hopefully now she is older it's now going to be possible to cut it out.

Amber - posted on 06/10/2010

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i nursed my son to sleep until he was about two, and then the night-time nursing was the first thing to go. i realized i wasn't nursing in the spirit of giving and was becoming resentful of the duty, which sounds crazy, but i felt like even though i didn't wait for him to stop nursing by himself, when i announced that there wouldn't be anymore night time nursing, it was as if he already knew. the same is true for my daughter, who i stopped night time nursing at about 1 1/2 years. but there is certainly nothing sweeter than a baby falling asleep on the breast :)

Stephanie - posted on 06/09/2010

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Im sometimes still nursing my baby to sleep and he is 2years and 3 months allready, sometimes he just needs the extra comfort, I think it is and was a wonderfull experience and bond that me and my child share!

Roxanne - posted on 06/09/2010

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My son is 18 months and I have nursed him to sleep for naps and bed since birth. I LOVE it. Somedays if he isn't feeling well (teething, ear infection, fever), I nurse and recline in a chair to cuddle and nap together. We co-sleep at night. He rarely wakes at night to nurse. Only if he had a bad dream or something, I notice he cries in his sleep. Sometimes soothes back down with a pat on the back and 'shhh shhh'.

Enjoy nursing!

Kristin - posted on 06/09/2010

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It didn't work for me, because my son would wake up every hour and want to be nursed, and at 5 months I was exhausted. However, it did work for the first 4 months or so. So whatever works for you. My son has always had a very hard time sleeping, and nursing was becoming a crutch that I couldn't keep up, so I had to teach him to sleep without it. We're still working on it, but now he sleeps for up to 8 hours straight at night before I have to feed him again. Also, I'm teaching him that he doesn't get what he cries for. If he wants to get out of his crib and be nursed, he has to ask nicely, not scream at me (his scream is more demanding than needy). Now he wakes me up with intermittent semi-loud yells, and when I go in to him he stops. He used to just scream and scream, even when I picked him up.
I did read in "Parenting Your Infant/Toddler by the Spirit" that you can run into problems when feeding immediately precedes sleep all the time, but she didn't specify what problems. I imagine it's just that it will be harder for her to learn to go to sleep on her own.

Also, it's easiest to change a habit before they're mobile. I started teaching my son to sleep at 6 months, and he could roll and crawl and get out of position (or off the bed if I had him on the bed). It's just easier when they're younger.

And yes, check out the book "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child." Incredibly research-based. Dr. Weissbluth studies sleep in infants.

Miranda - posted on 06/09/2010

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I too nursed my son to sleep. I still nurse him before he goes to bed and he is 15 months old. I did however, stop nursing when I felt him no longer sucking because I wanted him to eat and not pacify himself. That is the only thing that I would be careful about doing, because when they need to pacify and not eat it can be difficult to stop them from needing you.

Renee - posted on 06/09/2010

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I, too, nursed both of my children to sleep. Oldest is now 10 and nursed only 10 months, but my youngest, who is 5, nursed until she was 22 months and I nursed her to sleep up until then. Both now have great sleeping habits. Both have no problem going to bed or staying in bed. They sleep through the night and we've never had sleep problems. Follow your instincts. If it feels right, it is right for you.

Raven - posted on 06/09/2010

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Nursing my 10 week old to sleep is practically the only way I can get her to sleep, even at nap time. I've hear people say it causes "dependency" but the way I see it a young baby is dependent no matter what and studies show breastfed babies grow into more self sufficient children. If I try to get her to sleep without nursing she screams and keeps herself awake until she physically cant keep from sleeping.

Victoria - posted on 06/09/2010

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Hi there,
I nurse my 15 week old Daughter to sleep each nap and bedtime. She has no problems feeding and gets great comfort from Mummy's boobie ! I adore being able to give her this comfort and wouldn't have it any other way. I think it is the most beautiful thing we can give our child. Am so pleased there are other Mums out there doing the same as I can feel really isolated sometimes with the way I raise my Daugther.

Good luck and enjoy every moment. Feel free to message me anytime xxxx

Cinda - posted on 06/09/2010

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I started out nursing my little one to sleep & co-slept & also want to continue until he self-weans. He will be 18 months tomorrow & shows no signs of wanting to wean. Personally, I have no issue w/ this & thoroughly enjoy nursing my son still & co-sleeping with him. Every child is differnt on when they will self-wean. A friend was doing the same & her son started self-weaning around 7-8 months & was 100% self-weaned by about 11 months. Another friend doing the same, her son was still nursing at 2 1/2. She had to have a TALK w/ him about weaning. You have to be prepared for either extreme & just be flexible.

Ingrid - posted on 06/09/2010

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I nurse my 19-month old before bedtime still and before naps (except on weekdays when I work and am not home). I don't say "to sleep" anymore because it doesn't always put her to sleep these days! But, it is her pre-sleep routine and 90% of the time even if she doesn't fall asleep on the breast, when I put her down in her crib she just babbles or plays happily for a few minutes (or a half hour!) and then crashes out on her own.

The only bummer has been in the last month or so because she's getting a bunch of new teeth, including some molars. On nights when her teeth hurt she wants to nurse for 30, 45, 60 minutes...and isn't falling asleep. Those times I usually persist for awhile but then I am too tired and hungry for dinner, so I will put her down in her crib (she's obviously not doing it for hunger at that point). If she fusses a lot, my husband will go in and rock her and sing to her.

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i nursed my son for 10 months when he weaned himself. and my daughter is almost 6 months and she won't go to sleep without nursing. i think its the best way to get a child to sleep. hopefully i can continue to do it for another year or so.

Camille - posted on 06/09/2010

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I did when she was a newborn. Now I put her down and pat her back, lay next to her until she goes to sleep, or rock her in the rocking chair. She still nurses to sleep sometimes. Enjoy it while you can! Mine is 16 months old and has started self-weaning.

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Hi,
my daughter is 27 months now and she still wants it for comfort or to fall asleep. She has gradually adjusted to other beverages and food all by herself, being satisfied with other activities ... Sometimes she falls asleep without me but mostly she prefers mama and the milk. We keep a bottle of water in the bed, in case she is thirsty and there is not enough milk. sometimes I tell her the timing is not right, but rarely.
Disadvantage is that it is unlikely that she would sleep well during a full night somewhere else. We co-sleep, which can be sometimes bothering but mostly I like it. Daddy prefers to sleep alone as he is an insomniac anyway (which was already the case before we had kids).
A second disadvantege was that due to the breastfeeding, my cyclus was delayed and so becoming pregnant a second time can take longer than foreseen, but that is also just normal.
another disadvantage is the cultural belief that breastfeeding your chld for so long is extreme and sick and abnormal. You can also tell by the responses here that people feel they have to defend themselves for doing so.
But regardless of this, I do it because it makes me a happy mammy, I have a happy child, well-fed, smart, sleeps well, safe and a great bond between us. I am certain that nature has wonderful ways to nurture life and this is definetly the best one!
Enjoy the nursing. i definetly agree with the idea to have a natural weaning process. the desire extinguishes by itself, slowly and you can trust that process of individuation, we all go through it! :-)

Drew - posted on 06/08/2010

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I nursed my baby for 13mnths and loved it but i stoped nursing her to sleep when she was about 9mnths old. I sometimes nuserd her to sleep after that but I really think that you should do whatevr you feel is right but it is nice when they put themselves to sleep it helps the trasition.

Angela - posted on 06/08/2010

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so many people say: Don't nurse your baby to sleep! You should teach your baby to fall asleep on his/her own, you'll promote ear infections doing this, your child will have bad teeth... I co-sleep with my daughter (20 months) and nurse her on-demand, including to sleep. We're happy! You are a Mom - YOU are the one person who is an expert on your child. When people offer advice, smile, and follow your heart. Relatives still ask, "Are you still nursing?!" YEP! I'll stop when we are both ready - and not until. I don't care if it makes others uncomfortable - it makes my baby (and me) happy! Have a good sleep - like I do because I nurse someone to sleep :)

Jennifer - posted on 06/08/2010

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I nurse my 15 month-old to sleep every night and in the middle of the night. It's very comforting to him and it helps me get a little sleep. I get tired of getting up to get him, nurse him, take him back to his crib. He is comforted by me. I don't want to hear him cry, so it just comes natural for me to want to nurse him back to sleep.

Laressa - posted on 06/08/2010

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Around 4 mo old my daughter wasn't gaining weight like she had been. We had moved to a new home plus she'd gotten a cold. My mom recommended nursing her to sleep and I've done it ever since. Its such a wonderful time together when life is chaotic. She definately thrived on it too. Laurie has always needed alot of touching and cuddles. Sleeps so much better in our bed, which is where she usually ends up sometime in the middle of the night.

They only have one childhood and I'm wiiling to sacrifice a lot to make it happpier for her. Because much as I love to sleep with my daughter there are times I wish for some space!

Erika - posted on 06/08/2010

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I nursed both of my girls to sleep. However, I do think it is important for your baby to eventually learn how to fall asleep on their own. In other words, keep nursing as part of your nap/bedtime routine, but don't let them fully fall asleep. Put them down drowsy. With my 2nd daughter this has been very easy as she naturally stopped falling completely asleep during nursing before nap/bedtimes. With my older daughter I had to work a little harder for it. Eventually, as part of your weaning process, you will do other things to calm them down for nap/bed times like reading a book or just snuggling. Your baby is only 5 mos old and I really would not worry about nursing to sleep at this point. Maybe closer to 12 mos I would start to think about it.

Lisa - posted on 06/08/2010

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I still nurse my 15-mo-old to sleep most nights, and it works great for both of us:) he also goes to sleep for others with no qualms, though, when I'm not around.

We still co-sleep, and will continue for as long as he's still nursing. Makes it much easier to nurse during the night, and comfort him when he's teething/not feeling well/etc.

I know some people think it's a bad habit. I disagree. Picking your nose is a bad habit. Letting your child get comfort and nutrition from you - regardless of the time of day/night - is parenting. Enjoy :)

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I have nursed all four of my kids to sleep until they could learn on their own how to fall asleep without nursing. My 8, 7, and 3.5 year old go to bed just fine. Letting a baby or toddler CIO does not teach them how to put themselves to sleep, it simply tells them that you are not there when they need you.

I co-sleep with my 18 months old and I nurse him to sleep during the day and at night. He does not have problems falling asleep for others, he just seems to wake a few more times in the night to make sure that I am there for him, which I am. We have an open bar most nights, lol.

Children are not supposed to sleep 12 hours a night. A full night sleep for children under 4-5 is b/t 4 and 8 hours. They need extra nurishment b/c they are constantly growing, either physically or mentally. It is not unusual for my three year to wake up at two and be hungry, after eating as much as me for dinner and having a bed time snack. Man, do I wish she was still nursing, then I wouldn't have to get out of bed to get her a snack.

Darlene - posted on 06/07/2010

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I've nursed my daughter to sleep every night since she came into the world (16 months ago) and I will continue to nurse or parent her to sleep until she seems ready, willing and/or able to understand going to sleep on her own. We co-sleep from the middle of the night (when she wakes up to be cuddled with and fed a bit for comfort) and it is a lovely thing for us both. Thankfully, my husband is extrememly supportive, so if things get cramped in our bed, he jumos into the guest bed and everyone is comfy. Don't feel any need to quickly stop it if it's working well for you, your spouse and your babe!

Kate - posted on 06/07/2010

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I nurse my 8 1/2 month old daughter to sleep every night, i wouldn't have it any other way. We cosleep, and she wakes up 3 or more times a night and I nurse her back to sleep. I don't think I would get any sleep otherwise!! I think the cry it out method is hard on both mother and child, creates too much stress and doesn't teach the child to sleep well. Your baby will only be little for a short time, I say enjoy it while you can!!

Claire - posted on 06/07/2010

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I nurse my 3 month old to sleep. How could I not? She loves it and it's such a great resource to use for a tired, fussy baby. Plus, it puts me to sleep, too :)

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i did it by accident at first then it was a real good way of making sure my boy went to sleep but......once he self weaned i had a bit of trouble getting him down for his day sleep since he was so used to pacifying himself to sleep. took a couple of months for him to learn to put himself to sleep but still has trouble. night sleeps are good because he wouldn't always fall asleepon the boob. hope you don't have my problems

Nicole - posted on 06/07/2010

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I nurse on demand. So that inevitably entails nursing to sleep. It is not a bother for me at all- heh, if it was I wouldn't have done it for the past 20 months. It works nicely with co-sleeping. In the long run, I think it has saved us many hours of sleep, having Phoebe nurse to sleep and then just stay snuggled up next to us (though I do get up and about after she is out for the night).

Jessica - posted on 06/06/2010

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I nurse my babe to sleep because it WORKS :) She's always been a fussy sleeper, but I guess she is just a high-needs baby, and she'll grow out of it. I'm not willing to do controlled crying (or any variation on 'leave your baby crying in their crib to 'teach' them that it's bedtime) as the Australian Association for Infant Mental Health says this is totally inappropriate for children under about 3yo. They need to be able to understand the concept of bedtime first, otherwise all they learn is that when they need you, you don't come.

Melissa - posted on 06/06/2010

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I nursed both my children to sleep, it worked like a charm no matter where we were too. I loved the closeness and being the only one that could offer them that comfort and nourisment. The downside is that I was the only one that could put DD to sleep and DS was like that until near the end of my maternity leave. He actually goes down better for my hubby than me but now that he's been slowly weaned (was only nursed when sick or at nap, bedtimes) he goes to bed easier for me now too. I found it to be much more relaxing and faster to put them back down if they woke up in the middle of the night. Near the end of my second pregnancy I was wishing I was still nursing DD so she ended up cosleeping with me and still does at 4, eventually we will work her back into her own room. I just hope it's before her brother figures it out and wants to join us, I'll need a king size bed if that happens lol

I've never been one to put alot of value into what "THEY" say, you have to do what you feel is right for you and your child.

Sylvia - posted on 06/06/2010

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I nursed my DD (who's 7 now, almost 8) to sleep until it stopped working (although it still worked to get her *back* to sleep in the middle of the night for quite a bit longer ;^)). After a while -- I think somewhere in the 2-3 years old range -- she still wanted to nurse at bedtime but nursing didn't knock her out anymore; back rubs came to be the preferred method. (We co-slept full time until she was 4.5 years old, because until then we lived in a 1-bedroom flat so there was really nowhere else for her to sleep anyway. She now has her own room, and mostly sleeps in there, but does come in for snuggles most mornings still :).) I much preferred nursing to sleep!!

The great thing about nursing to sleep was that it worked anywhere -- I especially remember DD nursing to sleep in my arms late at night at a noisy restaurant in a strange city a couple of days after a cross-country plane flight, at a table full of my relatives all talking a mile a minute :) She would have been about 20 months then, I think. Worked at home, at my mom's house, on planes and trains, in hotels ... just like magic.

The downside was, of course, that it was sometimes hard for other people to get her to sleep, and as she got older that was occasionally necessary. But she grew out of it on her own, as I said, and later on she grew out of needing the back rubs, too ... even though we never Ferber'd or did any other form of CIO.

Of course, DD is an only child so far; the picture can change a lot when you have older and/or younger kids who also need attention at bedtime. But I would still never advise anyone to not nurse their baby to sleep if they enjoy it -- why mess with Mother Nature? :)

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I would not be able to sleep if my son slept in his own room! There is nothing better than co-sleeping and I dont care if he still does it at 5 years old!

Hannah - posted on 06/05/2010

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I have always nursed my so to sleep! I LOVE it and it makes us both so happy and he is 11 months and still sleeps with us!

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