Nursing baby to sleep not working anymore! Help!

Emily - posted on 06/11/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )




I have 12 mo old twin girls. One of them has always been so hard to get from awake to the relaxed state right before falling asleep. She is able to put herself back to sleep when she wakes at night though. In a desparate attemt to get her to go down for naps without a battle I began nursing her to sleep for naps like I do at night. All of a sudden it is not working. She is there nursing and seems to become more awake the more she nurses. She pinches me, plays with my jewlery, plays with my nose, plays with every mark on my neck...I think you get the point. What they heck is going on? I don't know any other way to get her to sleep. So far she is still going down at night but she is not napping. Should I stop nursing her to sleep? Am I the problem?


Ruma - posted on 01/05/2011




its just she growing.And mostly year old try to put away their afternoon nap.Trying giving her a good body massage and a bath if necessrry.This will help.


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Vicki - posted on 01/05/2011




Does she still have two naps? My boy dropped to one nap around 12 months.

Emily - posted on 06/13/2009




try swaddling her tightly and nursing her in a dark room in a rocking chair. they need help relaxing sometimes.

Renee - posted on 06/13/2009




My daughter used to do things like that to keep herslef awake. In fact, she still does. She is three and will be sitting on my lap and start pinching me when she gets sleepy. As long as she is nursed and happy, I would lay her down and let her entertain herself until she falls asleep. If she gets really nasty about it, try singing to her. My daughter had one specific lullaby that could knock her out before I was halfway through it. She also had a cd with soft music that I would put on for her to try and set the mood. She was a stubborn little bugger. She quit napping altogether by the time she was 17 months old anyway.

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I would try a different routine for going to sleep that is soothing also. Maybe a little cuddle or rocking, singing or soft music. Then put in bed calm and leave, if she cries wait five minutes then go in a sooth her without picking her up, when, she is calm again leave the room. If she cries wait ten minutes go back in and repeat the routine till you get to 20 minutes. She should be asleep by then, if not get her up, she now misses her nap.

Chelseaszidik - posted on 06/11/2009




My daughter began doing this an I developed a new bedtime routine. I put on soft music in her room (I used a sound machine but it broke but I like that better). I would nurse her in my bed like I have done every night since she was born. If she didn't calm down after 5 minutes or so and wasn't really nursing anymore I would put her in her crib awake and if she cried I would wait 4 minutes (unless she was really crying). I would then take her out of her crib and sing to her unless she really cued to nurse and then I would start over and nurse her in bed. 99% of the time if I nursed her again it would calm her and I would nurse her until drowsy and put her in her crib again. If the singing calmed her I would put her in her crib after the song and go in after another 4 minutes if she was crying. This worked wonders for us!!!

Misti - posted on 06/11/2009




Try putting her down when she's in that state. I never nursed my daughter to sleep but I when I did nurse, she would calm down and her eyes would get drowsy for a few minutes but then she would start playing (coming off and smiling at me, pinching my nipple, blowing bubbes, etc). So, I would put her in her crib at that point and she would then be happy and play to herself for a few minutes before drifting off to sleep. Not sure if it'll work for you, but it's worth a shot. Good luck!

Kelly - posted on 06/11/2009




You're not the problem at all. Some babies are just like that. I would suggest trying to swaddle her just enough that she cant get her arms loose so she gets distracted. maybe try rocking her to sleep if that's possible. What I found works with my son is putting a blanket over his face. It reduces the distraction enough that he will go down for a nap in the afternoons. What may also work is putting her in a stroller and laying her down, but also covering the front of the stroller, again minimizing the distraction and what she can look at. What could also work is taking her outside, babies always sleep best after some nice fresh air.

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