Nursing to fall asleep=bad?

Julie - posted on 10/11/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )




I'm worried that nursing my daughter to sleep will be detrimental in the future. I've heard that babies need to fall asleep on their own, but she never has. She's three months old now.


Emily - posted on 10/11/2010




No, it's far from bad. She will outgrow the need to nurse to sleep in her own time. Don't listen to people who will tell you it's a bad habit. It's simply not true.

Rachel - posted on 10/13/2010




Every baby is different--some need the comfort of nursing to sleep, some don't :) I've always followed the lead of my babies and did what worked for them :)


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Sara - posted on 08/02/2011




I am still nursing my 19 month old to sleep.... don't worry... things will sort out she might not nurse for long some don't

Catherine - posted on 10/15/2010




Plenty of time to worry about that, shes still very small and as long as you're fine with it theres no harm.

Briana - posted on 10/15/2010




My son is 7 months and still nurses to sleep. Once in a while he won't and I lay him in bed awake but within 10 minutes he's asleep. He knows his crib is for sleeping so he goes to sleep. Babies are smarter than we think ;)

Dara - posted on 10/14/2010




I would nurse by oldest to sleep all the time, and I had a heck of a time getting her to go to sleep by herself when she was older. With my second, I would nurse and lay her in the bed while she was still awake. It's made a whole lot of difference.

Danielle - posted on 10/14/2010




I agree with Emily. I nursed my baby to sleep every time and he's 3 and 1/2 and nurses before bed and then lays down in bed awake and falls asleep on his own. It's comforting for the babies to nurse to sleep when they are little. I think it made my son feel comfortable in his room and he went to sleep on his own very easy. he's not afraid of the dark, doesn't get up and ask for me.

Kathi - posted on 10/14/2010




My opinion is that it isn't a problem until it's a problem. I nursed my son to sleep for months, but he eventually outgrew it. He would wake up the instant I put him down in his crib, and he would cry if we tried to rock him to sleep. He had, however, become accustomed to being nursed to sleep in the middle of the night and would need that every time he woke up. Eventually we did go through the cry it out so he could learn how to get himself to sleep. He started sleeping better at night, and putting him to bed was no longer a fight. I also no longer had to be the one who put him to bed, and I was no longer a psychotic zombie all day from lack of night sleep.

So, as I said, it's not a problem until it's a problem.

Amy - posted on 10/14/2010




Like Rachel said every baby is different. My son who is now 4 used to be nursed to sleep or we would have to rock him to sleep. He fought it and is still not good about sleeping. My daughter who is 6 months cries if we try rocking her or if I try and nurse her to sleep. She likes to be in the crib with her binkie and her blankie. Some nights she will cry when I put her in the crib so I will walk around with her to calm her down but for the most part she fusses for about 3 minutes and is out for the night. If she wants to be comforted I have no problem being there but she is definitely more independent then her brother. Which could be trouble in the long run, lol!

Jennifer - posted on 10/14/2010




No, it's not bad at all. My son is 18 months old and after being one exhausted mama for almost a year I decided to follow my son's lead. He wants to fall asleep beside me, warm in my arm's. Then later, I may put him in my crib, if I want privacy. If he wakes, I can get him later for snuggles and nursing. He's much more secure and confident and he can fall asleep on his own when he does need to. I wish I had followed his lead since birth, and I will be doing that with my next baby. It's not a bad thing, they do grow out of it. It builds a sense of security. They know you'll meet their needs and you'll feel more rested!

Melissa - posted on 10/13/2010




There is no reason, she shouldn't have the comfort of her mom when she falls asleep. Nursing you baby down is one of the huge benefits of breastfeeding as far as I'm concerned. My little one has outgrow it, and I sometimes wish bedtime was still that easy :)

Sarh - posted on 10/12/2010




This is not a bad thing to do! I nurse my son to sleep and he is 4 months old. He will fall asleep on his own, but he moans, fusses, cries, whines, while falling asleep and then I get all worried or what not of am I starving him etc (when I know he will let me know he is hungry). She is nursing to sleep for comfort, when my son takes naps during the day he sucks his thumb, (as sucking is soothing for a baby) if I don't go to him when he starts fussing.

Lydia - posted on 10/12/2010




i nursed my daughter to sleep all the time and she is a good sleeper normally. she is never scared, when she wakes up she will play or talk for a while until she'll call me. she never cries unless she wakes up and wants to eat or is teething. she slept through the night from 6 weeks on, but not anymore now because of teething. she's 6 months now. for naptime and mostly also in the evenings she is now going to sleep on her own. i never tried to make her sleep on her own. it just naturally happened i think around 5 months. her feeding/sleeping rhythm changed this way. in the evening she'll eat an hour before she goes to sleep. comes bedtime i just put her in and she rolls to her side, sticks her thumb into her mouth and of she goes to the land of dreams.

i read a lot about all those "make your baby sleep methods" and i decided that the least stressful is to let my girl find her own path... and it worked great.

Janis - posted on 10/11/2010




I agree. There is nothing wrong with it. I nurse my 4 1/2 month old to sleep every night & she is doing great. I think in the long run, it's better b/c with my son who is now 18 months, I tried doing all that stuff people say about putting them to bed sleepy but awake. He didn't sleep through the night until he was almost a year! My daughter started at a month & a half. I've been talking with all the other mothers I know & all of them that let their children decide their own schedule & nursed, fed, rocked or whatever them to sleep have way less problems with them later on.

Katie - posted on 10/11/2010




I totally agree with Emily! I co-slept and nursed my daughter till she was nine months old. She will be three in january and is a very confident sleeper. She has never felt scared or alone at bedtime. She knows I am here and that is something to brag about. Not that I made her sleep alone. I wish people would understand these babies are grown inside our bodies and the second they come out should not be expected to fend on their own in anyway. Read Night time parentig by Sears. It a great book that will help you feel confident in doing what feels right dispite what everyone says.

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