nursing toddler & pregnant,help ??

Autumn - posted on 11/10/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi, I am a mom of 3 boys and expecting my 4 th child in June ,praying for a girl ,lol, I am nursing my 20 mo old during the night still as he wakes up almost 3 x and the only way to get him back to sleep is the breast ..feeling a bit overwhelmed as he wont sleep in crib for longer than 1-3 hrs before coming in our bed ,Anyone go through this before ??

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Helen - posted on 11/29/2010

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Hi i had the same problem although only once a night with my 18month old whilst preggers with number 4. It's so hard when you're pregnant and tired to see past this stage.
I moved number 3 son to a travel cot for a few days and my mother (god bless her) slept on the sofa next to him. She offered a short comforting cuddle and a drink of water and then placed him back in the cot with her hand on his chest. He fell asleep knowing he wasn't alone but not being craddled or fed. It took 3/4 disturbed nights but it worked.
I needed him to learn to settle in his own bed as i co-sleep with my babies for the first few months and 3 in a bed isn't always safe.
Good luck you're doing an amazing job xx

Merry - posted on 11/27/2010

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And wether he is breastfeeding to eat or breastfeeding to fel safe and secure, it's all his NEEDS don't let people convince you that emotions are not needs just as important as physical needs.
Don't let him cry, this is an easy way out in the beginning but it can't be good for their trust in mom.

Merry - posted on 11/27/2010

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I'm also pregnant and breastfeeding. My son is 20months and he breastfeeds twice or so every night. I've researched it a ToN and all I found says it's normal natural healthy for them to do this. It's emotionally necessary for them to know mom is available at night. And it teaches them they can trust us to ALWAYS care for their feelings!
They wake because they are hungry, thirsty, cold, scared, or just plain want to touch you!
It's tiring and sometimes I wish he would just sleep through, but I'm confident he is building up trust in me and it's so worth it to teach him I love him, night or day.
He won't be waking to breastfeed when he is 13 so I just try to enjoy it and not try to make him grow up before he is ready to.
Good luck tonight! And just remember to imagine how you will feel when he weans and don't need you this way ever again. We should enjoy this special time!

Dara - posted on 11/11/2010

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It sounds like maybe he's waking TO breastfeed, and not necessarily because he is hungry. I would stop doing it by cutting back by one time every couple of days and snuggling or rocking him instead. I agree that it's hard to just let him cry it out because you have other kids sleeping too, but maybe if you guys have to go through it for a week or two, it will get better for everyone because he won't wake anymore at all. Good luck though!

Autumn - posted on 11/11/2010

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thxs for your help,yes I have tried those things you mentioned,however , I guess it's just a matter of me letting him cry it out and see how that goes, I just have a hard time letting him cry for any more than 5 min's during the night because I don't want to wake everyone in the house up but I guess there's not much else I can do :-)

Staci - posted on 11/10/2010

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I am sure you have already tried this, but try having him self soothe, either by sucking on his hands/fingers, or a pacifier if he takes one? try walking, rocking which i am sure you may have tried. Try omitting a feeding or two at night when he wakes up, wow 3x's a night, my daughter is going to be one on sunday and she dont even wake to nurse! LOL, you poor thing! Good luck to you! if anything, check with your local health dept and talk to a lactation consultant maybe they will have some ideas?

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