Please Help Me Wean My little girl!!!

Jennifer - posted on 08/08/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I am trying to wean my dau is 13 mo old, but i have been pregnant and/or nursing since the early part of 2008 So i am SO READY to regain control of my body. My daughter was down to one to two feedings a day but a terrible bought of teething and a move has put us back to nursing on demand including middle of the night nursing. I feel anchored down and the 5 teeth are becoming VERY uncomfortable for me but if i dont nurse she throws terrible tantrums Please help it is exhausting me and holding me back!

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Katherine - posted on 08/15/2011

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I'm just having a hard time with this, because she still seems to need the comfort. What I did with my daughter was that she could ONLY nurse in one place (for us that was in bed, but we cosleep), and never around anyone else (except my husband) so it was very limited and not so disruptive for me. She then didn't ask to nurse anywhere else. All I can say is having something I could do for her when she was in pain or sick or whatever was worth the inconvenience. She really is still a baby.

Nya - posted on 08/14/2011

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Also, for nighttime problems, I HIGHLY recommend Kim West, author of the Sleep Lady's solution... VERY good book.. helped me get my son sleeping through the night and into his own bed within a week after sleeping with us til 18 months!

Nya - posted on 08/14/2011

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I've been nursing since late 2008 also, and tandem nursing for 14 months. I am weaning my almost 3 year old, and what I've found to be most helpful is to replace it with something special... like for him it's a popsicle. I had been down to just one nursing a day with him when I weaned him about 1 week ago, and he does throw a fit sometimes, but popsicle treat seems to help distract him. His younger sister is still nursing, and does while he gets the popsicle. He doesn't care about any other time when she nurses, just at night when he was in the habit.

Ania - posted on 08/13/2011

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I eliminated night feedings by just going to my son's crib and giving him water in his cup. After few days he stopped waking up. This is all I have for now, because I'm still BF during the day. I read that it is good to eliminate feeding by feeding. with some days in between

Jennifer - posted on 08/13/2011

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no, she is fine as long as she doesnt see me, as soon as i am around she cries and cries until i give in

Dana - posted on 08/13/2011

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Does she want to nurse if you are not around? Can she spend the day and night with grandparents? Perhaps they can teach her to take a pasi if she doesn't already.

Lori - posted on 08/08/2011

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I don't know about clove oil or if it's safe to use, so I can't address that.

Ferber, or sleep training, or CIO, is no longer recommended by anyone up to date on cry research or on infant sleep research. Many times it doesnt even work, and when it does work it's teaching babies that you will not respond to them when they need something. And babies have only one way of telling us they need something, and that's to cry. That need can be as basic as hunger, or it can be a need for comfort. And yes, being comforted is a NEED for babies (even older babies). Believe me, I struggle with this too at times. My oldest didn't start sleeping through the night regularly till she was 17 months old, and my little one is almost 9 months and she is not yet sleeping through the night. It's exhausting! But meeting there needs now will pay off for us all in the long run.

Now, I'm not saying don't wean her yet, just suggesting you don't leave her to cry. Especially if she's still teething. You will get through this, and she'll start sleeping better on her own when those teeth stop hurting her.

Jennifer - posted on 08/08/2011

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she pretty much was sleeping thru for a few months (at about 8 mo old) unlike my son who was 2, She just started teething right around 12 mo, she is getting her 5th tooth now and they are just coming slowly one by one. I am thinking about trying the ferber technique but dont know. im pretty sure its the teeth that is waking her up even though i am doing all the standard teething reliefs. I heard of a lady using clove oil on her nipples to wean as it tastes terrible and i know it numbs the mouth i am wondering would that be safe to try??

Lori - posted on 08/08/2011

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Try to find what other ways of comfort work for her. Hugs, rocking in the rocking chair, holding a blanket or pillow. Incorporating more of these into her day may make it easier for her to go without nursing without the tantrums. My older daughter liked being read to in the rocking chair, and loved being carried around in the front carrier. As long as she was still getting lots of contact and love from me it was easier to give up the extra nursings. On the other hand, try to avoid places that she typically got to nurse. If she always nurses in the rocking chair in her room for example, try to not sit in that chair at all. Also, try to head off hunger nursing requests by offering frequent snacks. At about 1 year old my daughter started sleeping with a sippy cup of water next to her.

I know you were already at one or two feedings a day before, but since you're doing more again, you'll probably do best if you cut back slowly again rather than all at once. Try distracting her when she first requests to nurse. It may work sometimes, but not other times.

Is she still teething? Is she still waking in the middle of the night every night? How long had she been sleeping through the night before this teething episode started? What did you do the first time to get her to sleep through?

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