pumping newborn so daddy can smile

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grandson is 17 days old and daughter is busy with learning about pumping for the first time. Supply/Demand is the key but we sure could use all the nifty tips she could use to make this carefree. She is concernedd with how supply/demand works, nipple confusion and all that a bottle and not mommy's breast comes with it. Daddy feeding baby is a desire and is one of the reasons for the pumping in the first place. They are a wonderful couple and are truly sharing their bundle of joy. Please assist with any information you have learned. How much to feed? Breastfeed how long, which side, when to give breastmilk in bottle, how long between nipple and bottle and pacifier? Thank you indeed! Gayle grandma Iris proud mommy


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Celeste - posted on 11/19/2013




I agree with Lori. There are tons of other things dad can do to bond. And I wouldn't pump and bottle feed this early in the game. Right now it's so important that feelings be at the breast because this helps supply .

Lori - posted on 11/19/2013




To avoid nipple confusion and protect the breastfeeding relationship, it's generally best to wait until breastfeeding is WELL established (at least 6 weeks) before offering a pacifier OR a bottle. If baby is offered a bottle sooner, many times baby will get nipple confusion, or will learn that a bottle is easier and may then refuse to nurse. It's VERY difficult for a breastfeeding mom to exclusively pump. It can be done, but it requires MUCH more effort than putting baby to the breast, and offering the occasional bottle of pumped milk.
As for how much to feed - I assume you're asking about how much to put in a bottle. At 6 weeks, I'd only offer about 2 ounces in a bottle. I'll provide a link below about how much a breastfed baby needs.
How long and which side: In general it's good to let baby determine "how long". Put baby to breast, and when baby is done (lets go/falls off) then offer the other side. If baby doesn't want the other side, offer the one that didn't get nursed on first the next time. 20 minutes per side is about average. But some babies are quicker, and others want to nurse longer. It's SOOOO much better to stop watching the clock, and just nurse the baby whenever and for however long baby wants to nurse. You can NOT overfeed a breast fed baby. It's just not possible. A bottle fed baby CAN be overfed.
Supply/demand: Basically it works like this. Every time milk is removed from the breast, that tells your body to make more. If the milk is not removed, then your body will stop making more. An "empty" breast makes milk much quicker than a "full" breast. If baby is fed anything other than directly from the breast, Mom needs to pump so that her body will still get the signal that baby needed to eat at that time.
I know many many Daddy's want to feed baby a bottle, but feeding isn't the only way Dad can help out with the baby. Daddy can do EVERYTHING else. He can rock, and sing, and carry baby around, he can give baby a bath, he can change diapers. When baby wakes at night he can get up and carry baby to Mom if baby isn't already sleeping within Mom's reach. Everything he does to help care for the baby will also help him bond with the baby. But feeding a bottle is NOT necessary for bonding.


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