She won't take a bottle...

Shenea - posted on 01/23/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




My daughter almost 5 months and she started daycare last week and she won't take a bottle. It is really weird because since she was like 8 weeks old I would pump and give her a bottle to get her used to it when I would go to work. She would always do fine, she would take it no problem. Now all of a sudden she won't take it. She went to day care 3 days awhile back and she had no problem then taking a bottle. I am going to school right now, and I am able to go feed her every 4 hrs in between my classes. I'm starting to worry because I am going to have to go to work in a few weeks and I wont be around her for 9 hrs. Also, I work at 4am so I will leave while she is sleeping, so not only will she have to go 9 hrs while I am at work she will have to go the 6 hours that she sleeps without eating unless she will take a bottle. We have tried 4 different types of nipples and she refuses every one of them. I'm stuck, I don't know what to do from this point! Help, please!!


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April - posted on 01/24/2011




how close is she to her 6 month birthday? at 6 months she can just have solids and water. she doesn't need to take a bottle. water can be given in a little a medicine cup (daycare provider can pour it in her mouth). She'll be fine! You can just BF when you are together.

Janae - posted on 01/23/2011




I am having the same issue with my 3-month-old son! He did fine taking an occasional bottle ever since he was 4 weeks old, and then just recently he has started refusing the bottle! From what I have researched, this is a common problem that occurs around 3-4 months old. That's because your baby is at an age where she is better able to make a conscious decision. Of course she prefers your breast to a hard, cold, plastic nipple, and she is expressing her preference by refusing the bottle. I've heard people say that if you just "wait her out", she'll eventually be hungry enough to take a bottle. But I don't think that is true for every baby (it doesn't work with my son), and anyway it's not a good practice to get into. Starving your baby into submission is the wrong way to go about it, in my opinion.

The first thing my lactation consultant advised me to do was to give it a 2-week break. Don't put a bottle or pacifier or anything into the baby's mouth besides what SHE chooses (if your baby is already used to a pacifier, then you can continue to give the paci during this break). This gives the baby a chance to re-set mentally so that when you re-introduce the bottle, she is curious about it instead of automatically rejecting it.

If she starts crying and pushes the bottle away, back off and comfort her, and then try again. Don't force it into her mouth, but gently rub her lips with the nipple and reassure her with a soothing voice. If you've tried three times and she refuses all three times, then put the bottle away. Do NOT breastfeed her immediately. Wait 10 minutes, and do something else entirely different before you put her to the breast so she won't associate her refusal to bottlefeed with immediate gratification.

Also, have you tried warming up the nipple before offering it to her? If you run it under hot water, it helps soften it and warms it up so it feels more like your breast. I have heard from a couple of friends that the Playtex Brown Natural Latch bottles and nipples have worked the best for their babies, so I think I'm going to try that with my son.

Best of luck to you! It is so frustrating, but it's nice to know there are others going through this. Please let us know how it goes, and I will definitely let you know if I find something that works with my son!

Amy - posted on 01/23/2011




It's where you feed your baby while they sleep. Like I said I did it when I first returned but right now she's teething so she wakes 3 times a night.

Amy - posted on 01/23/2011




I can't really help with the bottle but when I first returned to work I would do a dream feed in the morning before I left, that way it would save me the trouble of pumping and she would stay asleep longer for daddy. Now at 10 months old she's started waking in the middle if the night so I don't do it anymore.

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