Sleep training

Sarah - posted on 11/24/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




My 7 month old is a horrible sleeper. She started to do good for a little bit and now is worse then ever. She is waking 3-4 times a night and absolutely will not nap. I had talk to a sleep specialist she told first yawn put her in the crib which was working for a little bit. I am open to any suggestions to get her to sleep.


Olivia - posted on 11/25/2011




Okay well you asked and I will give my best opinion and hopefully my advice will help you.

First of all your use of the work training tells me that possibly you are more of a mother that is following your own path in raising your daughter. What I mean by that is it is possible you are not doing the "give and take" approach. Which is your baby gives you take then you give and your baby takes. May parents feel that a baby just drains them if they put the baby in the "lead" but a baby doesn't just take they also give. This should make a mother child relationship mutual and both are leading and following.

I say all of this because the opinion that I will give follows this way of thinking, I don't mean any offense by it I just cant suggest anything to "train" your child to sleep. You can continue to read if you are interested :D.

There is a common misconception that children should be sleeping throughout the night at 12 months or sometimes sooner. Yes it is true that a small percentage of children naturally from birth or shortly after sleep throughout the night or close to it. The rest of children if aloud to follow there natural pattern will not sleep thought the whole night till 2-5 years of age. Even if most night they sleep throughout the night they may wake up every once and a while once or more. If a child is waking up more then normal then take a look at what they do throughout the day, what they eat, what they hear, and even what they see. Even at such a young age there are things we may not realize that effect our children and this most of the time shows up in their sleep patterns.

I can use my children as examples of sleeping. My daughter who is 23 months just hit the explosion of language stage these past couple of months, on top of that she got a new baby brother. There is also a small flea problem that is being resolved but those bits on her legs (my poor angel) didn't help her sleeping either, and her dad leaving for a new job he started where he is gone for days at a time.

Before her brother was born and even a month after his birth she was occasionally waking up once a night, I was even going some nights not nursing her to sleep. When all of those things took place it got to a point where she needed to be nursed to sleep and back to sleep every 2 hours that she woke up every night. Sometimes it was 1 hour till she woke up and sometimes I got lucky and she slept for 4 hours. Well other then doing my best about fleas and her itching, I continued on our normal days. I don't do schedules per say but their is a pattern to our day. Well I just let her lead me and tell me what she needed, she wanted to be nursed to sleep and back to sleep and I continued to do so. This past week she has been waking up less and less, last night she slept all night--it may not happen again tonight but she may only wake up once or twice.

Now my son on the other hands is close to one of those babies that naturally sleeps well. When he was just a few weeks old he was sleeping for 6 or 7 hours at a time at night and napping throughout the day.
--age-- --sleep needed--
Birth to 3 months 14 to 18
3 to 6 months 14 to 16
6 months to 2 years 12 to 14
2 to 5 years 10 to 12

I took that off of the Dr. Sears sight. Now there is also a fact that maybe sleeping arrangements need to be changed. Some babies need to co-sleep to get a good nights rest some need to be in a bassinet next to the bed, while there are other babies that can't be near and need to be in their own bed maybe even in a separate room. I understand that you found the way your daughter wanted to sleep but little ones comfort level may change. Try different things listen to your baby she is telling you something isn't right and needs to be changed.

After saying all of that, take into consideration maybe she is just teething. Don't worry it will pass no matter what is wrong, just listen to your child and make her as comfortable as possible. If you are losing sleep try and take her in the bed with you and try nursing more often, this may be what she needs right now.

I hope my stories and my opinion help you I wish you the best of luck!!


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Sarah - posted on 12/03/2011




Thanks Aiinia. Mty daughter is exclusively bf too. She is sleeping through the night sometimes now. I think part of her problem is she will get in a good streak when it is just her and I and then on her dads days off he gets her routine all messed up. I feeel like I can never leave the house too, but she wil nap iin her car seat.

Ania - posted on 12/03/2011




I know that it is easy to say, but don't worry she will grow out of it. My son was horrible and constantly overtired. I finally quit all the books on sleep and started to observe my child and listen to my own instinct. My son was exclusively BF so he didn't sleep through the night until now...22 months at 7 months it was horrible. he would wake up all the time worse than newborn, but I would give him boob to calm him down. Naps were 30 min catnaps, which meant many a day and he could never sleep outside, which means I was stuck at home a lot to put him down almost every 2 hours that's how often he was tired. I just want to tell you that if you start with early bedtime and put him down when she is tired she will be just fine. Some babies are just this way and trying to change that with all these smart methods books suggests is pointless

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