Sleeping at night

Rachel - posted on 01/11/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My son is 6 1/2 months old. He co-sleeps with me and is EBF. He started on solids at 6 months and I give him cereal mixed with fruits about 6:30 every night. He goes to bed at 8. He sleeps for about 2hrs at a time until around midnight and then he is awake every hour on the hour. I tend to him before he starts crying and most times I am able to just latch him on and he uses me as a pacifier for a few minutes and he is back to sleep. I dont' know if this is normal. I can't figure out how to get him to sleep for longer periods. CIO is not an option for me. Until he was about 4 months old he slept in his car seat and he would sleep for 3-4hrs at a time. But since then he is up hourly. There are a few times a week that he wakes about 2am and won't go back to sleep for a few hours. I don't let him play. I keep it quiet and dark and continue to have him nurse for hours till he falls back asleep. I don't know if anyone has any advise that worked for them. I know he's growing and changing fast now. He will wake up and "practice his vocabulary" for a period of time and he's trying to crawl when awake and I do think he has 2 more teeth coming in. (he got his first 2 bottom teeth at 2 months) I do give him infant tylenol every 4/6 hrs. Any advice would be so great!

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Claire - posted on 01/12/2011

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My son is 4 months old and is EBF as well and he wakes up every two hours to eat which is extremely exhausting so I know where you are coming from. One thing I will say - is we coslept until recently and he would wake up every hour or so. We moved his crib into our room so that he was still near us but could get used to sleeping in his own bed and now he wakes up slightly less often. I think maybe my smell and being so close made it so that every time he stirred a bit he automatically thought "food" instead of trying to go back to sleep. My son still doesn't sleep well, but I think moving him out of my bed did help slightly.

Sandie - posted on 01/11/2011

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I was told by a breastfeeding consultant that breastfed babies arent meant to sleep through the night early on, they need to feed during the night so its normal that our little ones wake up and dont get 8-9hours. my son is 19months and he still wakes up and comes into our room for some milk and a snuggle. i also found that i was used as a pacifier but i was ok with that because it meant we both got lots of sleep, i would just lie there and leave my boob out lol (i slept on a towel to save the bed from any leakage - and drool!!). i noticed sometime that even though he was fast asleep i would suddenly hear him guzzling away and swallowing, so he was having a good feed but without the waking and whining, so because he never fully woke, he didnt have to go back to slep, he just stayed calm and settled. you might be onto something with the solid food feeling heavy in his tummy if his legs are bunched up, you can always try different things every night and see what works. could he have some wind too that might need help coming up? i feel for you being alone in the night, hopefully you little one will work things out for himself and settle soon so you can enjoy snuggles and lots of rest! if i had a particularly difficult night, i would dump the housework and sleep when he napped, even if it meant getting into bed with him for a couple hours! good luck.

Rachel - posted on 01/11/2011

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Thanks Sandie. I do feed him at night lying down but I am finding when I do that he uses me more as a pacifier instead of actually drinking. If I just sit up in bed and feed him, he will drink and go back to sleep. Like I said he doesn't cry much at night cause I am able to tend to him before he does. The last few nights he will start moaning/whining in his sleep so I do think something is bothering him. I do use oragel on him at night time. I am going to try giving him his dinner of fruit and oatmeal earlier instead of at 6:30 cause he goes to bed at 8. Maybe it's too much heavy food in his tummy that late cause he does wake at night kicking his legs a lot like his stomach bothers him. I do use gas drops with him too. Maybe it's just a part of who he is and I shouldn't worry about it too much. I am a stay at home mom and my husband is a fireman so he is gone a lot of overnights so I am really the only one it affects. I just see a lot of my friends and other people talk about how their baby sleeps 8-9hrs a night straight and thought something was wrong. But I have read many places that he gets a lot of calories he needs from night feedings so maybe I shouldn't worry but I am tired a lot too!

Sandie - posted on 01/11/2011

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hiya, i co-sleep with my son too, when he EBF i would just let him feed lying down next to me in bed, is that what you do or do you nurse in a chair? i found it easier to stay lying down because if he dropped off to sleep i didnt have to put him down and disturb him, we could both just fall asleep where we were. i understand you dont want to have him crying at night and disturb your in-laws but dont worry too much, keep calm if he's crying, im sure they understand, he's still only a little baby! maybe try a little soothing teething gel on his gums if you think teething might be the problem, i found that was useful, sometimes when he was sore a little gel would take the edge off enough for him to sleep well. good luck! x

Rachel - posted on 01/11/2011

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We had to move in with my in laws a few months before our baby was born and we will have to be here for at least 6 more months. We only have 1 bedroom for my husband and I and our baby. We can't let him CIO much at night because it will distrubt the in laws too. So in that way we are kind of stuck. Just trying to find ways to make this easier on the whole house. Unsure if there is a happy middle or not.

Leslie - posted on 01/11/2011

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I cannot sleep in the same room as my son. If he wakes up and sees me nothing will work except nursing him. I found we both slept so much better after he was in his own room in his crib. That way we don't hear each other and wake eachother up. He has been in there since he was 3 mo. old. I think it's easier to make the transition when they are little and don't know any better. The longer they sleep with you the harder it will be. I have a friend who co-slept and her daughter is 3 and her husband has to sleep in her room with her. I know every family is different, but just keep in mind what you want in the long run.

Brandi - posted on 01/11/2011

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He may be going through a growth spurt right now, with teething on top of that these things happen. How long has it been happening?

I have been going through this exact thing for the past six months and we finally had to use the Ferber method. That said, my daughter is almost a year old. Your little one still has a ways to go before he can be expected to sleep well so I understand why CIO is not an option for you (it sucks).

Try reading the No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley. It is a good book with lots of solutions. None of them worked for me but your baby is younger and it might help him out a lot. If anything, the book is good for the insight you get into your baby.

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I didn't exactly co sleep but when my daughter would wake up for her first night feeding at around midnight I would usually bring her into the bed for the rest of the night. She still slept through the night for the most part until we moved when she was about 7 months and we lived in a hotel for almost 2 months so I didn't let her cry I would just feed her or she would use me as a pacifier. She got to the point that when she was 9 months or so she was waking up on the hour and I got a little worried because she used to self soothe back to sleep when she was 6 months and now she was almost 10 months and she wasn't anymore :-/ She also had started to wake up only 1-2 hours after her bed time instead of at midnight. So one night instead of taking her out and nursing her (at 10 months) I just sat there next to her crib and hugged her and I think it's the Dr. Sears method it took a little while but she eventually went back to sleep and since then has slept through the night again for the most part with only 1-2 feedings at night.

Again, I know I didn't completely co sleep and we moved so I think that's what messed her up, I think that if we wouldn't have moved she might have just grown through it so that could be an option for you too, you can just give it a little while and see how he changes on his own. I know a lot of people are not for the Crying methods and it was hard but she was 10 months old and after one night of it she slept through the night so I think sometimes depending on the baby you need to do what's best for the both of you, and after that long I needed more than an hour of sleep at a time. :-/

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