Still nursing with another baby on the way! What should I do?

Cheri - posted on 06/05/2011 ( 17 moms have responded )

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My 19 month old is still nursing, and I am due to have another baby at the end of August. He does not want to give it up, and I don't want him to resent the baby if he doesn't get it anymore. HELP, what should I do?

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You can still breastfeed your toddler while pregnant. I nursed my 2 year old all through my last pregnancy and everything was fine. My milk did dry up, but she was content to "dry nurse" until it came back again. She also helped a lot after baby was born, keeping the milk flowing so I didn't get any plugged ducts. Talk to your Dr, but it should be okay.

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Laressa,

That was a huge concern for me. Not just breastfeeding, but being away from my daughter for that long in general. I opted to birth at a birth center. My daughter will be in the next room with my sister and I can see her whenever I want. We also get to go home 6 hours after the birth. Had I decided to stick with a hospital birth I would still want my daughter to be with me as much as possible and I planned to ask to go home as soon as I could. My daughter only nurses at nap time so breastfeeding isn't too much of a concern. I just didn't want to be away from her for two days/nights.

Dawnett - posted on 06/12/2011

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I nursed my son WHILE expecting my daughter & had the same concerns....One day when he was 18 months ( I was due in 3 months) he just said " No" when I asked him if he was hungry- THAT was the 'extent' of weaning for him...It was THAT abrupt! No crying,no 'fussing'....just " No"

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I agree with Amy. In a normal, healthy pregnancy you can nurse all the way through your pregnancy and then tandem nurse both. Tandem nursing can help promote bonding between your two children. I'm currently 34 weeks pregnant and my 2 year old is still nursing. I highly recommend the book, "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" by Hilary Flower. It has great info about nursing through pregnancy and tandem nursing.

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Hi! I have a 20 month old and am due end of September and am hoping to Tandem nurse as long as my daughter doesn't wean before that. I think I will find it hard to be away from my daughter while I'm at the hospital and hope she doesn't wean during that time. Anyway, good luck!

Jamie - posted on 06/13/2011

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yay!! im in the same position, breastfeeding my 15 month old and have another baby due in august! im quite keen to continue feeding him when my next baby comes along, if he still wants it that is. ive also heard it is beneficial for the newborn to have an older sibling still nursing as they stimulate milk production efficiently for the new baby!

Cinda - posted on 06/13/2011

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You can still BF your toddler while pregnant. I'm currently 12 weeks pregnant & still nursing my 2 1/2 year old. I plan to continue nursing him until he decides to ween. AFter the baby arrives, he'll just learn that the baby gets to nurse first & then he can nurse. My milk is mostly gone, maybe an ounce of production per side with 12-24 hours between nursings but dear son still wants to nurse for the comfort of it.

Laressa - posted on 06/13/2011

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Those of you that tandem nursed- how did toddler cope while you were in the hospital? That is the biggest reason we weaned a few months before the baby came.

Kate - posted on 06/13/2011

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I planned to tandem nurse but by the time I was 6 months pregnant, nursing my 16 month old became too painful. I just told him that the milky was gone and he cried a little at bed time for 2 nights and then never asked for it again. By the time his brother had arrived he was so over it he hasn't asked once to nurse and there is no jealousy issues between them. I'm not saying its always like that, just that things usually work out either way as long as your intentions are good and you do what you have to do with love and respect.

Cheri - posted on 06/12/2011

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Thanks for all the help everyone! I have been continuing to nurse, and I figure that I swill even after the new baby is born. It seems to me Im not the only one out there that has gone through this. Its nice to see that, since it seems so strange for most of my friends and family. I think its completly natural and the best thing for him. He may be 19 months old but hes still a baby, maybe a big baby, but a baby none the less. Thanks again!

Mari-Ann - posted on 06/12/2011

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Breast-feed for all you're worth while pregnant. My daughter really enjoyed the comfort of it; it was often a bit painful, but was great preparation for breastfeeding our second daughter. My daughter stopped some 3 or 4 weeks before the birth when I told her the baby would need the milk when they arrived. She was also reluctant to stop but accepted the reason was for the good of the baby. Keep going. It's a great bonding experience; it's great for keeping the nipples toughened up and you don't need to worry about colostrom etc. probs. My milk came in after the birth in a matter of 2 days.

Kimberly - posted on 06/12/2011

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did you know you can nurse both they even have a fancy word for it lol. my WIC office here gave me this websit i cant remember it has every question about breastfeeding. i had the same concerns when i thought i might be pregnant again. if you want more info i can look for the website.

Sarah - posted on 06/11/2011

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I would pump it and put it in a bottle or sippy cup for him. :) That helped my mom with my brother. :)

Valerie - posted on 06/05/2011

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nurse them both...lots of moms have wet nursed or hd two nursing at the same time...just think no boobs to get toughened up, lol i nursed two other babies part time while i was a nursing mom...sometimes i did it at the sam time...smallest one on top, lol

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