The end o breastfeeding for me???

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My son will not latch on anymore. He bites me, screams, and pulls away. He used to love to nurse but now just wants to keep playing. This has been going on for 2 weeks and he'll only nurse at night. He appears to love the bottle because he can carry it around with him as he crawls all over. I've tried pumping but only get an ounce. I've also tried basically starving him but then he just wants to nurse all night which I can't do. It kills me to stop and I've cried a lot/been very moody. I keep thinking that at least I'm not fighting him to stop and taking away something he wants but I'd love to keep nursing until he is a year old. I guess once a day is still nursing him.


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My guy is almost 9 months old. Sadly, today when pumping I got nothing. I am not feeling like my breasts are full anymore either. I've also read all those articles and tried what I feel like was everything. I know it sounds selfish but my son hasn't ever come close to sleeping at night so I haven't been willing to be up every hour to feed him at night like he wanted. It has been hard but today I came to the realization that he is only going to nurse once a day. I guess that is better than nothing. I also only intended to nurse him for the first 3-5 months so I went longer than I first planned. I am really disappointed since I imagined us getting all cozy and nursing over the winter. I feel like I tried everything possible and have to look on the bright side, at least I didn't have to take something away from him and he made the decision. That is the only thing that keeps me going!

Katherine - posted on 10/27/2009




My son went through a similar phase when he got mobile. What worked for me was to go to a quiet, darkened room to nurse. That way, nothing exciting is going on to distract distracted baby. Part of having a baby who doesn't nurse as much during the day, is having a baby who's tanking up at night. I promise, this too shall pass.

Also, it's just easier for babies to get milk out of a bottle. If you really need to use them, make sure you're using newborn flow nipples. Also, don't offer the bottle if you're around. Offer to let him nurse frequently.

The biting to me sounds like he's getting impatient for your letdown. Try pumping a little before you nurse, or hand expressing. That way, the milk will come sooner for him. Also, know that pumping is no indication of supply. I can pump less than 2oz off of both breasts, and have had no problems keeping my son fed. But the less you nurse him, the more your supply goes down, the more frustrated he gets, etc, etc.

You might want to try taking some fenugreek capsules (3-4 capsules 3 times a day - your goal is to smell like maple syrup...if you don't you're not taking enough) to help get your supply up as well. If he's been nursing less during the day, you're probably producing less.

I know you can do this. Good luck!

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