Too much stress causing daughter not to nurse as well.

Jennifer - posted on 08/30/2011 ( 15 moms have responded )

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I have a six and 1/2 year old. We have struggled to nurse from the beginning. She's a lazy nurser. Thus, nipple shield, SNS, pumping and now supplementing a little bit. We just moved across country so, I know that is the major source of stress. My husband isn't finding work. We have a noisy big brother who is three. We introduced solids twice a day a couple weeks ago. I'm sure all this is adding up. I am having a hard time meeting people out here. We moved to Maryville, TN from California. The LLL out here doesn't meet regularly. I am ready to give up. She's so distractable at this age. It's so annoying. I am happy to still be at it but, honestly with all the extra gear and pumping I am missing time with my son and husband. Just looking for support. I don't want to quit but, there is no support here.

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Jennifer - posted on 09/05/2011

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Meighan that's so weird Miranda is 7 months today. She draws blood and bruises me to. It's so hard not to yell. I try to tolerate it but, usually end up switching breasts and going back so I can have a break.

Meighen - posted on 09/04/2011

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Jennifer, yeah we used the SNS in the begining with my first born in the begining because she never stopped nursing. I just wasnt producing enough in the begining. What a pain. So I feel for you. OH and Thanks for the complements on the spelling of my name. I have a very Irish family. :)



I forgot to mention that my 7 month old is a fussy nurser too sometimes, but the worst is that even if I trim her nails she still manages to draw blood from scratching me and she will squeeze so hard that she has left me with several bruises.



Yogita, oh man thrush is terrible. I constantly fear a reoccurance as well. I went thru a ton of nystatin and just couldn't shake it, we just kept giving it back and forth to eachother I think. So I reluctanly tried Gentian Voliet. But 2 days of using that twice a day seemed to do the trick. But holy smokes it is shocking when you see the color. It stains. And can tatoo you if you have an open cut or anything like that. And a little goes a LONG LONG way. So be very very careful when using. I didnt leave the house with my baby until her face almost returned to normal. Since she was a fussy eater that blueberry color stain litterally got all over her face. And the inside of her mouth was so purple it almost looked black. I was totally freaked out. We got thrush when she was about 4 months old. I had gone way for a girls weekend in Savannah and I was pumping like crazy to keep up my milk supply. But I would wash out the pump equipment in the sink and I left it on clean towel on a shelf in the bathroom, not realizing that between the dark room and the moisture from 4 girls showering could be a breeding ground for bacteria. I hadn't planned on keeping any of the milk, so I didnt think to boil the equipment or use one of those microwave bags. Big mistake looking back. But I really have no way of knowing how we got it exactly. That is just by gutt feeling. I struggled for a good month and a half. Because the first 2 weeks I thought I was just struggling like I did the first 2-3 weeks of nursing each child. So I just sucked it up hoping it would get better. After 2 weeks of agonizing pain, the white dots showed up. (note: white dots that I couldn't wipe off with a washcloth) And finally went to the . Did the Nystatin for 12 days, took some time off it, thought it was better. But I was still soar. Went back on Nystatin for both of us. got frustated with that, and thats when I opted for the Gentian Violet instead.



I know its a lot of info, but it was quite an ordeal. And the Gentian Violet is SHOCKING. But her purple face did go away although I thought I had scared her for life. My husband still calls her blueberry. I think the only reason he didnt flip out when he saw her face the first time was because I was in tears sobbing - it had gotten everywhere and I was afraid I had stained her face and hands for life. lol Only now can laugh about it though. I was a mess going thru it.

Jennifer - posted on 09/04/2011

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Thx Yogita I am taking it one day at a time. It's a good way to look at it and there are so many people who don't or can't bf. I should be grateful that we've made it this far.

Yogita - posted on 09/04/2011

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I just keep telling myself, I should try to give my daughter the same number of breast feeding months as my son.. And take one day at a time. If I can make it, great. If not, I tried...

Yogita - posted on 09/04/2011

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Meighen, I hear you. Whoever said number two is easier.. I nursed my son for 18 months and after the first 2 months of one issue., it was easy till I had to wean cause he woul eat every 2 hours all night and whenever he saw me in the day. With my 3 week old, we had oversupply, reflux, thrush, tongue tie, bad latch, fussy behavior at breast with a three year old to take care of.

We did nystatin and a bunchnof other things(coconut oil, apno, baking soda). White spots went away at a little over
months but the tongue was still whitish and there were two little hard spots on one gum. I went through another bottle of nystatin thinking it was thrush. Turns out it is something else. Now only a film of stubborn white residue which everyone tells me is milk residue remains but I am always nervous of a recurrence. Can you share how u treated thrush? My daughter is 3 months and 2 weeks. When did it start and resolve for u?

Jennifer - posted on 09/03/2011

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Thanks Meighan, by the way that's a cool spelling! It's nice to hear I'm not the only one doing so much. I feel horrible being this far and still using a nipple shield for the majority of the feedings. Anyway I can give her more of me and with the SNS. She pulls the tube out all the time and stares at me drinking it like it's a straw. I keep it up because it's more stimulation for my nipples as aggravating as it is. I talked with a LLL leader this evening in a different city and they have a mtg this week. So hopefully I can get some more support. I am gracious to get this far but, on edge and super tired. Exercise and my son keep me sane at this point. I went on medication for depression with my sonbut, don't want to go there again. Thanks again sorry tohear you are in a similar boat. You are doing great as well.

Meighen - posted on 09/03/2011

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I wish I had some advise, but all I can say is you're not alone. I have a 3 yr old and a 7 month old. Breast feeding has not been easy. Extremely painful and difficult first 2 months, then battling thrush, then the biting and teething started. It's been aganozing. We just moved too and it has been so hot here in TX I never want to leave the house so meeting new people has been practically non existent. I am so ready to throw in the towel. I have been supplementing too. Solid food three times a day, 4oz bottles (formula) 1-2 times a day, and nursing about 3-5 times a day. She eats a LOT. More if she's not sleeping thru the night. I feel like I never have enough milk anymore and pumping tears me up so badly it puts me in tears to nurse the next day. I nursed my first child for 13 months so I have tremendous guilt stopping now. I keep telling myself, ok I've made it 7 months, just one more day. And they I also find myself saying it's ok, 7 months is great, I made it past 6 months. It's ok to stop. So, like I said, no advise, just know your not alone, so no matter what you do, don't beat yourself up. And congrats on making it to 6 months, I know so many women who have thrown in the towel after 6 weeks or even 6 days.

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hi, I'm a huge advocate of breastfeeding, but i think happy mommy makes happy kids. If it's so stressful then maybe formula is not so bad after all. She;s gotten breast milk for 6 months which is awesome!

Jennifer - posted on 09/03/2011

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Thank you I tried to get a hold of the Knoxville leaders but, no one responded. I did talk to the head of TN LLL. She was nice but, it was before I was having issues. Thanks I will try again.

Jennifer - posted on 09/03/2011

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I haven't been to a mtg out here yet to meet anyone. They haven't had them. I think once fall hits they will resume. I am in contact with my LC from CA but it takes a lot of time to return my correspondence. I will try again though.

Sally - posted on 09/03/2011

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Will any member of the LLL meet with you individually? Maybe I'm just lucky, but almost every LLL leader I know is on call almost 24/7. A lot of them will even come to your house or let you come to theirs.
Does the local LLL have an e-mail group? If they do you can ask questions there and might get more individual support as well.
Good luck

Hannah - posted on 09/03/2011

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keep up the good work :o) its stressful! know that if you have you stop breast feeding that's OK!! she has gotten the BEST food for the first 6 MONTHS of her life and that's amazing!!! (your already doing a lot just by being a mom to two :o) ) know that you still have support from us here and that its ok if you're not able to nurse as much... i had to quit nursing my daughter at 5 months due to health reasons and it tore me apart, but knowing that other moms had to stop too was a great help! YOU ROCK MAMA JUST FOR BEING YOU!

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