trying for a 2nd time to brestfeed have a few questions

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ok so i tried w my 1st daughter but the nurse in the hosp. was no help at all i looked like i had hickeys all over my nipples n i was bleeding so she told me to give her a bottle i did then tried off & on to somedays she would n others she wouldnt this went on til 3 1/2 months i figured atleast she was getting some. well im due in about 2 weeks with my 2nd lil girl & want it to be successful this time around. is there any tips or advice ? is it ok to give them a binky before she gets the hang of things ?


Catherine - posted on 06/14/2010




When I started breastfeeding my son, I got a lot of great help from the lactation consultants at the hospital and from one I hired to come to my house. My advice to you would be to certainly take advantage of any lactation consultants that are available to you.

As for the binky, I know the official opinion is no, but I will say that a lactation consultant actually gave my son one in the hospital. He would get so worked up he wouldn't latch, so she would give it to him to calm him down and then he would latch. We were also forced to use bottles in the hospital to supplement because he lost way too much weight and they wouldn't discharge him. That being said, my now 8-month-old refuses to use binkies or bottles and he nurses like a pro. If I were to do it again, I would certainly avoid binkies and bottles if I could, but based on my own experience, I hesitate to go to the extreme of saying "absolutely" not.

April - posted on 06/13/2010




no! it is not okay to give her a binky if you are planning to breastfeed. it's very important that you offer the breast exclusively in the hospital. NO binkys and NO NO NO bottles. Not even "just one bottle". what happens is the baby is immediately rewarded by the bottle, whereas with breastfeeding the baby has to work a little harder.

also...the first 12 weeks are the hardest. you will need to be strong and brave. strong because there will be people trying to encourage bottle feeding. brave because sometimes there might be obstacles (sore nipples, blockeducts, milk blisters, thrush, etc..) but you can get through it! also you might not experience any of these things. and if your baby wants to nurse all day and night (marathon feeding)'s NORMAL. As they get older, it gets easier.

good luck and remember--No bottles and No binkys...not even ONE bottle!

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If you have a chance, take breastfeeding classes. If not, read up on EVERYTHING to do with breastfeeding. There is a lot of misinformation out there, so do your own research.

Some great sites:
Click the tab along the top that reads "breastfeeding information." On this page you'll find so much information on so many aspects of breastfeeding, including a section called "Breastfeeding ABC" which is particularly good for starting out. There are links here to videos about attachment, very important in getting started.

This one is also good:

Join your local breastfeeding support group - in the US, i think it's La Leche League. Surround yourself with breastfeeding mums. Remember we need to know more than just how good breastfeeding is, but all the techniques too.

All the best.

Emily - posted on 06/13/2010




Get a support system set up in advance. Have a phone number of a lactation consultant ready. Find your local La Leche League and attend a meeting now if you can. (Meetings and advice from leaders are always FREE!) Don't count on the nurses in the hospital to know their stuff. Many nurses just don't get the proper training in breastfeeding.

Melissa - posted on 06/13/2010




See if the hospital has a lactation consultant if not find one that will come to you... the LC at my hospital is ABSOLUTELY the only reason I breastfed. My husband was also a big support through it all!! I gave my son a pacifier at the hospital(still do) and tried supplementing but once the LC helped me I did not look back. Also get a nipple cream and apply after EVERY feeding this helped me a ton! I use Lanisnoh Lanolin cream absolute MAJIC lol!! Good luck and keep going!!

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