Unable to Continue Breastfeeding with 2 month old

Megan - posted on 12/11/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




I feel extremely guilty for deciding to discontinue breastfeeding, but I gave it the best shot I could. I started as early as possible, but baby wouldn't latch at the hospital, and I finally got him to latch at home. He seemed to be latched well and was getting enough milk to feel satisfied and content. However, I was in EXTREME pain. I visited the lactation consultants at least five times, and was told baby was latching correctly and recieiving adequate milk. I found out I have Reynaud's syndrome and nomatter what I do, I continue to be in such extreme pain that I rountinely cried whenever I had to feed the baby. I DREADED it so much. I don't want to dread feeding my baby, and I don't want to cry every time. It isn't good for me, and it can't be good for him to feel all that stress.

I decided to switch to formula yesterday because I feel like it's more important to have a good relationship with my baby. I still feel terrible that I'm not giving my baby "the best". I love him so much, and I want all the best for him, but not at the cost of my own sanity.

Is there anyone else on this forum who went through the same thing? I wanted so much to breastfeed him for as long as I could, up to a year. I can't continue pumping because I cannot afford a good enough pump, all I have is a manual one. I was formula fed, and I'm a healthy, happy person.


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Traci - posted on 12/14/2009




Wow, that's wild. I didn't know something like that existed! I'd almost feel relieved on some level, although clearly that's not the case. Actually, I'm really unsure HOW I would feel... I guess I don't envy you in your position.

I don't know what else to tell you, except keep your head up.

(edit: relieved that it was something REAL and not just some crazy sensation I was having... I should clear that up there.)

Rebecca - posted on 12/12/2009




Raynauds Syndrome is when there is vasospasm of the arterioles in the nipples causing blanching of the nipples and very painful breastfeeding. Alot of the times it is diagnosed as Thrush because the symptoms can mimic thrush. But this syndrome is treatable with vitamin and herbal remedies.

Helpful strategies are: moderate aerobic exercise, adding calcium (2000mg per day) and magnesium (1000 mg per day). Evening primrose oil and fish oil have been of help to some patients. Nifedipine is the most effective drug for this condition. This drug has been approved by the AAP for breastfeeding mothers.

Megan I am sorry to hear that you are going through a tough time. Breastfeeding is such an emotional roller coaster all on its own regardless of trials and tribulations that you can have. Have you looked into treating your Raynauds Syndrome? Maybe you can try a nipple shield along with the medications to see if that can help with the pain? I hope that what ever route you choose to feed your baby that you know you are doing everything in your power to do what is the best for you and your baby. A happy mommy = happy baby! take care!!

Here is a site that explains some of the treatments that are out there:


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What is Reynaud's syndrome? I've never heard of it.

I'm sorry you've been in so much pain!! It definitely shouldn't be like that. :( I do hope that you won't let this experience turn you off of trying to breastfeed any future babies if possible. :)

Hannah - posted on 12/12/2009




Oh I sympathise with you so much! I went through the same thing.

I also gave up feeding my first baby at 2 months because of the pain, and I felt it was preventing me from bonding with her. I did not get diagnosed with any medical problem, in retrospect I now think I had recurring infections, and didn't realise this was the source of the pain, I just thought it was incredibly painful and just not improving no matter what I tried.

Anyway, I beat myself up so much over deciding what to do as I wanted to breastfeed so much, but once I had got over my feelings of guilt, it was actually a big relief and I don't regret it.

It is such an emotional decision to make, but deep down I felt I knew what I wanted to do, and that being a happy mum was more important than breastfeeding at any cost.

Your baby will be completely loved, which is more important than how you choose to feed. At least you tried! I know some mums who wouldn't even contemplate breastfeeding. Before you know it you will blink and find your baby has grown into a happy, healthy toddler - it does go by that fast. You need to be able to enjoy every second, and your baby won't hold it against you if you choose to bottle feed, I promise!

Sounds to me like you have tried extremely hard, so please don't feel guilty, there are more important things to being a mother than how you feed your baby, you'll both be fine!

Good Luck and I hope you feel ok about your decision x

Megan - posted on 12/11/2009




Thanks Aeriel. :) That makes me feel a little better to be positively reinforced. I wish that it worked out better for us, but I don't want to look back someday and realize that I lost all those precious moments feeding my sweet little guy. I want to enjoy every minute I can with him, time is already going by too fast.

Aeriel - posted on 12/11/2009




Don't feel guilty! I think that if you are in SO much pain feeding him that it makes you want to cry or scream out in pain, then you aren't giving him the best anyways! Him feeling the tenseness and stress of you while he's feeding isn't doing him any good! I don't think that breast is best in your situation at all and hope you can find a formula that he likes. My sister went through the same thing as you and had to try 3 different kinds of formula that her baby liked and could tolerate. I hope that the transition from breast to formula goes well for you and baby, and that you can enjoy feeding and bonding with him just the same!

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