Weaning woes! How can i wean my 14 mth old?

Jackie - posted on 05/13/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )

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unfortunatly i recently was put on some medication that has inconclusive studies on whether or not its safe to breastfeed. anyway my daughter is now almost 14 months old and i would like to wean. i am having sooo much trouble. she wont drink out of any cups unless its water or watered-down juice. if its milk or formula or breastmilk she refuses to even put it ot her lips. anyone have any ideas?

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Kelly - posted on 11/17/2011

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Children self regulate there calorie intake until about 2 yrs old so if they are hungry they will eat, they will not starve themselves. All you need to do is to offer healthy options to create good eating habits.

By 14 months the breastfeeding will be mostly about comfort. Although even at 14 months you cant find a replacement for breast milk as it is perfect for your child, your milk actually changes as your child grows and the demand changes so gentle slow weaning is recommended for both your child’s sake and yours.

If you are in a hurry to wean, once you take away the breast milk option they will take a while to switch to cow’s milk or formula. My eldest daughter self weaned at 19 months 3 weeks before my second child was due to be born. It took her a few months to get used to cow’s milk I just kept offering it to her 2 – 3 times a day. I am now doing the same with my 14 month old having cut out the night feeds over the space of a month coming up to her 1st bday and I am now starting to cut out the day feeds one at a time. She is now nursing in the morning and last thing at night.

Abbie - posted on 05/15/2011

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I can almost GUARANTEE you that that medication is perfectly safe to use while nursing.
Virtually the only medications which are absolutely not safe are ones used for chemo-therapy, etc...
PLEASE contact your local LLL Leader & have her look it up in Dr. Hales "Medications & Mother's Milk" (or you can PM me & I will look it up for you). Roughly 90% of medications are fine to take while nursing (especially an older baby like yours).
Good luck, mama!

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Jackie - posted on 11/28/2011

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thanks everyone. i've successfully weaned, and it was because i chose to go off the medication and am now pregnant. It hurt so bad it motivated me more and she was very understanding that it hurt. and katie- i totally relate. it was very sad, very hard to let that time go. hope it has gone okay for you now.

Katie - posted on 11/25/2011

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I feel your pain! I am supposed to be on some medications that I cannot take while pregnant or nursing. Medications that I need. I have not taken them in 3 years. My Son just turned 2 on the 21st, and it has been my plan to stop at 2 so that I can take my medicine again. I stopped offering him the breast a few months ago, and besides when he was sick, he was down to once a day, sometimes every other day. His birthday was to be his last day, but he didn't ask for it on his birthday, so the day before turned out to be his last day. He has asked for it a couple of times since, which breaks my heart, but at the same time I really need my medication. At the same time, although it will be a week tomorrow, I have not taken my medication yet. Why? Because it's so FINAL. It's probably been harder on me than him, but I'm having trouble taking the medication nonetheless. If I don't start them tonight, I will most likely make myself tomorrow night. Once he's been off for a full week, I'm hoping that's enough time for it to be final. Ugh, I hate it!

Samantha - posted on 05/18/2011

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I feel for you! I'm pregnant and had to stop nursing immediately (per my doctor). It took 12 painful days for me to feel better. Try to decrease nursing as slowly as possible. After your child has stopped nursing, cabbage leaves in your bra really does help.
The first 2 nights were hard, but now my daughter goes right on to sleep just snuggling instead of nursing. My daughter refuses to drink any milk at my house. No matter if its whole milk, 2%, strawberry or chocolate! She drinks milk at the sitters, but at home its water or watered-down juice. I give her yogurt every day to try to maintain some calcium levels. Really, I'm in the same boat. Good Luck!

Natalie - posted on 05/16/2011

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I fed my daughter for 3 years i thought id do it untill she wanted to stop, but she was never ganna stop they say after 1 yr they dont need to have a bottle it is purley for comfort and it causes tooth decay in babies, I how ever liked to keep my babies belly full before bed or when they felf a need to settle or feel comfortable. How ever my daughter never had milk before i stopped breastfeeding i said no i held my top down and had the bottle offering, after 3 days of not giving in at all she stopped lifting my top after about 5 days she had a bottle and started sleeping through, it seems daunting it seems like its ganna be hard but 3 or 5 days out of your life, seems like nothing now they survive they dont punish you in any way and they wont remember it when they are older, and not breast feeding is not a bad thing to do. My daughters teeth are so bad and now i have to stop the bottle, cause dont forget apparently breast milk has alot of sugar in it./ GOOD LUCK

Alison - posted on 05/15/2011

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You might try different bottle/ cup nipples.. Find something a little more like what she's used to or maybe she prefers one style/ type over another. My son would only take the clear silicon nipples when I first weened.. Good luck!

Jacqui - posted on 05/15/2011

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um.... Just because SOMEONE put something in a book and someone else printed it... does NOT make what ever reccomendations in said book SAFE or ACCURATE.

Stephanie - posted on 05/15/2011

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I breastfed my daughter until she was 21 months old. I had been wanting to stop and wasn't sure how as she loved to nurse. I never had to pump and therefore only tried a bottle one time prior for a constipation issue. I had a handful of bottles on hand as I thought that was how I'd wean....I tried one time and she was not interested. One day I was cleaning and took them out of the cupboard and was going to toss them as I thought she'd never use them. Well, she saw them and said, "ba-ba"...as she had a few that she was using to play w/ her babydolls. So I asked her if she wanted to see them. She said yes, so I put some water in one and whole milk in the other. She played w/ them for a bit...even putting them in her mouth and trying them out. That was it! I decided that was the day. At nap time, I put some cold milk in the one bottle and told her that Mommy's milk was all gone and that now she gets to be a big girl and use a bottle. I wasn't sure about doing that as it seemed that transitioning her to a bottle was not a step forward, but it actually was. She asked to nurse a couple of times a day over the next few days, but kept telling her that she was now a BIG girl and that Mommy didn't have anymore milk. She cried a few times, but it wasn't bad at all. I did change up the nap time and bed time routine a bit because in my mind, I didn't want the bottle to be the only change. I moved the chair in her room that I rocked her in and read to her in. Honestly, it was easy. She was 21 months old, maybe that's why, but wanted to suggest that maybe using a bottle to pretend feed a stuffed animal or doll may be a way to get her started!! Good Luck!!

Amy - posted on 05/14/2011

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I hear ya. Mine is 14 months old too and has just become a more difficult/tempermental/demanding baby! I wanted to wean to a cup but she refuses to drink anything but water from a cup.... so she drinks from a bottle at daycare but refuses to take the bottle at home (this is something new.... she used to be fine going from bottle to breast with both my husband and I so I thought: no problem, weaning will be easy)! But.... no. Now she just wants me constantly when I'm around. She is also underweight so I'm worried about just letting her get thirsty (though I know it's probably the right approach).

I look forward to more ideas from readers, too!

Lacye - posted on 05/13/2011

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This is what I did when I was weaning my daughter off the bottle, I did breastfeed a little bit but I had to quit it's a long story. Put the milk in the cup. If the child won't hold it, put it down on the table and walk away. Don't fix them anything else to drink. Your daughter will eventually get thirsty and she will drink out of it. Yeah it seems a little mean but it does work.

Monica - posted on 05/13/2011

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I'm having the same problem with my soon to be 9 month old. He wont take my breastmilk from anything and I have to wean him before I start pharmacy school in August. Any ideas that get posted for your question I would love to hear as well, I was just getting ready to post a similar question.

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