what's the average age that people take their daughters to get their ears pierced?

Helen - posted on 07/29/2010 ( 75 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 6 weeks old and I was just wondering what the right age was. Any suggestions??

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Merry - posted on 08/03/2010

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in my opinion a good age is after 10 or so. I dislike baby piercings as it is risking their health for cosmetic reasons.
Just sounds too irrsponsible to me.

Danielle - posted on 08/01/2010

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i don't think it needs to be done as a baby i firmly believe that a child should be able to choose if they want them done or not, its only for the parents benifit of their daughters having cute ears as a baby

Bernadette - posted on 08/02/2010

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I'd say when they are old enough to ask for it is the right time. First of all, they may not really want it and second, if they've had them since before they can remember then there is nothing special about getting them done. I think for a little girl it can be very exciting going and choosing a pair or earrings and then getting to show them off to all their friends at school. If they're already there, there is no excitement. Not to mention that little babies are just so adorable on their own, that there is really no need to 'decorate' them - enjoy their natural cuteness while it lasts!

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It's up to you. My 8.5 year olds don't have their's pierced yet. They want it, but I'm using it as a bargaining tool for them to prove some responsibility. I'm thinking maybe around 10-11....

I'm 33 and have never had an interest in having my ears pierced though. :)

Sara - posted on 07/31/2010

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I would wait until she can tell you she wants them. I took out my ear piercings that I chose to have when I was 5. There is still a visible hole that annoys me. However, I know that I wanted to pierce my ears. I would hate to have my daughter resent me because I forced a change in her body on her.

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Kate - posted on 01/11/2013

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my niece got hers done at 6 weeks old, she's two now and it looks a bit cheap, i would put it off for a couple of years. :)

Rachel - posted on 08/15/2010

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I took my oldest when seh was 3 months old. Whoever said it's illegal before six months is full of crap. Most people I know that did it before than didn't do it at birth. I would have done my second daughter's ears at 3 months as well, but her ear lobes are smaller. I'm anxiously waiting to do it!!

Maria - posted on 08/15/2010

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got my eldest done at 18 months(now 2) as a treat she didnt even cry plan to do wait till 18 months for my 7 month old to get hers done too

Joseline - posted on 08/15/2010

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I'm not gonna sit here and debate over whether or not you SHOULD, because things like infections and such can happen at ANY age! I pierced my ears when I was about 14 and had an allergic reaction to the metal so it has nothing to do with age in my opinion. If you want to pierce her ears then go for it. My daughter is 3 weeks old and I asked both her pediatrician and my doctor and they said she can have her ears pierced as soon as just days old. I'm planning on piercing hers pretty soon.

Adria - posted on 08/14/2010

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You are supposed to wait until they're had their shots. Since it's a vanity thing, I would wait until she can choose for herself. I've had friends with and without peirced ears. Some girls don't want holes in their ears. In my family we weren't allowed until we were 12 (like a entering into teenager thing where we were responsible for taking care of our ears ourselves). My own personal preference is no peircing for babies. They're so pure and perfect-I don't think they need any (Unnatural) holes in them yet. I

Bernadette - posted on 08/13/2010

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haha, like Laura M, I am one of five girls. My mother was also strict on the whole no earpiercing thing (and didn't have hers done) and we also weren't allowed to get them done until 17. I had mine done in time for my high school graduation formal. By then, it was a personal choice, and I paid for it myself, chose the earrings myself, and looked after them myself. As a graduation present, my Mum gave me a pair of earrings. I think that it is a decision that should be made by the person getting them pierced, when they are old enough to make the decision. And as I have already said previously, why decorate a baby that is already so adorable on its own anyway? Babies are beautiful, they don't need to be changed.

Chelseaszidik - posted on 08/12/2010

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I believe that children should be allowed to choose if they have any part of their body pierced when they are old enough to decide. Not all piercing holes will close no matter how long you leave earings out of them.

Colleen - posted on 08/12/2010

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My mum had mine done around age 1 year. I am happy she got it done as I wouldn't have wanted to go through the pain and I like having pierced ears. My boys are 3 now, but if they were girls I probably would have gotten their ears pierced early, when they were not getting into stuff and getting dirty so they would just heal up nicely.

Sharon - posted on 08/12/2010

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I think it's funny that people automatically make a distinction between piercing an ear and piercing a nose. You have to realize it's because it's our societal norm. Either way it is a body modification. People are just used to seeing metal shot through an ear and not necessarily other body parts. But really when you think about it, its the same thing.

Misty - posted on 08/12/2010

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I did it the way my mother did she let my sister and I tell er if and when we wanted them. My 4 yr old told me last yr about this time over and over that wntd them. I told her the truth that it hurts for a split second and that the holes in her ears are forever. She begged to go so we did. I have a soon to be 1 yr old girl and will do the same. I believe it should be thier choice. dont they get poked enough with shots and blood work enough as a baby? jst my 2 cents

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Why don't you just let her decide for herself whether she wants her body modified? She's not your property.

Sara - posted on 08/11/2010

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Everyone has a right to their own opinion. I don't think it is terrible to pierce a babies ears. I think it is easier and they heal quicker when they are younger. My daughter is a year old and we just got them done a week ago. She cryed for a second and they are healing perfectly. As long as you get the real gold earrings you have less of a chance of infection. Personally I don't know any ladies that don't have their ears pierced. What I get upset about is jr. high girls with body piercings, naval, eyebrow, ect. My niece was allowed a bellybutton piercing at age 11. That is something to get worked up about.

Patricia - posted on 08/11/2010

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I got mine pierced when I got my first period. My daughter and I went to get hers done on her 8th birthday because it was her "golden" birthday.

Merry - posted on 08/11/2010

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thanks for sharing Jennifer, I appreciate the knowledge that babies can be allergic to the earrings. I was always opposed to baby piercings but this is one more reason I am against it.

Jennifer - posted on 08/11/2010

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Ok, I didn't read any of the other answers first, but in my opinion, babies shouldn't have their ears pierced. My mother took my daughter to get her ears pierced when she was 8wks. old without asking me. I was very upset. I didn't take them out right away, figuring the damage had been done, and within 3 days both of her ears were infected, even though I had been taking care of them. Turns out, she was severely allergic to the metal in the earrings. If we had waited until she was older, she most likely wouldn't have developed an allergy to the metal (according to the dr), and been able to avoid the terrible scarring that developed as a result of the infection.
We got her ears re-pierced when she was 10 and old enough to take care of her ears and the earrings.

Sharon - posted on 08/10/2010

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hi i don't have a daughter but one of my friends had identical twin girls the only way they can tell them apart is because one has her ears pierced. This was slao true of twins i went to primary school with.

Muffin - posted on 08/09/2010

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My baby was 5 months and we live in NY. I think they have to be at least 3 or 4 months old

Frances - posted on 08/09/2010

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a lot of piercing shops would take your baby after the first innoculation. I took mine when she was 4mos old.

Katie - posted on 08/09/2010

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It's not illegal in the US to get them pierced before 6 months. I got my daughters done right after she turned 3 months at Claire's. They won't do them before 3 months there. I've heard that some places won't do them before 6 months, but at Claire's (at least the one I went to) does them at 3 months or older.

Danielle - posted on 08/09/2010

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I don't have a daughter but I'm also not opposed to boys with piercings either. Hubby and I have agreed that we WILL NOT pierce their ears unless THEY ask for it.

Would you pierce their nose? Their eyebrow? Of course not! Why is the ear any different?

Also, for what it's worth, it's not as simple as just taking the earrings out and letting the holes close up as someone mentioned. If your daughter decides she didn't want holes in her body, she may take the earrings out and still be left with visible holes like I have. Now, granted, I don't wear earrings because I've lost all mine (I'm horrible with that!) but even after years of being mostly earring free, my holes are still open and I can still put earrings in whenever I want...they've never closed up. So please don't rationalize with "oh they can let them close up if they don't want them!"

The way I look at it is, it's a cosmetic procedure and I do not have the right to make that choice for any other human being. I personally don't think it should be allowed but I guess thankfully for other people, it's not up to me... It's not necessary, it's painful (I remember having mine done when I was 5 or so), and it's kind of invasive. I mean if I just walked up to some random person on the street and punctured a hole in their earlobe without their consent, I'd be charged with assault and battery....

Why is it that people seem to forget that babies are people too? If you wouldn't want someone forcing something on you, then maybe you should think twice before doing it to a baby....

Yes it only hurts for a second but that's a second of pain you didn't need to inflict on your child and it's an alteration of THEIR body for cosmetic purposes.

Merry - posted on 08/08/2010

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Well Laura it looks like we have more in common then our name :) I agree wholeheartedly, and while I was allowed my earrings at 11, I will be having my daughters wait longer. I mean there is risks involved here and pain too. Just not worth it!

Laura - posted on 08/08/2010

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Personally I am offended that parents choose to pierce their child's ears like they claim personal ownership over them. We do many things in our child's "best interest" because of facts and scientific findings, but what could your child possibly gain from having two additional holes in their body? Some parents (including me) feel terrible about the pain the child must go through for the mandatory knocks of life. Why would you want to be the cause of unnecessary pain and suffering?

Like many girls who feel left out of the pierced ear loop I desperately wanted to have my ears pierced as a child, but my mother (un-pierced herself) had a strict rule that none of her 5 daughters could get their ears pierced until they were 17 and able to consent and care for themselves. I am very glad for this now as an adult because by the time I grew up and realized that I didn't have to be like everyone else I very much appreciate the fact that I didn't make an impetuous decision based on others, and that I have perfectly smooth and cute ears. There's lots of clip-ons out there if I feel the need for decoration. I will give my daughter the same gift of freedom.

Emily - posted on 08/08/2010

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When she gets a job and can pay for it herself, clean them herself, and choose to do it herself. I always wanted to get mine done as a little kid, and my mom was against it because her grandmother had a horrible infection once. We weren't allowed until we turned 18. I am glad she didn't let me. I am 28 now and have NO desire to have my ears pierced.

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At Claire's they will pierce at any age as long as the baby has received their first set of shots. I am looking at their website right now. My mom pierced mine at 4 months or so, and my new daughter I will be doing hers early too. I got my second holes done at 19 and that was sooo painful and it took awhile to heal.

Kyrie - posted on 08/07/2010

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We're waiting until our daughter is old enough to decide and take care of it herself.

Angela - posted on 08/07/2010

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Had both of my daughters done when they were 3 months old we live in California !!! They are now 7 years old and 3 years old and they love them now !!!

Sharon - posted on 08/07/2010

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In my family we got ours done at 15/16 years old. I was recently discussing with my MIL someone we know who got their infant's ears pierced and we both agreed she should be older. MIL said "yes, like 5 years old.." She was a bit taken aback when I said "um, actually I was thinking more like 15"

I guess it comes down to personal choice but personally it does distress and disturb me to see little babies with pierced ears. I just really don't see the need for it and instead I see the hazards - especially choking hazards. It is definitely something that is done for the parent's, not the kid.

There is a risk of infection at any age, but I do think the kid should be old enough to understand what's involved and make the decision.

FYI out of 4 sisters, 3 of us got it done as I said around 15 or so, one chose not to. 1 of us had horrible problems with keloid scarring that required medical treatment. The 4th sister got hers done in her late 20's.

Sally - posted on 08/06/2010

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My personal opinion is when she's old enough to take care of them herself and wants it done. I wouldn't poke a hole in a baby and stick a pointy choking hazard in her ear. My girls are cute enough as god made them.
My 6 year old occasionally asks and when I tell her what's involved she changes her mind and my 9 month old isn't big enough to ask yet. When they are ready, we will go.

Sara - posted on 08/06/2010

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for me it was a tough decsion just cos my daughter was very fussy and cried continuously so i didnt want to have anything alse that might stop her sleeping peacefully so i waited till she was about 6 months and it was fine :)

Vanessa - posted on 08/06/2010

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I got my daughters down when she was 3months old. and its not illegal in the us. Some places wont do it bc they have a personal choice of not to and babys earlobes have to be big enough for the peircing gun to fit properly.

Kristi - posted on 08/06/2010

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Wrong honey... It's not illegal, it's just hard to find someone who will do it. Most people have a problem with piercing infants' ears period. It is only illegal BEFORE 10 days old. You can have your child's ears pierced once per earlobe at 10 days old and up.

Jennifer - posted on 08/06/2010

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I have three girls and all of them had their ears pierced as babies. My 1st two were around 6 weeks old and the last (who is almost 7 months) got hers done at almost 3 months. I tried to get them pierced at 6 wks but the idiot at my local walmart screwed it up and got one earring too high. It was up by her ear canal instead of down on her earlobe. I had to remove it because it was getting infected. So I made the decision to remove them both and we tried again after her ears closed and she was a little bigger. So far we haven't had any problems with this set. They didn't get infected and actually I just bought her her first pair of gold hoops, so now she matches her older sisters who wear hoops most of the time. Sometimes it is harder to pierce smaller babies because their ears are tiny and it can be difficult to get the earrings even.

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I've been told to do it while you are still breastfeeding cause you can nurse while they do it and baby doesn't get nearly as upset. I was planning on doing it at 2 months but my hubby's family traditions are different than mine. He wants to wait till she is 16 to do it. Then buy her first pair of diamond ear rings.

Kristen - posted on 08/06/2010

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My daughter gets enough needles stuck in her at the doctors. I couldn't stand to see her cry for something so unnecessary. If she wants to get them done when she's older (at least double digits) then I may think about it.

Kimberly - posted on 08/06/2010

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I worked in a place that Pierced ears and When a baby came in it broke my heart.... I loved it though when I young girl came in with her mom and they looked at all the earings and Picked one out together mom brought a camera and The girl brought her best friends to watch and it was a memory they both have of a milestone in a girls childhood.. I have that memory of me and my mom and I wouldnt change a thing, sure I had to clean them and take care of them and it did hurt, But I remember picking out gold stars and sitting there holding my moms hand and closing my eyes real tight and she said to me Dont worry im not gonna let go and by the time she said it, it was done.... Im not the only one with a memory of getting ones ears pierced but I just wanted to share it so that you can think that as a mother wouldnt you love to share that with your daughter... I have a son so Who knows I may not get the chance.... Good luck

Sam - posted on 08/06/2010

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Wow I didnt realise so many people chose to get their babies ears pierced!! I was 6 when I got mine done, it was my choice to get them done. It is up to my daughter if she wants her ears pierced or not so will not get them pierced unless she asks, its her body, she should chose if she wants them done or not.

Rosie - posted on 08/05/2010

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i think the younger they are the better.. because once wen they get older..they get sensitive n fiddle around with their ears because they know that some is there.. my lil gal is 3yrs old now, she had her ears pierced wen she was 5 months old. she never touches it until wen she was 2..so its better to get it done when they are still little

Ami - posted on 08/05/2010

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I didn't get mine pierced until I was about 10 or something. Our daughter is 14 months and I just don't want to have to worry about infections, or the earrings falling out and getting lost or having her swallow them. I think I'll wait until she's older :).

Carrie - posted on 08/05/2010

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By the way, that would be years!
I have my ears pierced, and love them, but I have no right to potentially disfigure my children. Their bodies, their rights! Its not like its a necessary, medical procedure.

Morgan - posted on 08/05/2010

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like i said its what the parent feels comfortable with. its not like a tattoo and permenat. when she gets older and wants em out she can take em out. each to their own.

Heather - posted on 08/05/2010

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Who's to say she even wants them pierced? I'm waiting until my daughter approaches me and actually says mum I wanna get my ears pierced, and then she can get them done :)

Morgan - posted on 08/05/2010

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i think it all depends on what the parents are comfortable with. my family do it early before age 6 months. because, they are not aware of their ears to pull on the newly pierced ears. that way giving the ears time to heal. all 6 of my nieces and my daughter as well had their ears done at 4 months. but, like said before its what you as the parent is comfortable with.

Jolene - posted on 08/05/2010

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Yes, I do mean two holes, although the one without the earring should have closed up nicely. But that is exactly what I am saying, just because a place pierces doesn't mean the person there is going to be great at it. Even at a dr's office, I'd ask for the same reason I don't want a dr that is uncomfortable circumcising doing the job. (UGH!)

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All four of us girls were 11 when we had ours pierced. For our parents, it was a privilege, not a right or a given. We intend to raise our daughters similarly.

Merry - posted on 08/05/2010

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Jolene do you mean that sometimes babies end up with two holes because they moved during the piercing? I think thats what you said and that realy scares me! I hope moms who chose infant piercings take the time and money to go to the doctors office to have it done. They are much better trained then anyone at claires or another jewelery store!
Jolene Im sorry you had to go through that, it must have been so stressful, I mean piercings are semi perminent and Id hate to think a mother would be mad at me for 'messing up' her child!

thanks for sharing the flip side of the experience :)

Jolene - posted on 08/05/2010

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There is no right age, it's up to you. Babies will forget the pain. I'm going to let my oldest get hers pierced when she is 8. No particular reasoning behind it. However, I will say that back in the day I worked at Claire's. I HATED piercing ears, especially babies, but I had to do it as part of the job. It's very hard to get a baby to hold still, and when they move at the last second, you have to take it out and try again. I'd be sure that the person piercing is comfortable and confident, something I lacked.

Jamie - posted on 08/05/2010

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Well, it is not illegal before 6 months at least not here. You just have to wait until they get their 2 month shots. I got my daughter's done at 5 months. The store I went to just asked for her date of birth and her vaccination record. I am not sure if all places require that or not. Anyway, it was simple my daughter didn't even cry. The lady who did it told me that they typically respond to their ears pierced as they do to their vaccinations. So if the shots don't bother her then it should be easy. Also, my parents made me wait until I was 13. I didn't take care of them. They got really infected, had to be taken out, then in college I had them redone. I don't think there is a "right" age. Even older kids might not care for them properly. lol. Only do it if you are really going to take care of them though. It is 3 cleanings a day for 6 weeks.

Heather - posted on 08/05/2010

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It's up to you. I think that 6 months is a better age to do it at, but that's just me. We decided to wait and let our daughter make that decision for herself when she's 4 or 5 years old, or older. So it will be up to her.

Kristi - posted on 08/05/2010

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I didn't personally get mine pierced until I was 12, but I am wondering why parents would have a babies' ears pierced before they are too young to say that they want them pierced? What if they grow up and didn't want holes in their ears? Not everyone has holes that close up easily.

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