when did you start feeding

Cleaver - posted on 01/24/2013 ( 20 moms have responded )

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my son is 3 1/2 MO and my husband is talking about starting him on food, but he isn't showing signs of being ready hes still find with breast milk. i want to wait until hes ready but my husband says hes old enough hes ready

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Celeste - posted on 01/24/2013

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That's not a very accurate sign of being ready for solids. Wanting to nurse often is pretty common in growth spurts and not necessarily means they're ready for solids. I fell into that with my first daughter-I started her right at 4 months, thinking she was ready for solid foods and also thinking it would help with her weight gain.

Here's a great article from kellymom about signs of being ready for solids:
http://kellymom.com/nutrition/starting-s...

Lori - posted on 01/26/2013

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The recommendation of starting solids at 4 months old is outdated. The newest recommendation is waiting until baby is 6 months old before you begin to introduce solid food. And even then, it's just to start getting baby used to new flavors and textures. "Food for FUN until they're ONE"

Your breastmilk is the most perfect food for your baby. It's all your baby needs to grow and thrive until his/her first birthday. Unlike formula, breastmilk changes as your baby grows. The idea of adding solid foods so early became popular when formula was extremely common, but the formula companies weren't putting enough iron in the formula. So to get more iron, baby needed to be started on fortified cereals. This is NOT necessary with a breastfed baby, and isn't necessary with a formula fed baby anymore either.

And before you start feeding your baby rice cereal, do some research. Rice is being found to have too high levels or arsenic. You'll want to be careful about any product with rice. Baby cereal, rice krispies, rice chex, rice milk, etc, and of course any rice that you eat as part of your meal.

You don't want to be feeding that to your LO. Oatmeal is a much better choice for a first cereal. But again, there's no rush. Wait until your LO is ready.

I've attached a link here to a site about baby led weaning. It's a great way to begin solid foods... when baby is ready.

http://www.babyledweaning.com

Kristin - posted on 01/26/2013

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Unless your husband is a pediatrician and can speak 3.5 mo, he shouldn't be commenting. The experts recommend no solids of any kind until your child is 4 to 6 months, able to sit unassisted, and isn't pushing the food out of their mouths. Many say don't bother until your child is showing interest in the food YOU are eating. Solids in a bottle are a possible choking hazard, so not a good idea.

With breastfeeding, frequency and duration dictate how much you produce. If you want to produce more, he needs to feed more and fully. He will seem hungry more often until you catch up. This will happen with every growth spurt, whether he's on solids or not.

Better question is do you think he is ready? Why does your husband want him to move on? Is he uncomfortable with breast feeding, or is he following a book to the letter? Each child sets their own pace. Good luck.

Annie - posted on 01/28/2013

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My 1st wasn't really ready even at 6 months - he just wasn't interested. My youngest is the same age as yours & there's no way I'd even consider it at their age. Every baby is ready for it in their own time & it's unlikely to be now. Just because a child has reached a certain age, doesn't mean that it automatically does all the things the books say the average child does then - it's not magic!
I'd ask him who's he's getting his info from as it sounds to me like he's getting pressured from mum...

Cleaver - posted on 01/27/2013

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wow lol my husband just said that once they are teething they need solid foods he is officially crazy. i have told him to leave all feeding with the 3.5 MO is all up to me

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Tara - posted on 02/27/2013

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My sonn was 6 months old when I began to feed him solids. However I was very lucky for I was a very good "milking cow' as my doctor put it and made plenty of milk!! So I left the solids until around the recommended time. I found the poop changed and it smells a lot worse. I'm sure if your hubby on poop duty, he'd recommend the return to breast feeding! Mine did.

Just joking, if you have any concerns whether your baby is ready for solids, see your GP who should be able to determine if bub is ready and advise your husband and yourself when is the 'correct' time to start on solids.
Good luck T :o)

Margarita - posted on 02/05/2013

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Isn't it weird how once they get some crazy idea in their heads it's impossible to get it out?! LOL! Good for you for not letting him pressure you into his little competition with his sister. I remember standing outside my daughter's preschool class looking at some stuff the teachers had posted from the kids and another mom commenting how she hoped her husband wouldn't see how well this one girl in the class could write or he would get all upset their son wasn't writing as well. All children progress at their own rate and some excel in some areas faster than others. The milestones in books and especially the anecdotes from other parents (which may well be tainted as we all start remembering things differently over time) are not gospel and certainly not universal. With few exceptions, such as food allergies, mom's inability to produce enough,milk, etc., solids are more for getting them used to the idea of eating and not much else. This obviously increases as they get older, but the bulk of their calories prior to age one should come from breast milk or formula (then it quickly flips over!). I started feeding cereal to my daughter at 4.5 months because she kept reaching for my food and making faces (the ped called it "social readiness"), but it was only about 1/2 tsp of rice with about 2 tbs of breast milk and giving her only a few bites (those tiny spoons don't hold much) until she was about 6 months. Then I started with fruits, veggies, etc, but it was rarely more than 2oz per day for a few more months, then I started gradually adding more, you get the picture. Having said that, if your child starts chewing well and sits up well and seems to reject the mushy stuff, you can play with different consistencies as they get older, there is nothing wrong with that, just remember that they are not a substitute for what they SHOULD be eating, which is breast milk or formula. Good luck, and if at all possible, get him to come with you to the ped check-up. Sometimes that helps straighten them out.

Romina - posted on 02/05/2013

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I started feeding both of my sons solids at 3 months. Just some cereal mixed with formula, and I gradually increased from there. Both of my children are perfectly healthy and normal. I think these recommendations are put into place because there are some irresponsible mothers out there who want to reduce formula early because it's expensive or breastfeeding because it is inconvenient, but they are both very important for the nutrition of a growing baby. So long as you don't replace BM or Formula with solid foods, tasting solids here and there should be just fine.

Cleaver - posted on 01/31/2013

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well my son isnt hungry, my husband thinks that the only reason he cries is for food which is not the case. he is teething he cries, he is loanly he cries, he is sick he cries, his brother cries so does he.

Alexis - posted on 01/31/2013

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Both of my sons started on baby cereal and food by 4 months. They were definitely not filling up on liquids alone. They were clearly interested in what I was eating- they're not stupid, they know we have good stuff lol. My 7 month old eats soft solids (steamed carrots or squash) some days each week. I've been adding spoonfuls of baby food and/or cereal since about 4 months. Both of my sons have a long list of food allergies including dairy, soy and wheat (ingredients in the most common formulas) -from birth, not developed through diet or environment. Special formula is twice as expensive and doesn't satisfy them (I've run out of my own milk and my frozen milk) so in order to fill their bellies and some nutritional gaps, they had veggies and fruits kind of early on. It won't harm them. Baby will let you know if s/he likes it and is ready. They're precious for sure but they're stronger and more able than people give them credit for. Try for a few days and just see what happens, you can always stop and try again later. I don't think dad did or said anything wrong or foolish in that suggestion. He's caring and concerned too!

Christine - posted on 01/29/2013

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Lol good idea. There are a lot of wonderful dads out there, my husband being one of them, but for things like this they need to let mom decide!

Cleaver - posted on 01/29/2013

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well im having a dieticien come over to show us how to make baby food (i am planning on making as much as i can) she told me that shell let him know not to rush him

my husband sometimes tries to compare our kids to his sisters (only person he knows with kids) and the times she fed her kids are crazy when my son was still having mulched foods her daughter was having cut up sausage and they are the same age, and when my son was having the chunky baby foods she was having the same as her mom just cut up.... i dont know what the rush is therell be plenty of time for that

Jodi - posted on 01/28/2013

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I've read that starting them on solids too soon is one cause of food allergies, that their system wasn't ready for the solids. I did have a very hungry baby with my first. Still nursing every 2 hours through 6 months old. I had plenty of milk, but she had a really good metabolism. I would pump out one bottle for her at bedtime and put 1 spoon of cereal into it, but she was about 5 months at that point. That would satisfy her for about 3 hours. I really wouldn't start solids before 6 months. I have 5 kids and they were all fine waiting until 6 months. My second wasn't really interested at 6 months and didn't each much in the way of solids until about 8 months old. Your baby will let you know when he's ready. He'll reach for your food and watch every bite you take. He needs to be able to sit up and comfortably hold his head. Good luck!

Beth - posted on 01/27/2013

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The recommended age to start is between 4 and 6 months, as late as you can make it. I started both of my boys around 4 months, because they were big for their age and really, really hungry, and since they were exclusively breastfed, I wanted something to supplement that a bit. They were also able to sit up in a Bumbo to be fed, and they were able to swallow the food. Not all babies are developmentally ready at 4 months. There's no real reason to start before 6 months, breastmilk is all they need.

Christine - posted on 01/26/2013

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I believe it's at least four months old for solids. Ask your pediatrician as they would know best. He is getting the best food from you right now and that is all he needs for now.

Cleaver - posted on 01/24/2013

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thank you i was planning on waiting until he was showing signs of not being full after being fed

Stephanie - posted on 01/24/2013

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Despite recommendations, I started my little one on solids at 4.5 months with rice cereal. I started because she seemed really hungry in the evenings. I only fed her rice cereal for about the first moth of giving solids.
3.5 months is a little early to start solids. I have heard of rice cereal in a bottle for a 3 month old, but I've also heard that's not good for the baby.
Good luck with your struggle :)

Celeste - posted on 01/24/2013

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AAP and I believe the WHO as well recommends 6 months to begin solids. I tried at 6 months with my twins but they really weren't interested until 8 months or so

Rebekah - posted on 01/24/2013

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I started all three of my kiddos on solids (purees) when they were about 5.5 months. They showed signs and interest in food long before that, but I didn't feel a need to give them "fillers" when they were already getting the best from me.

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