When have your little angels started sleeping through the night? My son (exclusively BF) is almost 3.5 mos and is still on a 2.5-3 hours schedule

Jocelyn - posted on 02/09/2009 ( 43 moms have responded )

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My mom and other moms with kids from the 70's suggest cereal, but we had no luck..any suggestions?

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Safia - posted on 02/09/2009

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i read the book healthy sleeping habits, happy baby, and did the cry method when he turned 4 months old (two weeks ago) I know it's not popular, and the hardest thing my husband and I have ever done, but my son was barely sleeping 8 hours a day, and extremely cranky. It's been two weeks, and he went from 30 min naps to two 2-hour naps.



I put him to bed around 7:00 PM, he wines/cries for about 10-15 mins now, then falls asleep on his own, and wakes up for two feedings (11:45 and 4:00 am), now that I am sleeping, I am a happier person, and a better mom, and he smiles and laughs!



I think many babies are just good sleepers, and some need to learn how to sleep. I started feeding him cereal (because he is in the 95% percentile of weight) and it has made him sleep longer. But I think they first need to know how to put themselves to sleep, and if they learn that, then formula/cereal could help stretch that out.



 



I wish you the best! there are many ways of doing this, do what works for you and your life style! 

Courtney - posted on 02/10/2009

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Sometimes breastfeed babies take longer to sleep through the night.  I wouldn't recommend the cereal, from my personal experience and the research.  The research said it didn't make a difference, and I found my son had bm's in the middle of the night!



My son started sleeping through the night sometimes at about 3 months (about 6 hours, twice a week), and improved steadily until he was about 9 months, when he started sleeping 8 hours a night every night.



Now, at 17 months, he sleeps about 11 hours a night.



Hope this helps.

Angie - posted on 02/10/2009

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i let my daughter set her own schedule. She is exclusively BF. By 2 months she was sleeping 5-6 hours. Then at 2.5 months she slept her first night of 8 hours - for my b-day !  At about 3.5 months she started sleepin in her own room and much longer, anywhere from 8-10 hours. Occasionally she wakes up during the night.



From about 7 pm she cluster feeds, she did this on her own from about 4-5 weeks old. She'll fall asleep anywhere between 8:30 and 10:00 pm. When I put her in her crib she may fuss a little, but without really waking up and I just stay with her and let her hold my hand until she settles down, but I don't pick her up. If she wakes up, but without fussing I just kiss her goodnight and put on her lullabyes. I also let her sleep with her "do-do" - a little blankie that I wear next to my skin for a couple hours every few days so she can smell me if she wakes up.



Somenights she really wakes up and cries very hard when I put her down. If this happens I pick up and check her diaper, burp her, nurse more if necessary. I have learned this means she's not ready for bed!



Most mornings she wakes up on her own making her cute baby talk.



I do have trouble getting her to take long naps. She naps several times/day for less than 45min each time.



 



good luck. i think if your baby is waking up it'sbecause he needs to.

Christi - posted on 02/09/2009

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Babywise! It's an incredible Book I was reccommended when my first daughter was about 4 months old. It worked and she did great. Then 11 weeks ago I had my second daughter and I read "On Becoming Babywise" all over again and started her from newborn on their feed, wake, sleep cycle. It works! She was sleeping 5-6 hours a night at 6 weeks and sleeps a good 7 hours a night now easy. Both my 16 month old and 11 week old sleep through the night accept for random outbursts that are rare. It works great! you can get it on Amazon.com. I am also breastfeeding too. If I wake up and feel too full or leak, I go pump for 5 min on each side but let her sleep!  It usually only takes 3 days to establish a new sleeping pattern. I just did it after all our guests left with my 1 year old whos schedule was all messed up from grandparents getting her up at night without my knowledge! Soon as they left it took 3 days and she was back to sleeping 11-12 hours straight. IF she does wake up crying, I don't get her up. She settles herself back down within 5-10 minutes.

Krystal - posted on 02/09/2009

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my son slept through the night at 3 months and my daughter was 10.5 months. both were breastfed with no formula or bottles. i too believe that every child is different.



good luck!

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Allison - posted on 02/11/2009

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My daughter nightweaned (with significant pressure from me) at 19 months and *still* didn't sleep through the night until after her 2 year molars came in, at around 23 months. Then she'd sleep all night! My son was about 21 months and nursing every hour or two. I starting wanting a good 2 hours at night and encouraged him to not nurse until then - after 3 days he was sleeping all night. No pressure, no tears - yet his 2 year molars had also arrived already. I honestly believe those pesky molars cause a lot of discomfort until they are all the way in,

Good luck!

Shronda - posted on 02/11/2009

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My son did not start sleeping through the night (not getting up for a feeding until morning) until he was one! I exclusively BF until he was one. What I can tell you is when he turned six months, the wee hour morning feedings decreased. He would go for about 4-5 hours at night instead of the every 2 hours. I tried cereal and for me it was a disaster! His system could not handle it and he threw up all over me! Good Luck and sleep is in the horizon!

Miri - posted on 02/11/2009

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Quoting Katie:

I think that is actually really good. I just started the No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley and charted my schedule last night. My son woke up 9 times between 8pm and 7am and he is 6 months old! The book has lots of great ideas, though, so hopefully it'll only be a few more weeks of this...


My son is 3 1/2 months old and I read this book as well...everything sounds so practical and great but I have yet to see a difference. We have a ruitine set up and followed all her suggestions...I think I have to reread the book because my boy's sleeping habits seem to bet getting worse. He used to sleep a 3 hour stretch at first and now he's up every hour and not only for nursing but for comforting as well...by 5am i get so tired that I just let him sleep with me in bed...any advise? btw I plan on exclusively bf him untile 6 months.



 

Michelle - posted on 02/11/2009

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Every baby is different and my little one is 4 months old and her longest stint is 4 hours. Every once in a blue moon I'll get 5 1/2 but it is more likely I get 2 to 3. However, research shows that food and sleep are not synonymous. I'm a researcher and being sleep deprived myself I went searching for information, and found that breastfeeding moms, on average, actually sleep about 45 minutes more per night than formula feeding moms. Also, that the introduction of food does not coincide with increased sleep. Babies begin to sleep better when they mature enough to sleep better. I recently introduced cereal to my daughter in the hopes that she would be the exception to the rule (sortof confirm the myth/wives tale that adding rice cereal helps to sleep) but every night she got it she slept worse so we quit it.



What I found the most helpful, just because it makes the nighttime interactions significantly briefer is a good book on infant sleep like "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Weissbluth. It has made my life significantly easier!! Hope that helps!

Hana - posted on 02/10/2009

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My 5 mo old just slept 8hrs last night. She has done it a couple of time before, but a lot of times she wakes up at least once a night. I usually give her a 5 oz bottle and she sleeps the rest of the night. Be patient, it will eventually happen, until then, sleep as much as you can.

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research does suggest that babies need a 'quota' of breastmilk in 24 hours, if they feed more frequently in the daylight hours they willbe less likely to wake at night.



Babies under 6 months can not wake themselves. they have a genuine NEEDit could be, fear, hunger, discomfort, thirst, lonely!, - offering the breast solves all of these, except a nappy change,



rest assured that he is waking 'cause he needs you.



 

Jocelyn - posted on 02/10/2009

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Quoting Angie:



i let my daughter set her own schedule. She is exclusively BF. By 2 months she was sleeping 5-6 hours. Then at 2.5 months she slept her first night of 8 hours - for my b-day !  At about 3.5 months she started sleepin in her own room and much longer, anywhere from 8-10 hours. Occasionally she wakes up during the night.






From about 7 pm she cluster feeds, she did this on her own from about 4-5 weeks old. She'll fall asleep anywhere between 8:30 and 10:00 pm. When I put her in her crib she may fuss a little, but without really waking up and I just stay with her and let her hold my hand until she settles down, but I don't pick her up. If she wakes up, but without fussing I just kiss her goodnight and put on her lullabyes. I also let her sleep with her "do-do" - a little blankie that I wear next to my skin for a couple hours every few days so she can smell me if she wakes up.






Somenights she really wakes up and cries very hard when I put her down. If this happens I pick up and check her diaper, burp her, nurse more if necessary. I have learned this means she's not ready for bed!






Most mornings she wakes up on her own making her cute baby talk.






I do have trouble getting her to take long naps. She naps several times/day for less than 45min each time.






 






good luck. i think if your baby is waking up it'sbecause he needs to.





Thanks for all the detail and great suggestions!  I might try cluster feeding to see if he's interested..that method has been mentioned several times!

Jocelyn - posted on 02/10/2009

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Quoting Alina:



Hi Jocelyn,






My little girl started to sleep through the night (7pm - 6am) when she was 6 months old. I switched to pumping and giving her a bottle before she went to bed to fill her up a bit more.  When she was 3.5 months old though and I went back to work I also started to wake her before I went to bed to feed her then so that I could get a little bit more shut eye, that worked to help go from every 3 hours to every 4. Good luck and as a first time mom I have learned that they will make their own schedule.





Thank you Alina!

Jocelyn - posted on 02/10/2009

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Quoting Christi:



Babywise! It's an incredible Book I was reccommended when my first daughter was about 4 months old. It worked and she did great. Then 11 weeks ago I had my second daughter and I read "On Becoming Babywise" all over again and started her from newborn on their feed, wake, sleep cycle. It works! She was sleeping 5-6 hours a night at 6 weeks and sleeps a good 7 hours a night now easy. Both my 16 month old and 11 week old sleep through the night accept for random outbursts that are rare. It works great! you can get it on Amazon.com. I am also breastfeeding too. If I wake up and feel too full or leak, I go pump for 5 min on each side but let her sleep!  It usually only takes 3 days to establish a new sleeping pattern. I just did it after all our guests left with my 1 year old whos schedule was all messed up from grandparents getting her up at night without my knowledge! Soon as they left it took 3 days and she was back to sleeping 11-12 hours straight. IF she does wake up crying, I don't get her up. She settles herself back down within 5-10 minutes.





Yeah, I read Babywise and have been doing it since day 1 and he was progressing along well, then I think he hit a growth spurt a few weeks ago and has been eating every 2-3 hours since.  He seems more hungry, so that's the real reason I tried cereal..I didn't want him to miss out on sleep because he wasn't getting enough milk.  My milk supply hasn't gone down or anything either.  I've caught up to his appetite now, but we're still stuck on that frequent schedule

Cammie - posted on 02/10/2009

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Both of my kids were breastfed and didn't sleep through the night until age 1. I think it depends on the baby. good luck

Sarah - posted on 02/10/2009

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my son is 15 months and still breastfead, and is not sleeping through the night :(

Jenefer - posted on 02/10/2009

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Hi, my daughter is 3.5 months too. She sleeps from 7p.m. has a feed at 11.00 and then sleeps through till 8.30 a.m. She started sleeping for 8 hours at 5 weeks, but before this woke every 3 hours for a feed. I give her a bottle of organic forumla before bed and breastfeed the rest of the time as I couldn't seem to get enough milk into her. It's a payoff between exclusive breastfeeding and not sleeping through, or a bottle of formula and sleeping through!

Patricia - posted on 02/10/2009

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My son is 17weeks old and from week one he slept from 10pm to 7am but now he at times wakes up at 10 in he morning. I was quite concerned about him not having anything to eat through all this time but i was advised not too wak ehim up cause i used to wake him

Amanda - posted on 02/10/2009

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My daughter is almost 7 months and she still doesn't sleep through the night unless she's had a REALLY long day. And she gets solids just 2 hours before bed time.

Courtney - posted on 02/10/2009

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I'm on my second breast-fed baby and have found that "cluserfeeding" in the evening works like a charm.  This method suggests feeding frequently (every 1-2 hours)in the late afternoon and evening to ensure the baby has the calories needed to make it through the night.  My 8 week old is sleeping 7 hours (just as his older sister did) on this method.  Another thing to consider is that night time waking may be more habitual than hunger.  If your little one is waking at exactly the same time every night, chances are he's not hungry as much as he is used to waking at night-  I highly recommend checking out the "Baby Whisperer" books.  The author suggest a number of ways to get babies sleeping thru the night quickly and without methods like "crying-it-out"  Both my babies are great sleepers and eaters and I attribute this (at least in part) to the baby whisperer method :)  GOOD LUCK!

Jocelyn - posted on 02/10/2009

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Quoting Shawna:



My son is 3 months old and sometimes will sleep 5 straight hours (9pm-2am) then go back to bed and get up again at 7am. Alot of the time tho he will feed every 2- 3hrs. I try not to let him sleep too much in the evening (5pm-9pm)





Yeah, he's done that (sleep 4-5 hours) but never strung them together.  I also try not to let him take another nap after he wakes up around 5, so he ends up going down for the night at around 7-8

Jocelyn - posted on 02/10/2009

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I only tried cereal once before bedtime, and not since then.  Part of me was concerned that he was just hungry and my milk wasn't keeping up with his appetite.He's a good healthy weight and happy as an baby I've ever seen so I am ok just waiting for him

Angie - posted on 02/10/2009

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Every nurse and doctor I have asked insists your go with the baby's demands when BF. you never know exactly how much they get each time. if they are asking for it it's because they need it.  A schedule is good and healthy for naps and a bedtime routine is essential.

Angela - posted on 02/10/2009

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Yeah, glad to see someone mentioned "Babywise" My youngest slept 6 hrs at 6 weks and 8 hrs at 10 weeks and 10 hrs by 13 weeks. He has slept well ever since. He is almost 8 and 1/2 months now. He was also exclusively breast fed until 6 months. I think the demand feeding they teach in the hospital is crazy. Get them on a schedule right away. It does take commitment and a schedule on your part, but I think the results are so worth it!

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I agree, please research Babywise... you really have to be careful or your baby could become dehydrated as Crystal stated or even failure to thrive.

Also, as far as the CIO method, to each their own for sure, but most all experts who support CIO say you should not start doing it until 6-9 mo. and before then all baby's crying should be responded to as there may be an actual need there and so they learn that you are there for them.

I personally feel there are many other gentle ways to get your baby to learn to sleep, they just tend to take more time and patience.

Good luck!

Alina - posted on 02/10/2009

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Hi Jocelyn,



My little girl started to sleep through the night (7pm - 6am) when she was 6 months old. I switched to pumping and giving her a bottle before she went to bed to fill her up a bit more.  When she was 3.5 months old though and I went back to work I also started to wake her before I went to bed to feed her then so that I could get a little bit more shut eye, that worked to help go from every 3 hours to every 4. Good luck and as a first time mom I have learned that they will make their own schedule.

Crystal - posted on 02/10/2009

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Does no one do their research on babywise? It's not even written by a real doctor and a lot of babies on the babywise "schedule" have become dehydrated because you are not feeding on demand anymore, which is what you should be doing. Breastfed babies especially should be still getting night feedings at this young of an age.

Please do your research, Mr. Ezzo isn't a doctor and just wrote his book off of his opinion and nothing more, none of his methods are researched.

Katie - posted on 02/09/2009

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I think that is actually really good. I just started the No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley and charted my schedule last night. My son woke up 9 times between 8pm and 7am and he is 6 months old! The book has lots of great ideas, though, so hopefully it'll only be a few more weeks of this...

Richardsalena - posted on 02/09/2009

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My son is 13 months old and he didn't sleep through the night until he was 12 mo. and he was totally off of breast milk. I saw a hugh difference once we switched to Whole milk.



We were in the same boat as you, up every 2-3 hours until he was 6 mo. old. I have heard that it is acutally a good thing. Babies that wake up often to feed during the night are less at risk for SIDS. It is actually a defense mechanism and at least for me, once I went back to work full time, the nightly visits were significant bonding time for us.



Good luck, but this too shall pass.

Shawna - posted on 02/09/2009

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My son is 3 months old and sometimes will sleep 5 straight hours (9pm-2am) then go back to bed and get up again at 7am. Alot of the time tho he will feed every 2- 3hrs. I try not to let him sleep too much in the evening (5pm-9pm)

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Also, co-sleeping/bed-sharing was a life saver for me. At 6mo. when my son started waking every 1.5-2 hours (growth and/or developmental spurt and/or teething I guess) I about lost it mentally. So at the advise of my OB we started bed-sharing and LOVED it! I could sleep, my son could nurse. By 2 yrs. old we transitioned him to his own toddler bed that is at the foot of our bed. I am pregnant with our second and he was kicking me in the back and tummy through the night. So I told him, look I need you to sleep in your bed now (it had been at the end of our bed for months for him to play in and get use to) because you are kicking mommy too much and I need my sleep. He said, "Otay", (ok) and we've not looked back. I would nurse him to sleep in there at first, but now I can't get in and out since I am so big. So I nurse him most nights to sleep or close to it in our bed and move him down. Although lately he only nurses for a bit and I say, want to go to your bed w/your water and he says "Otay" or want to go to bed in your own bed and have daddy lay with you until you are asleep and he'll say "Otay". It's worked out SO surprisingly easy. He does still come get in bed w/us around 7:30 am, but sleeps in there from 10-11pm until about 6:30-7:30 am every night. He's 25.5 mo. and still nurses when he wants.

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By the way, you can search on this... there have been many studies on giving kiddos cereal to get them through the night and from what I have found not a single one proved it helped and in fact found it often did not as it often upsets tummy's.

Try cluster feeding instead... nursing every hour for 4-5 hours prior to bed-time.

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It depends on what you consider through the night too. Experts (Drs.) consider 1 stretch of 4-6 hours sleeping through the night. So based on that my son was doing that my 9-12 months. But, sleeping through what I consider to be through the night, probably more like 15 mo. when he'd only wake maybe 1-2 times. Then by 18 mo. he night weaned himself.

Gillian - posted on 02/09/2009

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Quoting Krista:

My lo was sleeping through the night continuously since 1.5 months old... but she had formula at night.... they don't suggest cereal at such a young age right now, and one article I have said that cereal may not help them sleep longer... if you are comfortable with it, you could try formula, but otherwise just try getting in good naps and tiring out your son before bed. My lo also didn't go to bed until 11pm to start


FORMULA will not make them sleep longer my 2nd son had formula at night for that reason and he still woke 2-3 times a night,



my 3rd son had no formula and he slept through the night from 4 weeks, when I say through the night from 9pm till 6 am!!!!

Krista - posted on 02/09/2009

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My lo was sleeping through the night continuously since 1.5 months old... but she had formula at night.... they don't suggest cereal at such a young age right now, and one article I have said that cereal may not help them sleep longer... if you are comfortable with it, you could try formula, but otherwise just try getting in good naps and tiring out your son before bed. My lo also didn't go to bed until 11pm to start

Crystal - posted on 02/09/2009

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My ODS slept through the night starting at 9 months
My ODD slept through the night starting at 14 months
My YDS slept through the night at 11 months

Catherine - posted on 02/09/2009

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My 1st born didn't sleep all night until 1 week past his 1st birthday ( right after weaning) and my second is still waking at least once a night, he is 13.5 months. I keep thinking he will sleep all night when he is weaned but he doesn't seem to want to give it up just yet. But at 3.5 months for both, it was the same as you!!

Gillian - posted on 02/09/2009

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Your either gonna have a good sleeper or not, I have 2 good sleepers and 1 terrible sleeper I have done nothing differen with each 1, cereal will not help. It will happen just be patient

Melissa - posted on 02/09/2009

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Research hasn't proven that cereal works to help them sleep longer and solid foods aren't recommended under 4 mos without specifically prescribed by a Ped. Even then, it is usually restricted for reflux babies.



I'm sorry you are going through this. What does your Ped recommend?



My daughter started sleeping in 5+ hr stretches at 4 or 5 weeks old. She actually slept for almost 10 hrs last night.



Do you have a solid bedtime routine? If not, that might help.



I started with our bedtime routine at a month old and it has worked every single night. I started noticing longer stretches around that time.

Stephanie - posted on 02/09/2009

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I think it just depends on the baby. I wouldn't recommend giving food just to get them to sleep longer. My dd started sleeping better around 15 months, but she still does not always sleep through the night, and she's 26 months. 2.5-3 hours sounds about right for a 3.5 month old.

Jaime - posted on 02/09/2009

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My first born boy didn't sleep through till 9 months and my girl is now sleeping through at 9 weeks! Both were exclusivey BF. My son needed to be rocked in his pram for an hour each night to go to sleep (until he was almost 1) but my daughter puts herself to sleep every night. My best advice would be to relax, let your angel set his own pattern, be grateful for any sleep you get and keep reminding yourself that it wont last forever. Best of luck.

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Well...I think I have an exception to the rule...my baby started sleeping through the night (6 1/2 hours) when she was just 8 days old.  You can try doing cluster feedings at night, where you feed him every hour from about 5-9 pm...alot of babies will do this anyway, so he might already be doing this.  When my little one started waking up again at night, we started cereal with her, and for the first few nights, she did fine, and then was waking up again, so I also started giving her cereal in the morning as well, and this has seemed to help her.  (She's also chunked up a lot in the last month, too, from having more than just breastmilk, I guess!)  :)  Good luck!

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Hate to tell you my two were also BF and did not start sleeping through the night until they were almost 1.

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