When is enough?

Floorashley - posted on 01/27/2011 ( 16 moms have responded )

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About what age should i stop putting my son on the breast? I dont know if i want to stop breast feeding all together or at a certain age just pump and use a bottle. Any advice on that? Breastfeeding was a new experience for me and i thought it was going to be harder than it is, now im honestly afraid of getting bit (when he gets teeth lol he's only 2 months right now).

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Amanda - posted on 01/30/2011

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I did ALOT of reading before my son was born and found that education is the best weapon against every breastfeeding problem. I even learned how to prevent soreness and/or remedies to stop it before it got bad. I am fortunate that any problems I did end up having I knew how to fix quickly. I was quite concerned about him biting but I really love the bond we have from nursing and intend to nurse until he wants to wean.

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Sarh - posted on 02/01/2011

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If you want to use bottles (pump) then I suggest introducing (if you haven't already) maybe one to two bottles a month. I first only wanted to breastfeed until my bubby was 6m, but as that got closer I realized I wasn't ready to wean, I wasn't even ready to pump and give it to him from a bottle, aside from the one or two a month when Grandma would watch him for me to have a break/date night with my fiancee. I was TERRIFIED of him biting me, when he was teething he would bite (with out teeth) and that would hurt, but now that he has 2 teeth he only bites when he is tired or we are fighting to get him to nurse or go to sleep... over tired! He rarely bites, there is no need to fear it. He will be 8ms on the 10th and is getting his top teeth in, I'm hoping him and I both will be ready for weaning at 12m.
They 6m is the minimum, but 12m is best.

Jennifer - posted on 02/01/2011

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Really, that's a personal decision. I allowed my first child to wean when she was ready to -- she nursed to 3.5 years. I have no regrets about that. My son is 4.5 months old and I intend to allow him to do the same.

As for the biting, there are ways to teach your LO not to bite. It can be shocking at first, but it does pass. Check out this link for some insight on biting: http://www.kellymom.com/bf/older-baby/bi...

Merry - posted on 02/01/2011

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Being bit didn't make me want to wean him! It hurt yes, it was a shocker too cuz I didn't expect it, but I think it would be mean to him to say, you messed up and bit me now you can't have it anymore. So I just looked up tips on how to stop him biting, and soon he never did it again. It's really just a bump in the road now, I couldn't imagine missing out on all this time if I quit on him when he bit me.

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People change is all I'm really going to say on this.

I weaned my twin girls at 15 months (started weaning at 13 months cuz we were on vacation for 3 weeks when they turned one) and am still nursing my son who will be 3 at the end of March. Neither is automatically right OR wrong. It's really about what is best for your baby and works best for your entire family.... and that doesn't necessarily look the same for ANYONE.

Congrats on making it through the first 2 months!!!

Celeste - posted on 01/30/2011

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I agree with the others, the nursing relationship is between you and your child. Please take a look at the links that Laura posted. Honestly, your baby is only 2 months. It's hard to look ahead right now. I'd just make small goals and keep an open mind. Educate yourself, as well!

As far as biting? My daughter never bit me. My twin boys, one did, but I was able to stop it. He never bit me again.

Plus, I think that nursing past one is a lot easier than nursing an infant. You're not their main source of nutrition (but it does still have a lot of benefits). There are no hard and fast rules to nursing past 1.

Floorashley - posted on 01/30/2011

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but being bit obviously doesnt hurt bad enough to make you want to quit? i know in the beginning i was getting sore and i was almost ready to quit but i didnt and i am so glad i didnt.

Amanda - posted on 01/30/2011

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I nurse my 10 month old who has 7 front teeth. he started teething at 6 months. I have never been bit while nursing. He has bit me twice when he got mad. once he got distracted and i tried to make him eat the other he was tired and didnt want to eat.

Merry - posted on 01/29/2011

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Hi Ashley!
I know that's ALOT of links.....lol. But here's why I just had to include each one!
I believed that babies breastfed until a year and then drank cows milk. I had no idea anyone did differently until I got on this forum and started thinking about all these women.
After I read the links I just posted I started thinking about it more and more, now I couldn't imagine if I had stopped Eric at a year!
When he was about ten months I thought I had better begin weaning him, cuz I thought you had to be done AT 12 months. But I was so upset because I could feel that he wasn't ready to be done, and I felt I wasn't ready to be done either.
It just felt wrong. So I went to a la leche league meeting, and found out alot about breastfeeding past one year. And I also read all these links and I decided that for sure I knew we weren't done yet.
I did alot of reading, researching, and asking other moms and everything I found backed me up that I needed to keep going.
There is so many health reasons to continue, in fact it's a health risk to STOP before 2 years!
And I found there is intense emotional reasons not to stop at a year for both mom and baby.
And then I learned that the world average age of weaning is actually 4 years old!
I was shocked, I thought most babies were weaned by one or maybe two years, but four!
This was eye opening to me and I started looking into the cultures of breast-feeding and how America is so different then many other countries.
I decided that I just couldn't justify making Eric wean so young just because we are in America!
I figure I'd let him decide when he is done, that way I know I didn't do anything to short change him on his time breastfeeding.
Yeah, it's still weird to imagine Eric breastfeeding when he is three years old!
Yes, it still feels weird when he is now able to say boobs!
But I KNOW that this is normal, just not in my country, so I know it's not wrong.

Read the links, there is SO much awesome information on there!
And then all I can say is, breastfeed your son until he tells you he is done! That's what women are doing all over the world, maybe just not what you see so much in your area. But, look around here, there are MANY moms living in America, England, Australia, etc who are also breastfeeding their kids until they decide they are done.

Floorashley - posted on 01/29/2011

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Thank you all. I guess it is a personal decision. I guess we'll just see how it goes. Im like you Codie i think breast feeding after a year is a little much. It doesnt really seem right but a lot of people do it. What were some of the benefits of going past the one year mark?

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Nurse your baby for as long as you both want to. My daughter is almost 17 months old and still nursing quite a bit. For a while she was biting me when she was very tired, but that passed. Not all babies do that, and you can teach them not to. Your baby is still so young, don't worry yourself with what you should or shouldn't do and just take one day at the time.

Codie - posted on 01/27/2011

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ok i'm going to be honest here. coming into this community and bf my baby, i thought bf past one year was so weird and i thought it was really rare. upon reading conversations in this community, i discovered it was more common than i thought...actually, it's very common these days! i opened my own conversation about it asking why women do it and learn MANY good reasons to continue bf over the one year mark. in actuallity, i don't think its weird at all now. i think its great women bf as long as they do and you can do and you want to, i say go as long as you can. its a very personal decision and should be made based on what you alone are comfortable with. some women i thought were very helpful in answering my questions about bf over one year were: sara d(admin), celest clark, and laura hoffman. they are very nice and very well educated on the subject, they really know their stuff! good luck to you and your bf experience, however long it may be! :)

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That's totally up to you. I never dreamed of nursing a toddler and now my daughter is 20 months and still nursing 3 times/day. I'm also 16 weeks pregnant. Set small goals and when you reach them, set new ones. My original goal was one year. My new goal is 2 years. As for biting, you can teach him not to if he tries. Just come back here and ask for tips :)

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