wow!! I can't believe how something as beautiful as breastfeeding could be inappropriate even while covered

Jesica - posted on 10/07/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )




I can't believe how uncomfortable breastfeeding is for some people. I've come to realize that it's not until recently that breastfeeding is considered better for the baby. My mother in law enlightened me the other day that it was unheard of in her time to breast feed and that she thought that it might be time for me to wean my 5 month old daughter of off the breast and onto the bottle (which by the way she wont touch with a 10ft pole). It's not only that though. My dad totally freaked out that I was feeding my daughter while shopping at the mall. I was completely covered and there wasn't any slurping noises or anything but he still insisted that he take my 4 year old elsewhere because it was too awkward. Even called me selfish and immature for not leaving the mall and feeding her someplace hidden. You gotta be kidding me!!?! I ripped him a new one and told him he's just gonna have to get used to me taking care of my children. I thought family was supposed to support you not down you.


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Stephanie - posted on 10/09/2010




Are you guys in america? I'm in Australia and breastfeeding is really pushed. When i was pregnant I didnt want to breastfeed but the midwives said it would be good to try for at least 6 weeks and I'm glad I did cos after the initial difficulties i ended up loving it!
Everyone has been really supportive of me and the general message in the community is that breast is best. Although I do get the odd disgusted look when feeding in public, and once I was winked at!!
Breastfeeding rates in oz are really low so health professionals love it when I say im breastfeeding cos they dont hear that very often, especially from young mums!

Sarah - posted on 10/09/2010




There sure are some CRAZY beliefs out there when it comes to babies and breastfeeding! People are uneducated about the benefits of breast milk and therefore say stupid things. Unfortunately I don't think that'll change very quickly. But in the meantime, stick to your guns and do what you know is best!! Nothing beats breast milk for babies! After all, it's natural - that's what breasts are for!!!

Jodi - posted on 10/08/2010




My sisters and I were all born when formula was considered better than breastmilk and moms were encouraged to use formula right away, thankfully, my mom had the ability to realize that it was still HER decision so she, and my entire family have been incredibly supportive! General society...not so much, snide comments, dirty looks and even being asked to leave a restaurant with my 2 month old. Unfortunately at the time, I wasn't as confident (and perahps a bit angry and jaded) about the issue and didn't stand up for myself...but oh well.

On a side note, my grandmother, in the 50's I believe, was told not to hold her children until they could roll over for anything other than feeding or changing. It was believed that they were *that* fragile, of course, we now realize just how ridiculous that is, why this hasn't become a ridiculous notion as well I have no idea...

Aicha - posted on 10/08/2010




Sorry to hear you have a unsupportive family how rude of them BREASTFEEDING IS BEST FOR BABY KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK

Georgina - posted on 10/08/2010




Where i am, in New Zealand, our breastfeeding organisations are trying to ban the bottle and make formula a presription thing.
BF is a big thing here. Our midwives push it really hard, it makes it abit hard on the mums that never come into milk though.

Lori - posted on 10/07/2010




You know, when I think about it, it makes me feel sorry for the generations of people who have gotten this warped sense of what breastfeeding is. Cultures where it's normal and accepted... it's not sexualized or treated as shameful. Here, so many have lost the sense that it is natural and beautiful, and I just find that really sad. How many kids have ended up with health problems that could have been avoided if they'd been fed naturally, just because somebody taught their mothers to trust science more than their bodies? Once formula was invented and people started accepting it, it's like our culture completely forgot what was natural and best for humans since the beginning of humanity... I can only hope that things continue to swing back in the other direction - I think once we reach a tipping point where enough women are out there breastfeeding, then these kinds of opinions will start to fade. I can only hope! So sorry you had to have this coming from within your own family!

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wow im sorry to hear this.
i have had nothing but possitive comments on my breastfeeding! i feed in public too... even feed my daughter at my husbands work in their lunch room and no one commented! i am always discreat and cover up out of curtisy but have on occassion just had to whip it out and feed when i didnt have a cover and no one has cared.

my work place is supporting me feeding when i return to work and my family didnt even think about formula as it was just a given that i would breastfeed.

i hope your family changes their mind hey. its crazy to think its still so tabu for so many people!

Michele - posted on 10/07/2010




Been there too! I was born during a period when formula came out and doctors were full of themselves recommending that over breast milk. Consequently, I was not BF and my mom and dad were mortified when the day we brought my infant baby girl my OWN home...I decided to feed her with all family members present. Excuse me that I have a brand new human being here that needs nourishment. Sorry I can't serve little tea biscuits and coffee but I"M BUSY HERE!!!! I remember being discreet but my mom still goes on about "how could you bf in front of your father in law. Was then asked for months, "are you weaning her yet?" Heard all the brass comments, "does that baby still get the tit." Disgusting. I ignored them all and bf til my daughter was 21 months. Get tough now because as time goes on the comments increase in disgust factor. Good luck! P.S. You do sound tough though. I remember having to rip my mom a new one on a few occasions.

April - posted on 10/07/2010




it's hard sometimes because we feel like we don't have the support that we need and deserve. my family is's not just my dad. my mom is constantly saying "when are you going to wean?" or "I can't wait until you wean". i already explained to my family that we're going the self-weaning route...and they don't understand that self-weaning means they do it themselves!

Kayla - posted on 10/07/2010




Your own dad? are you kidding? no way?!? I cant believe it either. The way i see it is, why else would god give woman these big ugly things that hurt them sometimes with things called MILK DUCTS?!? and after having a baby, why is it that your boobs fill up with milk?? I think technically it is unnatural to not feed a baby like that cuz bfeeding is obviously what god intended seems how thats how he created us women!!!!!!

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