Is it time to wean my 14-month-old?

Jennifer - posted on 03/05/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )




Dear ladies,

I need advice. I have been blessed to be able to breastfeed my daughter for 14 and a half months, despite having severe fibromyalgia which requires me to take medication. The satisfaction and bond my daughter and I have gained from the experience have been indescribable. Recently my husband traveled for business, and I had to take care of my 4-year-old son and my daughter by myself. This led to a major flareup of the fibro, which I am still recovering from. During the flare, the nursing became quite a hardship, as I needed every moment of sleep I could get, and my daughter is up several times a night to nurse. I have been anxiously waiting for her to sleep through the night as nearly every doctor promised she would by one year, but it has not happened yet and there is no sign of it happening in the near future.

My husband will need to travel again in a couple of months, and I am hoping to avoid having another flareup, since the fibro has affected all aspects of my life and my ability to care for my children. I am currently reading "The No Cry Sleep Solution" by Dr. Pantley in an effort to get my daughter to sleep through the night without needing to nurse. It does not seem to be working very well. The first three nights she registered her protest at not being nursed by waking up and screaming every half an hour. I did eventually end up nursing her, because I felt just terrible. I am wondering if I should wean her altogether so she doesn't expect to be nursed at all, but I know she doesn't want to give it up yet and I don't want to traumatize her.

Does anyone know of any ways to eliminate the night nursing without stopping altogether? I've heard many people talk of nursing only before bed and nap, but I don't know how to get to that point. I'd be very happy nursing her just before nap and before bed, or even more during the day, as long as I could sleep through the night. I guess I'd prefer to still get to nurse her sometimes without having my sleep so interrupted. Any advice would be extremely helpful!

Just as a note... co-sleeping is not an option for us because of the medications I need to take -- the nighttime ones are sedating and it would be dangerous for her to be in bed with me, so I am looking for other options. Thanks in advance for your help!



Rebecca - posted on 04/25/2011




Hi Jenn,
Although I have no words of wisdom, I wanted you to know you are not alone in this. My daughter will be one this week and I am still nursing multiple times a night. She recently did three nights of six hour stretches and I felt like a new woman. You need to do what is best for all of you. This to shall pass. Wishing you lots of encouragement!

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